awellhungboi: [quote author=Max link=board=meetgreet;num=1049811000;start=12#12 date=04/09/03 at 00:19:51]It seems pretty well everyone agrees that the answer to Icarus' question is no, we don't mention the size at the start of a new relationship. It would seem like blatant self-advertisement in any case.
If you're in a different context, not moving between various shortish-term relationships, but committed to leaving sex until a long term partnership (marriage?) is established ... I think the ground rules ought to be a little different. What I have in mind is guys who are big enough to cause potential problems to at least some partners. They ought to know, reasonably early on in the relationship, that there may be an issue.
It's not that difficult to convey the scale of things without having to go into the business of mentioning numbers.[/quote]
I agree, Max. I wouldn't, if on a date, say as the waitperson served our salads and brought over the oversized peppermill, "You know that looks like what I have in my pants."
"Check, please!"
But I have had one occasion, similar to what you mention, where it was relevant to discuss the matter. I was seeing someone and she and I had kissed, lightly made out, but never done anything else. One night we were hanging out--laying on her bed, our clothes on, just listening to music . . . her dad was home. Anyway she and I were just chilling, but, of course we started talking about sex--about experiences we had and things like that. She told me that she was pretty small and found penetration by, as she put it, 'more than a finger,' painful. So I told her that I was large. Later I saw her looking at my crotch and the look in her eyes told me that there was no way she and I would ever have a physical relationship. But I'm glad I told her rather than, you know, fumbling around one night in the back seat of her car and potentially hurting her. And I certainly didn't tell her to impress her because it certainly didn't.
