MFM Threesomes

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by starshade_59, Feb 9, 2010.

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    Ok ladies, how many of you like to take on two men at once? Is that fun for you? Had a girlfriend who got me into the lifestyle and it was a beautiful thing. Then all the sudden she decides she doesn't want to do it anymore and cuts me off cold turkey. She now say's I don't respect her because I allowed her to fuck and suck off another man. She swallowed to. Now is this normal. I tried to tell her it brough us closer. She says that it killed us. Now she doesn't even want just me anymore. The last two times we had sex it was a disaster.

    So is this normal for woman to do a 180 like this?
     
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    It seems that the correct discussion wasn't engaged in prior to the act. Ground rules must be established beforehand and a determination made regarding who is doing what and for what reasons. My bf and I do it occassionally and we enjoy it. But once again we discussed it openly and at length before anything happened.
     
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    Did you ask her why the about face? What does she say?

    She has the right to change her mind, but she also owes you an explanation since she was the initiator.
     
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    We had rules and plenty of discussion. Basically anything went as long as it didn't cause her any pain. If she were to say stop that meant stop. She loved it!! She had explosive orgasums and even squirted for the first time in her life. I have asked her face to face and all she would say is that she doesn't want to do it anymore. I asked why. She said I didn't respect her anymore. Hell we did this about 10 times before she changes up on me.
     
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    it sounds like she is not in touch with her feelings about this.
     
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    Sounds like it's fun to have sex with 2 men, but when one of those men is her boyfriend, it is confusing. Maybe she felt like a slut and thinks you think of her differently. Did you say anything to her, in jest, where she would have gotten the impression that you have less respect for her? Maybe she thought you would be more jealous and show how much you care about her, but the fact that you didn't makes her skeptical?
    The bottom line is that she is the only one who can answer your questions. If she doesn't want to do it anymore, because it was an experiment, that is her right. If you care about her, try to talk it out more.
     
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    I told her it made me feel closer to her and that I have never felt more in love with her. She likes to watch pornos of threesome and more where its one woman and the rest men. I was never much into that until I kept watching the porns. She can be a nasty girl and when we did have our fun with others she talked the talked. Wanted us to call her our slut. I never did other then in those moments. It was so hot. I didn't know how I would react to it at first, but it was an instant attraction. So she and I kept doing it and then one day it was like a light switch being turned off. She just said she was done and that she won't do that anymore. No futher explanation. I have tried to talk to her about it until I'm blue in the face. She just shuts me down.
     
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    You let her window shop and test drive other models. Perhaps she's trading you in for one with a bigger engine, more torque and luxury features.
     
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    Sadly, this is what sometimes happens when people cross the line between fantasy and reality. Think about it, when your fantasy life becomes your reality -- in her case when she started to feel like the "slut" she has probably fantasized about being while watching threesome porn -- the lines between fantasy and reality become blurred. I suspect that her abrupt about-face may have to do with some feelings of shame that may be setting in now confounded by fears that you may actually believe she has become the slut of her fantasies.

    I think the lesson here is that some things are best kept as fantasies.
     
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    i suspect someone else caused this turn around. Some said something that hurt her. I have found random turns of views to either be connected to friend's or family members comments or judgments about something. Often they may not even be referring to your relationship but she would take it to heart or see it differently. Only other things that tend to cause it are radical changes in ones life; death of someone close, addiction problem, finding god... Oprah episode who knows. Its not on you, you can be comforting and supportive but at the end of the day its her problem with her self.
     
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    Thanks for all your responses.
     
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    I love being with two men at the same time. Hell, I need something to suck on when being fucked from behind.
    My husband and I have been doing this for some years now, and if we come apon some problem we talk about it, figure it out together and make sure it doesn't happen again.

    If she wants to slow down and think things over then maybe you should give her that time. But make it clear that the only person in your relationship that is looking down on her is herself.
    In Swing clubs it's a general rule that the women call the shots, and you're to respect the partner you came with. Give her some time to think things over and ask her what was it you did to make her think she wasn't being respected.
     
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    Having a mfm threesome is something I'm looking to do right now and it is a situation where you really have to be comfortable with your sexuality. While she might have been enjoying it a great deal, it would seem that she probably had underlying guilt about it the whole time. There is a social stigma that is attached to women who try to expand their sexual experiences, It's also possible that she told someone about her experiences who didn't approve of it and told her so. I've seen it before. I had a friend who did the exact same thing. She was a quiet, I guess you could say nerdy little asian girl who all of a sudden let loose and started doing all kinds of things; deepthroating, huge dicks, anal, threesomes with guys and a few things that were illegal. Then she started dating a guy and unwisely told him about all her experiences. He freaked out and told her that she had no self-respect for doing all those things. Now she won't even talk about that stage of her life.
     
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    Too bad the guy couldn't handle her being liberated enough to enjoy her sexuality to the fullest. She sounds like the kind of woman I'd prefer to date.

    One former girlfriend of mine told me she once dated 3 guys at the same time. She even had a 4-some with them where she got all the attention. My ex girlfriend was hesitant to tell me about her past, but when I opened up about my past and my fantasies, she was really relieved. I applauded her for being able to enjoy sex on her own terms.
     
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    It really comes down to value-systems and what you view as socially admirable qualities.

    Me personally I can understand women who want to be 'liberated' and enjoy sex in the same way men can, but then again I will be a hypocrit and say that I would never have as a gf or a wife someone who had such a past.
     
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    I'd love to have sex with two men, either MFM or MMF. Two cocks are better than one:)...unfortunately, I've never tried it.
     
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    I know the double standard is common, and there are some reasons of biology involved, but I don't really understand it. Who cares who has been with who as long as they are committed at the moment? That's about all anyone expects anymore anyway as human beings are relatively long lived and tend not to be mated to a single individual for life.
     
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    Double vaginal fucking looks like pure bliss and I'd love to experience it. Would like to hear a woman's report of what it feels like and how enjoyable it is. Have never seen it in bi porn where the guys are openly into each other. Only in straight where they ignore each other. Having done lucky Pierre with two guys, and recently double fucked a guy with my partner, I highly recommend parallel adventures to MMF threesomes who haven't tried them. Would like to fuck a man while he fucks a woman. Never expected the anal double fuck adventure but when he offered we were right there.

    But the cost of adventures where one's sexual boundaries are expanded, or tested, is often feeling insecure in one's foundations. Keep reassuring her that this only intensifies your love, and showing it. She clearly enjoyed the threesome as much as you did, which means there is a basis for getting her to come around again. Seems like you need some romantic rather than dirty girl sex to give her a chance to recover her self-esteem, which is the real issue here I think. She's feeling ashamed and that's why she doesn't want to talk about it.
     
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    I would have happily done a mmf with my ex gf, but she was repulsed by the idea. However, she was keen for a ffm and was lining up a really sweet young thing but the poor girl promptly got married!

    Incidentally, there is a concurrent parallel thread on this topic:

    http://www.lpsg.org/172398-having-a-bi-threesome.html