Men not into kissing...

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  1. pierceplace

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    I met this guy who is basically my fuckbuddy, and for me is so weird that he's okay abot having anal sex, oral sex... but kissing is such a big deal! WHY?
    Someone has the same... preference? idk
     
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    My bf does not do that either. he will kind of kiss my lips but no tongue. And I hate it. I want to kiss deeply !
     
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    from what I've read and been told some people view kissing as something so specifically intimate that sharing them with anyone other than their mate is considered off limits.

    It's as if one can see themselves having sex, but as long as they do not kiss, they may feel that they are saving part of themselves for their mate only.

    It's what I've been told many times. I am sure there are many reasons why people do not kiss during sex.
     
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    Men who won't kiss either have loose dentures or are concerned about their bad breath.
     
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    Wow. At the last two posts. Maybe they just dont like it? Afraid of Germs? My BF has no cavities and brilliant white "movie star" teeth and he does not have bad breath either. We are in a LDR but I would HOPE he was not with another. :(
     
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    Or maybe because I am missing 14 teeth (all in back on top and bottom) and need partials and that turns him off? He sure likes my oral skills though. :D
     
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    I've never liked kissing. It just doesn't do anything for me.
     
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    You made my day :D
     
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    Thats an instant turnoff for me.... if a man's willing to be sexual with me, but not kiss, I won't give him a second glance. Just my thing...I'm not a microwave oven... you want me to have sex, kiss me, make out with me, THEN I'll be ready to do awful, WONDERFUL things all night.
     
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    Kissing is far more intimate and personal than anal intercourse.

    Even straight hookers always charge extra for it...:biggrin1:
     
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    I tend to agree with Domisoldo. To some, this may be a way of compartmentalizing sex from real intimacy.

    He's on his own when it comes to knowing whether straight hookers charge more for kissing though :wink:
     
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    Not to sound repetitive (which is exactly what i'm doing lol) but i've been told the same thing. That there's a huge difference between fucking and kissing. Kissing seems to be one of the ultimate showings of affection while fucking/sex is just purely bumpin uglies.
     
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    I find it easy to find hookups. Very hard to find people who like to kiss. For a while I had sex workers I would compensate just for making out. I had several I liked, but with Craigslist the way it is I can't advertise for this anymore and have no one now. All my regulars aren't in the biz anymore. I'd rather kiss than do anything else personally.
     
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    "Bumpin uglies"? Please translate. Thanks.
     
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    You know....

    making the beast with two backs
    batter the corn dog
    taking the skin boat to tuna town
    do the dirty
    do the deed
    dip your wick
    hide the salami
    get your rocks off
    mattress mambo
    get it on
    rumple the foreskin
    check the oil
    bury the one eyed worm

    ......have sex? :biggrin1:
     
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    And now for a totally honest answer. :biggrin1:

    I love to kiss... to me, it IS the most intimate way to bond with someone. Kissing is a way I show my affection for someone. I can spend hours kissing someone, making out, and be totally content even if no actual penetrative sex is had.

    I cannot kiss someone I'm not attracted to and I have been known to hold back from kissing someone I've had sex with because I didn't feel anything other than horny at the time. It's just a line I cannot cross when there's no there there. Does that makes sense? All in all, it's made me more selective in my partners and more conscious of when I'm thinking with the little head, which I am getting better at. It means I have less sex but the sex I do have is better quality and more fulfilling.
     
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    i have been known to kiss for 3 hours str8 until i have to pee or eat. just saying....
     
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    Thanks for all the examples, but why the term "bumpin uglies"? Why uglies? Sorry, I don't get it from a literal pov. :confused:
     
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    if you're not getting kissed by the dude you're having sex with, you're nothing more than a booty call or some ass on the side who only gets texts at like 2am lol
     
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    I personally find nothing enjoyable about kissing men, but will gladly do so if it turns my partner on.
     
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