Metrosexual: is there a female equivalent?

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  1. naughty

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    Hi,

    I am sure my now we have all heard of the term, "metrosexual". He is probably the man most likely to throw Carson of the "Fabulous Five"'s gaydar totally out of whack! LOL! He is: A male peacock, A bird of paradise, Beau Brummel's spirtual child,and probably knows the best colorist in NYC. He looks good and he knows it. But... is there a female equivalent? What would she look like ? What does she do? What kind of person takes them on without feeling that queasy deja vu?
     
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    Maybe a really sporty woman, hair in a ponytail... interested in her cats but doesn't give a rats ass about her appearance. Maybe no makeup and lots of baggy attire.:smile:
     
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    I doubt, in truth, there's a male version naughty.

    In all honesty I think the term 'metrosexual' has been intentionally invented by homophobic heterosexuals to legitimize effeminate behavior in men they're trying to mainstream into a societal norm.

    I refuse to acknowledge the term.
     
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    IS there something wrong with trying to fit people into society? If it allows less hate in the world, shouldn't one welcome the word?

    I mean, the word allows guys who like getting manicures, and dressing nice, a way to fend off roughnecks who see them as gay. Claim METROSEXUAL!!! ALL will back off:smile:

    And, I am actually being somewhat serious.
     
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    What is the female equivalent to a "metrosexual" man? Is it a woman who takes great efforts to look good, or is it more like a woman who doesn't pay mmuch attention to her looks, has a subscription for Sports Illustrated, drinks beer and whistles after hot-looking men?

    I think whatever of the above we understand as the equivalent, they both exist. Yet I think those will consider their lifestyle as their normal way, and won't describe themselves in a special term. Neither do I think you'll find many men describing themselves as metrosexual, although they might be by the standards we use.
     
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    I hear you, Claire.

    I use it totally tongue and cheek. I am surrounded by men of taste and breeding on daily basis who are totally comfortable in what society might consider a contradiction. I really wonder if people have the same issue with them that they used to have with Martha Stewart.I think people of that sort raise the bar, and many do not like it .
     
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    My other take on this is that the term Metrosexuality is used in a derogative way, meaning near-gay. Or straight, but gay-acting. Something of that kind.

    I am fine with men carrying themselves well, and taking care of their appearance. Considering the fact that I need very little time in the bathroom, I don't even say it's bad if he needs more time there than I do, as long as it isn't dramatically more. But I definitely draw a line where it starts getting ridiculous, such as using nail polish, advanced hair styling, or using five kinds of moisturizers, emollients, and other skin creams.
     
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    Sounds more like a Sunday papers supplement to me..:rolleyes:
     
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    In a word jeff? Yes. To me there is. Trying to make those of us who are not cut from a conventional "bolt of cloth" into an acceptable societal slot, for me, is nothing more than an attempt by creatively limited persons to make us "work" in their system of categorizing all things human behaviorally.

    I think it's dangerous and subliminally very telling about those who'd do it.

    Bottom line: We oughtn't need to create a word to pigeonhole people in order to make them adapt to some preposterous social expectation. They 'all' need to back off anyway.

    But naughty does bring up an intersesting phenomenon. When girls grow up with boyish behavior they're adorably labelled "tomboys". Males demonstrating the behavior of young girls are labelled more abusively; "Momma's boy", "pansy", "sissy", the list goes on....

    Now that I give it due thought. I know several very masculine women who are decidedly not lesbians and no one thinks of labelling them with anything like "skillsawsexual". Pretty damned telling.

    So am I.
     
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    ......... hands dong20 a copy of Joyce's Ulysses for some serious rereading:rolleyes: :biggrin1:

    Shit man. I gotta stop posting so damned seriously dong or I'm going to be deemed resident rabble-rouser.:tongue:
     
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    What do you mean....going to be...?:tongue:
     
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    did I know that was coming??

    Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah not for a second. :biggrin1: :cool:
     
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    Wow,

    This opens so many avenues for discussion. I sorta like "Skillzasexual"! LOL! I think that might even fit M S come to think of it. Why does competance in a opposite gender oriented activity cause derision? I think the reason "Tomboy" is not viewed as harshly as "pansy" is because it denotes strength and self reliance. Where as pansy sounds delicate and high maintanance which seems to get old quick for either gender. Also face it there are some very pretty men( yours truly) and some rather rugged looking women out here who for no fault of their own may look like the opposite sex parent. But that is no reason for labelling either.
     
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    LOL...predicable?..well, sometimes....(like now for example.:rolleyes:)

    Does metrasexual work? I always had a soft spot for tomboys though it always had scope for....err hardening! :tongue:
     
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    I know naughty.

    I love this thread. Not my intent to hyjack it and I'm glad you like the direction it may take.

    And to answer your post. I can tell you that I was certainly no great stereotypical sissy but neither was I into sports other than swimming and tennis.

    Fortunately I was able to deflect suspicion early-on since I seemed to attract females and for awkward straight (albeit cute schoolmates) it was a never-ending source of satisfaction that they were drawn to me to "hook them up". :biggrin1:


    We had a boy in our neighborhood who was persecuted mercilessly since it was discovered he liked to play "Barbie dolls" with the local gaggle of girls. He wasn't high maintenance. He was gentle and soft and kind.. yes kind. That's what I recall about him most. His face had what Italians call "un sguardo simpaticissimo" (an ultimately kind expression).

    He appeared to develop a very hard armor early-on with regard to how he was tormented (once I recall to the point of urination on the playground).

    His name was Carl Washburn and he's dead now.

    But I can tell you that he was anything but 'high maintenance'. He was kindness incarnate. The pity of the thing societally appears to me to be that a boy who is delicate and sensitive is ostracized while his masculine female counterpart is embraced and encouraged because her behavior appears to emulate that of her male societal counterpart. It's another reason why females homosexuals appear to have wider acceptance than male ones. The comraderie factor with hetero males is more immediately obvious.

    Nonetheless, I find it monstrously unfair and in my opinion the product of "stupid white men" as Michael Moore so perfectly describes them. Beyond that it's just the nature of a Patriarchal society.

    JMHO mind you.
     
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    What's wrong with the term "metrosexual." I fit the bill and I'm proud of it. Just because I go to fancy salons to be pampered, I have way too many expensive clothes, I take a long time to get ready, I have manners and good breeding, doesn't make me less of a man, nor do I think it's a slam on anyone else.

    Most of my friend are all pretty much the same way. I guess the old adage is true that "birds of a feather flock together..."

    Metro and proud!
     
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    I think it's relegates people to category prepstud.

    You'd have (at one time) been called a "dandy".

    Perhaps you're attention to detail and and your interest in fastidious dress is your 10%??:biggrin1:
     
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    Well, on the interweb, women who appear to have more than their fair share of masculine traits are somely called.....





















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    Men.
     
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