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+ this is what I have in mind... If Tomorrow Comes Sidney Sheldon Intro - YouTube
llaC em fi uoy era pu ot ti!

That's pretty much exactly what I had in mind - right down to the diamond necklace, exotic locales and scaling the building! (theme music optional)

But also... If you are having one of those days... put this on (And crank up the volume) and take off all of your cloths and dance around the house (It always makes me feel better) K C & The Sunshine Band === Keep It Comin' Love - YouTube My next door neighbor told me it cheered him up too!I've learned to draw the curtains.

Probably best if I draw the curtains, too! :eek:
 

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It seems true that just about everybody feels disappointed about their lives at some point in middle age. So that makes it normal, I guess! At 62, I've entered the old age phase. My desires for some form of grandeur in my life have faded away, and good riddance, I say. It's a waste of time and energy to paint too definite a picture of what you think your life SHOULD be. Much better to enjoy what it IS.

Yet I still think about how to steer my life in some direction. I just don't aim towards money or things, or meeting a perfect someone or a "rescuer", or anything other than trying to be friendly to my body, my psyche, and the people I do have in my life.

Discovering mellowness is a great reward for making it through the inevitable emotional stresses of life not meeting unwise expectations. Your hopes and dreams actually become more achieveable!

All the best to you.
 

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It seems true that just about everybody feels disappointed about their lives at some point in middle age. So that makes it normal, I guess! At 62, I've entered the old age phase. My desires for some form of grandeur in my life have faded away, and good riddance, I say. It's a waste of time and energy to paint too definite a picture of what you think your life SHOULD be. Much better to enjoy what it IS.

Yet I still think about how to steer my life in some direction. I just don't aim towards money or things, or meeting a perfect someone or a "rescuer", or anything other than trying to be friendly to my body, my psyche, and the people I do have in my life.

Discovering mellowness is a great reward for making it through the inevitable emotional stresses of life not meeting unwise expectations. Your hopes and dreams actually become more achieveable!

All the best to you.

That's very nicely said! :hug:
 

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Guys there is so much in life that seem to pass us by and we tend to look back and say IF ONLY.Never look back be in the moment,and just me yourself.You are what you made yourself and just try to hear your own breathing and be happy in the knowledge that there are always others less lucky than you.Aren't we lucky just to be able to share these thoughts with each other??At 60 ssomething I am still not sure who I realy am but what the heck I have made the best of my life as far has I am concerned, beat the booze managed to stop smoking and am ready to sit down and smell the roses.How does that song go :don't worry be happy.And Nudeyorker you owe us and up date photo and Coutryguy you too.Need to see those greys hairs to make me feel younger and Lafemme you hang in there life has a strange way of changing just when you least expect it.Cheers and my the force be with you all.
ps.Can somebody please tell me what go to advanced is in the reply options!!!
 

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And Nudeyorker you owe us and up date photo
ps.Can somebody please tell me what go to advanced is in the reply options!!!
This is exactly how I look.
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My dear lady!
Every age is a new begining. Just look at it that way. You still have a looooooooooooooot ahead of you.
 

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Or this isn't where I thought I'd be at this point in my life....

Now that I'm in my late forties, I find that I'm not where I thought I'd be. Not physically, financially or romantically. I thought for sure I'd be a married lady and thinking about retiring early with a good man. Well, I'm single and after a messy relationship lost my house which left me with a financial mess that means working far longer than I thought I would have to. Physically, well I had a health crisis. I'm ok now, but it will always be with me now. And let's face it - aging sucks. Sometimes I look in the mirror and don't recognize the face looking back at me.

On the positive side, I have a job I love and some good friends and family. I still take joy out of the small things in life. I just think I'm grieving my youth. I know you're only as old as you feel, but let's face it - the door closes on some options as you get older.

So how have you dealt with the transition to the next phase of life? Or how are you handling it?

:wavey: i am going thru this at the moment. i'm in the process of thinking: ok--now what to do. i look in the mirror, and, recognize the face, but..............am not happy.

YES, i understand. i'm trying to figure out how to get 'power' from the power surges!
 

