Messed up from porn

[twoton]

But eeeerrrmmmm.... Somehow, somewhere, you must reach a point that you are totally fed up with porn and become immune for it?

Nope. That's why it's an addiction. There is no end point. It just gets harder to get the relief.

 

[twoton]

For me I know it is an addiction because
- I do it to excess on a regular basis
- I continue to do it, even though I want to stop
- I continue to do it despite all of the negative effects it has on my life

If I compare it to alcohol, I like to have a drink, but I can easily go months without having one. I am able to have one drink and leave it at that, or to have more if I choose. But I never feel a compulsion to drink. With alcohol, I know that I am in control. With porn and other compulsive sexual behaviors I know that I am not in control.

I know that there are lots of people who can enjoy porn without a problem, just as I can enjoy alcohol without a problem. But I also know that I have a problem with porn.

Have you taken any meds for anxiety? That might help--the procrastination, the boredom, the feelings of being overwhelmed--the porn provides stimulation and an escape.

 

[lookn4horsehung]

I am not a professional. While the replies here may be well intentioned, I am not sure this site would be the best place to look for answers. This is strictly my opinion. But I would be extremely cautious of whom I discuss this problem with. In a group therapy session I attended, was a man who had a porn obsession. He had basically dealt with the problem, but his wife would not let it go and was using it as a weapon against him (she obviously had her own issues) I felt so bad for the guy, she was making his life miserable.. Also, after a year in therapy and no progress says to me you might be not taking the suggestions and actions being given or if you truly are doing the work, you may need to find another professional. Recognizing you have a problem is to be commended. Looking for a solution with the appropriate help would be advised.

 

[stustu]

Perhaps you are not seeing the right therapist for your condition.
I would also suggest that you limit yourself to boundaries immediately and
for the sake of your family commit yourself to those boundaries.

 

[twoton]

O.k. I'll fully come out and say--it's a problem for me. It's a daily struggle to stay away from it. It can be an hourly struggle. It can be a moment by moment struggle.
One motivation that seems to help me: My abs/core seems to be tighter and more defined, I'm less prone to snack on junk food, and I'm more productive at work* and home when I've been away from it for a week. Maybe this is 100% placebo, maybe I'm delusional, but I'll take what I can get.

*I never, ever surf porn at work.

 

[stustu]

Look into SSA (sexual addicts anonymous).
They understand your problem.
I think there are chapters in most cities and on line.