Men faking orasms

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  1. 7x6

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    Something just occured to me while reading one of the many squirting threads but it was completely off topic so I thought i'd start a new thread. Maia said "my husband can orgasm without ejaculating, so the ejaculation and orgasm aren't necessarily the same thing for men either". My girlfriend believes exactly the same thing about me.

    This is because I find it kind of hard to cum while she finds it very easy. At the start of our relationship, half the time she loved the fact I could fuck for hours but sometimes she'd get very frustrated that I hadn't cum by the time she'd had three or four to the point where it was ruining the sex.

    The stress of knowing that she was desperate for me to cum made me even less likely to so I hit on the idea of faking orgams and explaining that sometimes orgasm and ejaculation weren't connected.

    The weird thing is that this took some of the pressure off and I was able to cum most of the time but I still sometimes resort to the deception, like for example a few nights ago where I'd been awake for almost 24 hours, drunk too much and she suddenly turned into a nympho. I wasn't going to turn down the feel of her tight wet pussy sliding upand down my cock even though I knew the chances of actually ejaculating were pretty remote...

    Just wondering if any men here hace ever done this or any women suspect their men of doing it.
     
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    Yes I have suspected a partner of faking it!
     
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    The same thing happens to me, 7x6...I think we may never get used to it until we find someone who can handle it. That's why usually when I know something's going to happen, I just don't jerk off at all (which is hard in itsself) and usually it's easier to get off. But yeah, when you're using a condom, apparently it's hard to tell the difference whether a guy's faking or not.
     
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    I fake it, have faked it many times. But I don't do it for the same reasons that women tell me that they have faked it (because many times we're just not doing it), but to enhance the pleasure of a partner, and then I can keep going. I am not sure it is such a fake though, because I really do feel and engage in the crescendo of my partners' pleasure.
     
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    People put way too much importance on ejaculation and not nearly enough on men's secondary (not ejaculatory) orgasm. For me, the pleasure involved in the whole sexual experience (I edge, so an encounter usually takes hours, not minutes) can come close to besting any actual climax, which sometimes seems, well, anticlimactic.

    And, yeah...I've been known to fake it, especially when I was younger. These days I just wind down: no need for pretense any more.
     
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    That always worked for me before but I've since had a few girlfriends who seemed to see it as a personal insult. Is it a coincidence that both of them are multi-orgasmic?
     
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    Good sex shouldn't be a competition, but it often is :rolleyes:

    Is there any point in trying to discuss how little your sexual response depends on external factors (any external factor) compared to what's going on in your own head and with your own body? It's not an insult; it's a fact of life.
     
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    yeah, i've done it a few times, but they were all with condoms so they weren't able to REALLY tell. But After about 45 mins - 1 hours u can tell that after she comes a few times, that those moans start turning into harsher sounds that are more like pain. When you're not just a little extra long, but pretty thick, it starts taking it's tole on the girl. Switching condoms for extra lube helps a little, but eventually, i just say i came, and they are too worn out to the wiser.
     
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    Yeah, I've faked.
     
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    meh, i don't mind if a guy doesn't get there.
    the childish tantrums just add pressure,
    and make it less likely to happen.
     
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    I'd never fake with yuuuuuuuuu, dolfette [bats eyes coquettishly]
     
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    i would with you :wink:
     
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    Perfect! Marry me!
     
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    That's good stuff.

    'Faking' it not for the sake of ending the sex, but because the male orgasm is itself a mighty orgasmic trigger for females.

    Contract the PC muscle to mimic the same penis movements as when you ejaculate and 'fake' all the stuff that comes with your own orgasm (grunting, etc ..). And then continue fucking ...
     
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    ok
     
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    Your exuberance bodes well.....


    :biggrin1:
     
  17. dolfette

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    i'm saving the excitement for after i get the diamond.
     
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    Clever girl.

    I think, though, that my passion may already have faded. Ah well, trophy-time....
     
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    Yup, when necessary :)
     
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    I always found this funny. I mean...how could you get away with it?
     
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