Men who feel uncomfortable with nudity and seeing other men's junk in locker rooms, Why?

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I have stated elsewhere that, as also noted here, the CAMARADERIE that nudity in locker rooms inspires is healthy for any man's psyche. Imagine a world where being small-wicked or really fat was just something other guys accepted; the out of shape guys needn't feel bad in such a society (and yeah I know it'll never happen). Fully half the world's problems could be solved if men could stop being flipped out by the vulnerability that comes with locker room nudity. Imagine (if you can without barfing) Putin and Xi showering together after a workout, just shooting the breeze. Or any dictator; if they weren't so threatened and could cope with nudity, surely they could cope with the world's problems without feeling they had to kill other people.
Perhaps this seems farfetched, but I think the nudity issue is symbolic of the problem.
 

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I have stated elsewhere that, as also noted here, the CAMARADERIE that nudity in locker rooms inspires is healthy for any man's psyche. Imagine a world where being small-wicked or really fat was just something other guys accepted; the out of shape guys needn't feel bad in such a society (and yeah I know it'll never happen). Fully half the world's problems could be solved if men could stop being flipped out by the vulnerability that comes with locker room nudity. Imagine (if you can without barfing) Putin and Xi showering together after a workout, just shooting the breeze. Or any dictator; if they weren't so threatened and could cope with nudity, surely they could cope with the world's problems without feeling they had to kill other people.
Perhaps this seems farfetched, but I think the nudity issue is symbolic of the problem.
Are you looking to establish Putin and Xi's cultural outlook when it comes to LGBT individuals in order to replicate this ideal situation in the Western world? Because that's the only way that would be possible over there.
People are predatory, voyeuristic, and exhibitionist, and they make entire well liked threads about it here. The price of sociocultural progressivism, the ability for non heteronormative people to exist, is the right for the heteronormative to opt out as they are not in a position of enforcing their status quo.
People tend to forget the good old days tend to come with terms and conditions that weren't so great.
 
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I could care less about anyone seeing my nude. I've got a normal looking cock and balls. I'm very average. I'm neither proud nor embarrassed by being average. We all have dicks. Some larger and some smaller.
 

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Are you looking to establish Putin and Xi's cultural outlook when it comes to LGBT individuals in order to replicate this ideal situation in the Western world? Because that's the only way that would be possible over there.
People are predatory, voyeuristic, and exhibitionist, and they make entire well liked threads about it here. The price of sociocultural progressivism, the ability for non heteronormative people to exist, is the right for the heteronormative to opt out as they are not in a position of enforcing their status quo.
People tend to forget the good old days tend to come with terms and conditions that weren't so great.
I'm with you on that.
My comments about Putin and Xi were really just a fantasy that they might stop being such tyrants if they could just relax about themselves and abandon whatever need they have to be the "big boys" in the locker room of the world. But now I suspect our conversation has left the topic .. : (
 

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@opinionman with his useful comments as always.
Consider Romans would enslave the people they conquer and have public’s baths regularly. Who says that they doesn’t take a bath naked together? Sounds logical after a blood bath. I guess if you knew enough to confirm or deny that you would fall over a bullet.
 
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@opinionman with his useful comments as always.
Consider Romans would enslave the people they conquer and have public’s baths regularly. Who says that they doesn’t take a bath naked together? Sounds logical after a blood bath. I guess if you knew enough to confirm or deny that you would fall over a bullet.
yeah, and those Roman bullets were killers! : )
 
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Well, I wasn't expecting a grammar critique, of all things! Yeah, you're right, it's dialectical, rather than accurate. It felt odd when I wrote it to be honest, but I wasn't going for correctness. It should be "was sitting there".
Haha. I live in the North where the dialectal is very strong. So strong that generally people don't know that stood and sat are both past tense.
Having been schooled outside of the UK we would have been in trouble saying ''She were stood outside while they was sat inside. ''
When I hear it spoken, it stops me in my tracks.
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In Germany a lot of the natural warm springs have facilities that ban costumes. The men and the women spend their time relaxing and there is no one making a nuisance of themselves.

You want to come in here, take off your clothing.
 

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Haha. I live in the North where the dialectal is very strong. So strong that generally people don't know that stood and sat are both past tense.
Having been schooled outside of the UK we would have been in trouble saying ''She were stood outside while they was sat inside. ''
When I hear it spoken, it stops me in my tracks.
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Gotta love language development, esp the curious and fascinating history of English.
 

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Bet you somehow the vast majority of "towel dancers" have no issue being nude at home alone or with their partners. Perhaps what needs to be explored is why some men think being exhibitionist or voyeuristic are prerequisites for self body acceptance.
I'm a tall, athletic, lean shower and grower with a body pushing 40 that outdoes most men in their 20s. It's a gift for me, my wife and any woman she decides to invite, and that's it.
 

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I'm with you on that.
My comments about Putin and Xi were really just a fantasy that they might stop being such tyrants if they could just relax about themselves and abandon whatever need they have to be the "big boys" in the locker room of the world. But now I suspect our conversation has left the topic .. : (
I bet those two would be far from the "big boys" in the looker room :joy:
 

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This discussion is for those straight men who feel uncomfortable seeing or being around other men nude in gym showers, locker rooms, spas, etc.

