wristthickxl: Well, in spite of finding it now embarassing, I'll make a true confession...When I was younger, ie still in my twenties, I would occasionally drop a hint or make some insinuation if I really wanted to make sure I could go to bed with a guy...This was pure insecurity...Though I'm considered handsome and have a nice body, I was, like many gay men and perhaps just many young people in general, still doubting of myself at that age...I thought a big, fat cock would seal the deal so to speak..and, in most instances, it did...nowadays, I wouldn't mention it...on the other hand, part of me also wonders why not - if the situation is appropriate - and if our reluctancy to do so still isn't some kind of hungophobia. What I mean is: given the stats here, for most of us, our dicks are our best features...I'm told I have a really handsome face, great smile, good bod, etc...but when guys see my dick that's where most of their focus goes...at least the first half hour....So why can't we tell people about our best feature??