Hi, guys.
I'm pretty sure I am far from the only male who for the longest time felt that as a man I was expected to always be able and willing to have sex. I actually believe that I didn't begin to question this belief until I was well into my 40ies, which in hindsight seems very late.
For whatever reasons, I was under the impression that as a man I should always want to have sex when the opportunity presented itself. Even bad sex is better than no sex, was pretty much my motto.
Having this belief meant that I, in my current way of thinking, was acting in a inappropriate way. This usually happened when alcohol was in the picture, for instance being approached by some woman I for a fact knew was already in a relationship.
I somehow thought that being approached, the only way to react was to be flattered and "comply" with her wishes. As a man I was expected to want to have sex when approached pretty much regardless of the circumstances.
Thinking back, I went with women who if approached by today, I would turn down, either for being too drunk, too "forward" or just not my "type" (whatever that is).
Having turned 50, this was something that I started to think about and I wonder how many younger guys out there still think or feel the way I did when I was younger.
I'm pretty sure I am far from the only male who for the longest time felt that as a man I was expected to always be able and willing to have sex. I actually believe that I didn't begin to question this belief until I was well into my 40ies, which in hindsight seems very late.
For whatever reasons, I was under the impression that as a man I should always want to have sex when the opportunity presented itself. Even bad sex is better than no sex, was pretty much my motto.
Having this belief meant that I, in my current way of thinking, was acting in a inappropriate way. This usually happened when alcohol was in the picture, for instance being approached by some woman I for a fact knew was already in a relationship.
I somehow thought that being approached, the only way to react was to be flattered and "comply" with her wishes. As a man I was expected to want to have sex when approached pretty much regardless of the circumstances.
Thinking back, I went with women who if approached by today, I would turn down, either for being too drunk, too "forward" or just not my "type" (whatever that is).
Having turned 50, this was something that I started to think about and I wonder how many younger guys out there still think or feel the way I did when I was younger.