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Am I ok with being alone the rest of my life?

That's a loaded question, and a rather vague one, too. Before I start asking myself questions like that I like getting really concrete with them.

Should I join the red hat ladies?

Not for another twenty years, at least.

Should I get a cabin in the mountains, quit shaving and live off the land?

Yes. Peak oil is on its way, if we're not there already, and cabins in the mountains are much more defensible than condos, in terms of the zombie apocalypse. (But seriously, peak oil is coming...) As for not shaving, that all depends on the parts you're shaving ;)

Should I adopt a Haitian baby?

Yes. Teach it to give the finger, take a picture of it, and put it in a very nice card to send to Angelina Jolie.

Should I put on too much lipstick and start pinching the asses of cute waiters at Denny's when I eat my dinner at 4?

Darling, you can do better than Denny's.

As for pinching cute waiters' asses...you're not doing that already? Their reactions decide how well I tip. (If you know what I'm sayin.)

Should I ask Nudie to get me into voice over work?

Yes. Then you could fuck Morgan Freeman's face right off.

Should I become a cat lady?

There are worse things on this Earth than dying surrounded by pussy.

Should I become a cat burglar?

Goodness, no. There's no union and no pension associated with it. The Hamburglar gets better benefits than cat burglars do.

If you want to rob people blind, get into banking.
 

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Many years ago I didn't really expect to live past my twenties. I had far too destructive a lifestyle to have much chance of making it. Finally enough broke that I was forced to start over, and in not too many years I can honestly say that I had everything I ever dreamed of.

Then a series of real (i.e. not self imposed by bad choices) tragedies took a lot of that away and the rules of life changed again. The last several years have been dedicated to living with what's left.

Now I'm fortunate to have lived long enough that I've hit that beautiful clarity that only comes with being a high mileage human. I wouldn't trade that clarity for who I was or anything I had in my earlier years.

Everything is working out exactly as it should. From the point of view of a Taoist, it's really good vinegar.

FK
 

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My dear lady!
Every age is a new begining. Just look at it that way. You still have a looooooooooooooot ahead of you.

I'm getting loot? No one told me there'd be loot. Things may be looking up! :biggrin1: Will you be bringing me my loot? I'll cook for you and bring you the finest of men!

I have low expectations - they help soften the blow.....

My darling Willow, you are one who should raise your expectations. You have no idea of your true worth - much greater that you suspect. :kiss:

:wavey: i am going thru this at the moment. i'm in the process of thinking: ok--now what to do. i look in the mirror, and, recognize the face, but..............am not happy.

YES, i understand. i'm trying to figure out how to get 'power' from the power surges!

I have surged, I have used my air conditioner in the winter time (yes, in Canada!) and I have a pocket fan. Oh yeah, I'm one hot chiquita, but sometimes it just comes in flashes!

That's a loaded question, and a rather vague one, too. Before I start asking myself questions like that I like getting really concrete with them.



Not for another twenty years, at least.

Twenty?

Yes. Peak oil is on its way, if we're not there already, and cabins in the mountains are much more defensible than condos, in terms of the zombie apocalypse. (But seriously, peak oil is coming...) As for not shaving, that all depends on the parts you're shaving ;)

Gonna let it all grow. All of it damn it. And I can survive any zombie apocalypse. If you can find me, I'll protect you, but you better be a good shot.

Yes. Teach it to give the finger, take a picture of it, and put it in a very nice card to send to Angelina Jolie.

I'm going to send in my application today! :rofl:


Darling, you can do better than Denny's.

Smitty's????

As for pinching cute waiters' asses...you're not doing that already? Their reactions decide how well I tip. (If you know what I'm sayin.)

I have a shoulder injury....kind of slow on the draw right now.

Yes. Then you could fuck Morgan Freeman's face right off.

Again....:rofl:

There are worse things on this Earth than dying surrounded by pussy.

:eek:

Goodness, no. There's no union and no pension associated with it. The Hamburglar gets better benefits than cat burglars do.

If you want to rob people blind, get into banking.
 

