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Thank u guys!

Im learning a lot...

Yep i do confess that i have stereotype of men...sorry, culture and etc...

But i did not experience cheating (that i know) yet...

And trully would expect that man did not use urges as excuses...to cheat.

I'm concluding that sexologist was right but that is natural only to some men to behave like that...:wink:

Thansk!!!!!
 

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i personally am in a relationship, and a serious one at that. this is my first serious relationship too. ive seen through friends the effects of cheating. I personally don't see cheating as "normal", especially if you say you "love" this person. i will not say that I am not attracted to other woman, because yes, there are some gorgeous girls out there. my gf is one of them, i love her truely and would never ever cheat on her. if i seen to have some sort of "urge", i make as a test of my loyalty to my relationship and her. in the end, there might be innocent flirting, very minimal if any at all, but thats all that goes on. flirting is something that happens no matter what. when im "flirting", i dont even notice, hell, my gf one time told me i was flirting with a waitress of ours we had at a restaurant and i was like "huh.....i was just talking". so, flirting can happen at any time.

my gf and i have incredible sex, and its the best sex i have ever had, and she tells me the same. we are a great fit for eachother and for me personally, i need only one girl to meet my needs. she turns me on so much, and so quickly, she honestly does it all for me.
 

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Nearly 32 years together and I have never cheated on my wife. I have been tempted to a few times, like when she cheated on me and when sexual intercourse wasn't happening but once or twice a year. We wished that we had figured out that my girth was the issue many years ago. We are still working on the penetration issue but there has been some progress.
 

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Every person cheats for a different reason. So I am not one to know what they all are. But I cheated once, I think more out of curiosity than anger, and it really was a terrible experience.
At least in the male department. I think there are men that cheat and men that don't. I am clearly one that doesn't. And the reason this is, I simply cannot look at the woman I love and tell her over and over again that nothing happened or that I love her, when I know that I cheated on her. I lived through that once, and the guilt for me is hell and definitely not worth the best sex in my life. But that is my opinion. And it has no bearing on my testosterone levels.

I have had plenty of urges, but now I just share them with my girlfriend and we both imagine what we would do with the girl I just lusted after if we caught her. Of course it's all fun and games, but it does drive the urge away and we both have fun imagining.
 

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Thank you guys!

Wow...i'm sooo surprise by your answers!

Trully never would imagine that (because i've learned that because men does not mix love with sex most would cheat when a strong urge happened- and still be back and love his partner and etc.)

For sure i'm not a kind of women that would close my eyes for a cheating partner and say: "Oh...i have to accept that he has needs..." I would not stay in cheating relationship.But never was surprised by men who choose to cheat when knew the news from their partners or gossips and scandals.

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I personally think most "sexologists" are opportunistic crackpots. This is especially true for those who make sweeping generalizations. :wink:

Of course some men find it intensely difficult to be faithful, but some men are also intensely monogamous and find cheating on their spouse unthinkable. There's just as much variation among men in this regard as there is with any other trait.

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Don't believe everything you read in Cosmo! ;)

But really almost all people need variety in many parts of their life. A man wanting another woman could indicate a need for variety in the sex life between the two.

But who said monogamy was necessarily the proper way to love anyway? Why can't people have a loving relationship with someone, but maybe have different sexual relations with others?

I think it comes down to the individual person as to why they would have the urges. When it comes to individual behaviour, talking to the individual always helps a lot more than generalizing people to rationalize one individual's behaviour or urges.
 

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Cheating and wanting the excitement of being with new sexual partners is very normal for both men and women. Monogamy is abnormal, biologically, psychologically, if not culturally. However, feeling jealousy is also very normal. Wanting a stable disease-free relationship is normal. Wanting to possess another person and make them your own, also normal (albeit a little sick). and the way you phrase your question "how many women do men need to satisfy their needs?" is somewhat leading. This implies that men who cheat or want to be with someone new are unsatisfied. Unfortunately a lot of people think like this and this is where some of that normal, common jealousy stems from.

I agree with Stud Hunter, women are just as prone if not moreso to cheat. They just typically don't like to admit to it. But both sexes do it, it's very normal, and I don't think asking "how many is enough" is the right question at all to be considering. It's not a numbers game for most people, rather it's the thrill of having something new, or taboo, or novel. I don't know why some people have a hard time grasping this. Nobody thinks it's weird if a man after eating steak every night for two weeks decides that as much as he loves steak he'd rather order a pizza on Friday...
 

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It is wrong to generalize , one way or the other. Cheating and "variety" as some call it, is not the norm, neither the rule ,nor the way to be. Depends on the values of the person involved, and his degree of conjunction with his / her partner.
In my view, if I am involved w a woman, I do not want nor need a cheap thrill, that, will end up jeopardizing me and my mentall conection and phisicall harmony w her.. It is not about the fact that I could get caught. It is a deeper feeling of destroying what we built emotionally with the addition of an ingredient foreign to our lifes , that could alienate, in many forms , the existence of that which I consider cherished, my Girl.

Monogamy is not the norm in the animal kingdom, because most animals are not inteligent beings, like us. There are those that do practice monogamy, i.e penguins, albatroses , mallard ducks, certain species of antelops , and I am sure others I can not name now , but what makes us capable of choosing monogamy is our intellect.
Some choose not to be monogamous, but that is a choice, not a "right way" to be. Nor it is morally better to be monogamous. doing stuff on another person's back, betraying trust, that is bad. If single, do anything you want, cheating on a relationship is a choice.
Cheating is not a normal behavior, normal being "the norm" . It is a choice, and, some take that route, some others do not.
 

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If a woman is giving me enough sex, then there would be no reason for me to look elsewhere.

Of course, I want other things besides sex (my dinner cooked and cooked well, ironing done, clothes and dishes washed) :p so any of those can make up for a lack of sex.

In summary, if I have a girlfriend, I don't cheat. I would also like some emotional connection and snuggles from a gf :D
 

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I don't feel any need to cheat on my gf, maybe because she's giving me all i've always dreamed about.

I think that the one of men who need to cheat is a myth, even though we MIGHT feel the ancestral need to diffond our chromosomes.
 

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Interesting posts one and all...:33: What I find for myself in this day and age with all the sex in avertizing, porn, how females dress etc... that it does make it harder to be faithful. Sure my levels of tosterone levels make it harder at times too, but that what ole molly palm is for :wank: . That being said, I sure wouldn't like my partner cheating on me so I don't cheat either.:28: And I do wonder when I see an atractive female what it would be like to experince sex with her, what she is like in bed etc...:scratchchin: and im sure that works with females as well.