Mental Ed

[pablovian]

Does anyone suffer from what I call "Mental Erectile Disfunction"? I can be horny as hell and have a great erection, but then when it comes time to "use it", I go limp. Has been happening to me since forever. First time I was gonna have sex it happened (18 years old). Was with a friend, had a boner all night and when we woke up, we went to have sex and my boner just died. This has really happened to me my whole life. Only really worked a few times. Just wondering if anybody else has/had this issue.

 

[art]

Only happened to me the first time I topped. Performance anxiety. We just went back to kissing and making out and so forth. Eventually, he gently sat on my stiff cock. It felt amazing. Anxiety over!

 

[Motion-of-the-Ocean]

I used to have the same issue a few times back when we were swinging. I'd be all worked up and anticipating playing with the woman and when it came time for penetration, I'd start to loss my erection. Most of the time I chalked it up to the condom, since after putting it on was usually when I started to lose it, but a lot of it was also nervousness at a new person and new situation. Despite the illusion of seemingly being comfortable with having multiple-partner sex with almost complete strangers, the truth was it was actually quite stressful mentally the first few times for many reasons too lengthy to get into now. But fortunately, I was lucky to have very understanding partners and 99% of the time after more softer foreplay and patience, they were able to get me to stay hard long enough to completion.

So, yeah, most of the issue was in my head (the big one) and after getting used to the concept of swinging, I rarely had the issue again in our later Lifestyle years unless the woman requested I wear a condom.