It puzzles me why some straight men feel awkward at being in front of a nude man. This situation has been featured in movies and TV shows in a comedic way. The man tries his hardest to don't look down there or he complains when his buddy undresses in front of him. I always thought that if you're not attracted to men and are not aroused by men's nudity, then it should be the most ordinary and mundane thing. After all, looking at a dick is like looking at a nose or an ear, just another body part. At least, that is what I thought.

For those who feel uncomfortable, why do you feel that way? What makes you uncomfortable at seeing other guys' dick? What makes you feel like you have to avoid being nude with buddies or other men in casual scenarios?
I can tell you from a personal experience, no guy in my gym (Goodlife fitness in Canada) feel uncomfortable watching other guys naked (at least in my gym), in fact many guys pretend that they are doing something purposeful in the locker room just to watch that short getting down from guys who have just finished working out! Lol
Moreover, I have witnessed a lot of guys undressing while looking around to see who is looking at them, to be honest with you this type of guys bothers me, because if you don’t feel comfortable getting naked in the locker room why the heck doing it and getting bothered when others are looking at your butt? The other type of guys who bothers me a lot are ones that like trying so hard so no one can see that butt or that junk! I mean, you don’t have to take off your underwear in front of us then struggling to keep yourself away from our field of view! Just keep the underwear go to the shower and take another underwear with you and change in the stall… People need to start learning how to behave! But to he honest with you the most chill guys in the locker room are the ones who just don’t give a fuck about who is watching and who is not! they just hang around naked and enjoy their time and take things easy on themselves
 

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I have a contrarian view here.

I don’t think capitalism or religion is to “blame” or “credit” for these sorts of variations. In my experience, doing so is often folks attaching new “sins” onto concepts they already don’t like.

“just another thing capitalism ruined.”

i tend to view this issues more broadly. After all, European countries tend to have very liberal views of nudity, are capitalistic, and have a “smut” culture in line with Penthouse as well.

I remember a college professor in my film studies class talking about cultural variations of modesty by describing a visit to Japan. In the video stores, which included pornographic vids, nudity was shown freely——but little stickers had been applied to all the images with public hair to cover it. Public hair was considered taboo enough to cover, but not breasts and butts and genitals. Now, that was his illustration. It may or may not be accurate broadly. But I always remembered it as an example that social taboos are cultural and very specific. Not tied so tightly to religious or economic histories as we light think.

the fact is that pubic single sex nudity was FAR more acceptable in the so call puritanical past of the US. The 50s and before. During times when we’re told everyone was a prude and everyone was sexually repressed. This is clearly evident in the nude swimming and common open room showering that many here lament as lost “comfort with our own bodies.” But the US was deeply religious and capitalistic back then. So how can this be?

in my opinion, the broad sexualization of our culture is what lead to the changing of these taboos. In a culture where everything is sexualized—from art to marketing to politics—is it any wonder that younger men would view getting naked in a common male space as potentially sexual? Or at least feel uncomfortable enough to choose modesty?

is it homophobic for a man to choose to not participate in group nudity because they think others would view him as a sex object in those settings? The fact that so many complain about their decision to choose modesty in forums like this pretty much answers that question for me.

perhaps society would be better if everyone felt free to be nude and not worry. Maybe modesty in general or modesty in single sex environments is dumb and counter productive.or perhaps a society’s current collective views on modesty are reactions to their recent past (repression leading to periods of less modesty, hyper sexualization leading to periods of more modesty.)

I’d just encourage everyone to think about it outside of broad abstractions like capitalism or religious Puritanism or homophobia. In the end, the best explanation in my mind is that “the demand among members of LPSG for attractive men who get nude in semi public areas far exceeds the supply.”

…. Actually, I guess that’s what a capitalist WOULD say……. LOL.
I agree with you, I have watched how nudity was not a big thing in the 19th and 20th centruies from physical exams in army to public showers to straight guys wearing jockstraps to the Russian Tsar Peter the great swimming fully nude before the communist revolution
 

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I agree with you, I have watched how nudity was not a big thing in the 19th and 20th centruies from physical exams in army to public showers to straight guys wearing jockstraps to the Russian Tsar Peter the great swimming fully nude before the communist revolution
WAAAAAY before the Communist Revolution.
 

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For me personally I would be uncomfortable with it because depending on how they look I may get aroused. Im straight but my dick seems to get aroused by any nudity so yeah
That just means you need to get used to it more. You're not offended. You're scared something might happen. If something does, just blow it off as something that just randomly happens to you. All guys know that this happens from time to time. As long as you're not staring or wanking, you're fine.
 

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That just means you need to get used to it more. You're not offended. You're scared something might happen. If something does, just blow it off as something that just randomly happens to you. All guys know that this happens from time to time. As long as you're not staring or wanking, you're fine.
For me personally I would be uncomfortable with it because depending on how they look I may get aroused. Im straight but my dick seems to get aroused by any nudity so yeah
Plus, if anyone should notice, you can ignore them, but if they comment in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you can always laugh it off with the great line: "Yeah, damn thing has a mind of its own." That should defuse the situation.
 

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I guess because it's a judgement free zone... The alarm might go off if you're packing
I'm really sorry to hear this, tho' I've noticed a lack of locker room culture at Planet Fitness. Very few guys showering. Maybe it's the inexpensive month rate...
Nonetheless, this is the perfect chance to free yourself and just fucking walk to the shower naked. The other guys will deal fine with it.