No, you know lazy straight guys. Many straight husbands want nothing to do with the running of the household. All they care about is that the house is clean, has ample food, and that their laundry gets done and put away.
This is not really the issue. Most men learn early in a relationship with a woman that she wants CONTROL of everything...
Its not that I don't want to help out around the house.... its that I am not interested in being told that everything I do is wrong. I have had women tell me I am wiping up a mess incorrectly.
Men's attitude toward that is simple... you want it done
your way? then
you handle it.
Its that simple.
As for the more rudimentary childcare necessities, some men don't make the time in their day for children. I'm not saying they are negligent but some dads never change a diaper, do a feeding, take part in potty training, or take a kid to soccer, piano, football, or cheerleading practice. These same dads often catch crap for leaving work early so that they can make every game, play, and competiton. If these men want to do more, then they need to speak up. I am sure most moms would let them.
Some men do not, that is true... but then, MOST men I know with children are the primary money earners. They work like dogs to make sure the family has the money they need. And often, they work themselves into an early grave.
I get a little sick and tired of hearing women complain how little men contribute to the family... when, in fact, working long hours and focusing on a career that has the promise of significant increases in earnings IS SUPPORTING MY FAMILY.
Keeping the lights on, the fridge full, and clothes on everyone's backs... paying for the gas sucking SUV, the karate lessons and the little league equipment, the Internet, computers, gameboys and spa treatments for Mom is absolutely supportive of the family.
Truth be told... if Mom needs help taking kids to all the events she has scheduled in their lives... she should QUIT scheduling so many damn events and let the kids entertain themselves. Stop
inventing more work.
This persistent denigration of male contribution is a large part of the problem.
Many women in the US have become very difficult to live with. Its become a huge control issue, and a de-valuation of everything male...
I know several men who married European women ( not mail orders brides, women they actually met abroad) as their second or third wives... and they all have the same experience... that a European woman is far easier to live with than their American wives... because European women are not convinced that all men are always wrong...nor that everything masculine is worthless.
You can actually buy T-shirts and posters such as the "Evolution of Authority"... which shows a series of footprints showing an ape's foot, then a man's bare foot, then a man's shoe print, then a woman's stiletto shoe print.
Or the one that states, "if a man says something in the forest, and there's no woman there to hear him, is he still wrong?"
These kind of jokes are popular and funny because they accurately reflect our society today.
By and large... American women today have no real idea how controlling they tend to be. How critical and demeaning they are toward the men in their lives.
