Mention The Big Cock or Not?

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Being newly single and enjoying sex again I was wondering on how very hung men feel about having a new sex partner mention how big they are…or fixate on the size? I don’t want them to feel they are just a big cock with a body/mind/face along for the ride. I also don’t want to ignore something so fun and obvious.

Thoughts?
 

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The answer is containted in your post:
I don’t want them to feel they are just a big cock with a body/mind/face along for the ride.

Don't make it an issue. Appreciate it as part of the total package and you'll have no problems. Anyone who puts my schlong in the spotlight can be sure that I will end the evening early, go home alone, then throw out their number.

I have other attributes and don't want someone who is out with me solely for the size of my cock.

 

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Now, (aside from not playing with strangers) if someone mentions the size of my package/cock they get ignored.

For most of my 20s, they got what they wanted because they were a sure hole to pound.
 

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Sorcerer said:
Eh, a cock for a hole. I guess if both body parts are cool with it...
Some the minds associated with the holes questioned the holes, once in private; but most of holes convinced the minds that everything would be cool and more...
 

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I would love for someone to say (without being asked or coaxed) I have a big cock, how much they want my big cock. It's hot. But maybe its an unrealistic want and I've been watching too much porn.

I wouldn't want someone constantly going on about it, ideally just a few sly and secret jokes outside the room and some frantic shouting involving words of four and fewer letters within the bedroom. Please? :)
 

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MyDogsDad said:
Being newly single and enjoying sex again I was wondering on how very hung men feel about having a new sex partner mention how big they are…or fixate on the size? I don’t want them to feel they are just a big cock with a body/mind/face along for the ride. I also don’t want to ignore something so fun and obvious.

Thoughts?

Well, im not a man or a man with a big cock...

But will give my opinion anyways...:tongue:

I had just one big cock and took me 5 months to know he has one...it was a great surprise for me...but i did not tell him he was big until the 3rd time we have sex...I did not want him to feel vain and because for sure every woman he has said he was big and all of that...

I like surprises and aprecciate the man have with me regardeless of his size...but for sure i do enjoy fat girth and he will know that because i'm being pleasured and express that very clearly...

Don't mention that you have a big one is my opinion.
 

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MyDogsDad said:
Being newly single and enjoying sex again I was wondering on how very hung men feel about having a new sex partner mention how big they are…or fixate on the size? I don’t want them to feel they are just a big cock with a body/mind/face along for the ride. I also don’t want to ignore something so fun and obvious.

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What Sorceror said is key. Being objectified for your cock alone is very shallow and unfulfilling--been there and done that. It's best when a partner appreciates you for YOU and that fact that you have a big dick is just an added feature that adds to the overall experience of being with you.

I know my cock is larger than most, so I don't need someone to tell me that. If they notice--FINE, but my cock is not all I have going on and I HATE when someone ONLY focuses on it. It takes a bigger, more complete human to be humble and kind and loving with ANY size dick. I know lots of guys with perfect bodies and big dicks and they are total turn-offs because they are conceited jerks.
 

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I love when a woman is really into my size, but like others have said it's not cool if that's the main thing she's focused on. The woman I'm with now has made it clear she likes 'em large, and it's not uncommon for her to comment on my size and what it does for her. I think it's hot - but she makes me feel like a man with a great cock, not a cock with a man attached to it. That's the key.
 

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Being the quiet, shy person i am most people dont expect me to be hung. So i rather enjoy suprising people rather than make it common knoweldge.
 

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I think the only real time you should have to mention it is if by some chance she doesn't see it. If a woman doesn't really go down on me or spend any real time downstairs (it happens, not all women are porn stars), the I feel its necessary to let them know that they might be in for a bit of a surprise.
 

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I won't actually mention it at all until I actually get into the "clothes off" position. Then when we actually begin having sex I will ask about how far I can penetrate and whether it hurts, etc. I like to talk during sex. It's a good time to communicate very precisely. The last thing I want is for it to hurt and for her not to say anything about it. You never know though. That might be exactly what she wants. That's good to know too.
 

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I think there's a healthy balance between feeling proud and expressive about having a big dick, and just plain being an ass about it. I've made mention of my size before with my friends. If they thought I was bullshitting, I would prove my claim without a problem, and of course they'd react to it. I'd laugh it off. Maybe it's because, somehow, I don't look like someone who would have a big dick, whatever prototype that would resemble.

Then there are people like Jonah Falcon who are clearly fixated on their size, to the point that it drives people away.

Naturally, I think women are hip and cool enough to appreciate size and even to be bold enough to talk about it without getting all flustered. Some just don't have that Puritanical drive that equates big size talk with evil morality. You just have to "feel" the woman in question out; she'll let you know with her body language, her postures, and her conversation if she's comfortable with her (and your) sexuality or not. If she is, go for it. Don't be a clod and whip it out on the table. If you get into sex talk, bring it up then.
 

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Wrat said:
I won't actually mention it at all until I actually get into the "clothes off" position. Then when we actually begin having sex I will ask about how far I can penetrate and whether it hurts, etc. I like to talk during sex. It's a good time to communicate very precisely. The last thing I want is for it to hurt and for her not to say anything about it. You never know though. That might be exactly what she wants. That's good to know too.

Hehehe...

In my experience it was very very nice surprise... when touching the guy with the fly open, passing the underwear stage and etc...and touch the base and going to the shaft and the massive girth...I was feeling in a very unknow land...the "thing" did not have an end..:eek: .kept going and going ...i was touching with my 2 fingers...testing the water thing...i did not even touch the head ... i was very surprise with the penis "anaconda" in my mind...

99% average and 1% big...very nice surprise indeed the first time i blind touch a big penis! :tongue:
 

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I've always made sure that they get an inkling of what I have to offer before we start to undress. I make sure that hold her tight enough for her to feel what is waiting inside. I have seen every look from "you're shitting me" to "uh oh" to "oh boy!". If I get the "uh oh", I will talk to them about it.
 

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hm. this makes me wonder if i screwed up by saying something very obvious about it the first time wiith my guy...I was like :eek: as soon as he disrobed. I guess I didn't believe him when he said he had to use magnum sized condoms.