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Although does being forced into counseling by your mother count? Because if so I got deep deep issues on that subject which probably only added to my shit mental health.
 
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I've been seeing a therapist weekly for about 3 years now. It's been a long road but I finally feel like I'm fairly sorted. After being on various anti-depressants over the years I've just completed my first month without any. It feels like taking the stabilisers (training wheels) off your bike - there are wobbles, maybe the odd fall but overall it's a positive.
 

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I have been mentally ill since birth , according to my family . Me ? . I feel fine . It's others who are making the judgement call , though i must confess , that i have indeed sought professional assistance from time time . As a descriptive , I will borrow a line that i heard some time ago . Mad , bad , and dangerous to know , pretty much sums me up , though i have mellowed quite a bit as i get older . Strange thing is , that when I'm out , and taking a good look a society , day to day , I'm beginning to think that it's them that's fucked , & i'm normal . Think they call that denial .
 
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Picking up from my post #15, I’ve been without SSRIs since the weekend. Even though I tapered all the way down to 5mg, I’ve been getting brain shivers, sometime pretty harsh.

But it’s all good, because I feel myself still waking up to life. I really, really just hope I can go for a while before I have to start back up again with the SSRI. I did experience a super angry moment yesterday AM, and it lasted about 30 minutes. I knew it was happening and I enjoyed it. I actually enjoyed the feeling of anger raging inside me. I was alone in my car, commuting to work. I felt road rage toward nearly every driver out there. And I enjoyed it. :emoji_japanese_ogre:

But I’m not a danger to myself or others. Didn’t do anything dangerous, didn’t antagonize anyone and I knew it would blow over.

I’m horny more often, too. Not in a creepy way, and I have not jerked off in 7 weeks and have only looked at porn 5 times in the past 7 weeks for a total of about an hour.

I’m horny in a real life way, if that makes sense. Whether it’s from no SSRI or no porn/masturbation, I cannot say.
 
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And here’s something scary: at work I’ve been finding mistakes that I’d made over the past who-knows-how-long that I didn’t know I’d made. Not big mistakes, but sloppy careless mistakes, more of style than substance. I was sitting at my desk yesterday, looking at my shoddy work, trying to figure out how the fuck I let myself slip up.

I think the SSRI can have a huge benefit when it’s needed, but I also think it comes with a side-effect of numbing the senses. I was in a functioning fog for a long, long time. A couple years, at least.
 

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  • New Zealand has become the first Western country to design its budget around well-being over economic growth. [AP / Nick Perry]
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I've found myself on the brink of depression, many times - but I've always managed to pull myself back before falling into that particular pit of despair. In my case, physical activity plays a significant role in overcoming those negative moments. Whenever I feel sad, I exercise. I can honestly say that sadness has fuelled at least 25% of the exercise I've done, over the years.

What also helps, is allowing my passions to dominate my free time, before negativity has a chance to creep into my head. Often, it's in the quiet moments, that negative feelings come to the surface. I stay away from news channels and social media, as they make me miserable. I distract myself with things I love, rather than things I hate.
 

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Studying and Experiencing Mental Illness

I feel very grateful to have found this path. Bu


“Share your struggles: you’re not alone”
“Take care of yourself first and foremost,” says psychologist Mariam Aly, who shares her own experience with mental health challenges during graduate school. “The irony is not lost on me,” she writes: “Despite studying psychology and being very aware of what maladaptive thought patterns and habits can do to people, I let maladaptive thought patterns and habits nearly kill me.”

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All counseling really is is opening up and explaining things to someone. If you have your partner then when that bad moment hits just talk to him honestly and let it out. Cry or rage just let it let it out. His part in all this is to be able to let you do it and not take anything that might be aimed at him personal. Once it’s all out you will feel so emotionally and physically exhausted though so be prepared for that. It’s almost like the super crash after a very bad high. I failed at counseling because I never trusted the counselor so I never opened up like I needed to. But each person is different and what worked for me might not for you. But I do understand the rage though.
 

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All counseling really is is opening up and explaining things to someone. If you have your partner then when that bad moment hits just talk to him honestly and let it out. Cry or rage just let it let it out. His part in all this is to be able to let you do it and not take anything that might be aimed at him personal. Once it’s all out you will feel so emotionally and physically exhausted though so be prepared for that. It’s almost like the super crash after a very bad high. I failed at counseling because I never trusted the counselor so I never opened up like I needed to. But each person is different and what worked for me might not for you. But I do understand the rage though.

The thing is, he feels like he wants to say something, he wants to *do* something other than listen. I can relate, when he feels like that I want to do something to fix it too. But there is no "fix".

An objective party with no emotional attachment is actually really helpful sometimes. I feel guilty when I make my loved ones sad, and no matter how hard they want to put on a strong face I know it hurts them to see my like this.
 

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The thing is, he feels like he wants to say something, he wants to *do* something other than listen. I can relate, when he feels like that I want to do something to fix it too. But there is no "fix".

An objective party with no emotional attachment is actually really helpful sometimes. I feel guilty when I make my loved ones sad, and no matter how hard they want to put on a strong face I know it hurts them to see my like this.
Does he know that he can say something or breakdown? Because male ego kicks in and he could be being strong for because he doesn’t think he can break down
 

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Does he know that he can say something or breakdown? Because male ego kicks in and he could be being strong for because he doesn’t think he can break down

Of course, we've had quite a few long, hard cries together. He also was kind of enough to tell me that even though he will surely listen and be there for me, he thinks talking to a professional wouldn't be a bad idea.

I don't think he's wrong.
 

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Of course, we've had quite a few long, hard cries together. He also was kind of enough to tell me that even though he will surely listen and be there for me, he thinks talking to a professional wouldn't be a bad idea.

I don't think he's wrong.
If it works, like I said. For me I couldn’t bring myself to trust them, but my fucked up shit is from the war.
 

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My first wife was/is, diagnosed Bi-Polar Schizophrenic. We married in our early 20's. I, in those days before then had never heard of mental illness.

I grew up in a neighborhood where every kid and family knew each other, went to school with the same kids through primary years and secondary school till I was 14. I started Year 1 when I was 4....ahead of my time :). I knew Ian, his Dad died in Viet-Nam...My Dad had to go find his little sister late at night at 14....many stories of hardship..many stories...many ..many.

When did we go from eating brains, tripe and ox tongue, because it was all there was to eat back then when my Dad and Mum grew up...through the depression and war years? My Dad tried hard to get us to eat what he grew up on........BLECHHHH...no way. Potatoes and Onions and Tripe............

Maybe it's just me, maybe I missed something while growing up, maybe I was one of the lucky ones, and so where all my neighborhood friends from those times.

My life went from enjoyment to pain nearly overnight because "experts" believed lies from a crazy person...another story no one will believe.

Where did all of this pain come from in the world, when did we ever get to the place where we think in life everything needs to be perfect with no pain?

I'd love to tell a tale................but we all have our own. Nothing is ever perfect or imperfect. Not all of it can be "fixed" to suit us.

We just need to move on.

I prefer the tale of the 7 Castaways :)....

What is funny, is humans expect to survive on a planet which has a history of creating extinctions on a regular basis :)...you have to see the humour in that...surely :)
 
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