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Many years ago I didn't really expect to live past my twenties. I had far too destructive a lifestyle to have much chance of making it. Finally enough broke that I was forced to start over, and in not too many years I can honestly say that I had everything I ever dreamed of.

Then a series of real (i.e. not self imposed by bad choices) tragedies took a lot of that away and the rules of life changed again. The last several years have been dedicated to living with what's left.

Now I'm fortunate to have lived long enough that I've hit that beautiful clarity that only comes with being a high mileage human. I wouldn't trade that clarity for who I was or anything I had in my earlier years.

Everything is working out exactly as it should. From the point of view of a Taoist, it's really good vinegar.

FK

I could have written that first sentence myself. I never planned to reach thirty. But I made some serious changes and not only reached thirty, but flew way past it! I have had a very interesting life, very full and not always pleasant but with no regrets. I've had a lot of loss, but I've learned one can lose everything and still survive. I had clarity and peace at one point in my life.

Once again, I guess I'm looking for that clarity, for that sense of peace within myself that things are as they should be. I need to make peace with being alone, with no longer being young & beautiful, with moving into whatever is next. I just don't know what is next. Yes, I can set short term goals. Is that the trick? Take a class, plan a trip, keep my head down and don't think too much?

Keep my head down and don't think too much...That's tough for me to do. I've always been one to wring every last drop out of every day.
 
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I don't know the answer Femme. I've been having a mid life crisis since I've been 22 and still can't figure my life out. Life can be pretty shitty. I have found a few things that help me cope however. Sitting meditation, good food, Vitamin B and sexual intimacy. I also have a small handful of lifelong friends that ease life's journey whom I can laugh with and find humor in the suffering and who really know me and love me. They are the few people in my life that I feel completely at ease with. I am also blessed to share my life with someone who cares a great deal about me and grounds me for the past 18 years and running.

I imagine you know what kind of woman you want to be. I think people who have achieved a certain level of becoming the person they want to be and accumulated a lot of self love don't have a midlife meltdown. All I know is that there are people who in their 50's and 60's who still haven't figured it out. I figure it's a day to day, moment to moment effort to live your life deliberately and mindfully to be who you want to be to avoid feeling bad about your life when you are old.

Just as a side, I enjoy your posts and humor on here Femme although I don't know you that well. You have a very infectious vivacious presence.
 

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Why twenty years? Cause you have to be at least 50 to don the red hat, no?

As for the zombie apocalypse: Yes, I'm a fucking great shot. For someone who's as not-cool-with-guns as I am, I know my way around firearms. (Comes from living in the sticks for so long.) Still, when it comes to zombie killing, I'm more of a sword guy. Guns make too much noise...too likely to attract more zombies.

When the dead rise, the hus and I'll bike out to your place with our gladiuses, shotguns (if you're gonna go, go big) and our water filter.

P.S. What's Smitty's?
 

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I don't know the answer Femme. I've been having a mid life crisis since I've been 22 and still can't figure my life out. Life can be pretty shitty. I have found a few things that help me cope however. Sitting meditation, good food, Vitamin B and sexual intimacy. I also have a small handful of lifelong friends that ease life's journey whom I can laugh with and find humor in the suffering and who really know me and love me. They are the few people in my life that I feel completely at ease with. I am also blessed to share my life with someone who cares a great deal about me and grounds me for the past 18 years and running.

I imagine you know what kind of woman you want to be. I think people who have achieved a certain level of becoming the person they want to be and accumulated a lot of self love don't have a midlife meltdown. All I know is that there are people who in their 50's and 60's who still haven't figured it out. I figure it's a day to day, moment to moment effort to live your life deliberately and mindfully to be who you want to be to avoid feeling bad about your life when you are old.

Just as a side, I enjoy your posts and humor on here Femme although I don't know you that well. You have a very infectious vivacious presence.

Some great thoughts. I do know exactly the kind of woman I want to be. In fact I think I am the kind of woman I want to be. I'm just not where I want to be, if that makes sense. I have no regrets, which makes this weirdness I'm feeling so unexpected.

And I appreciate the compliment as well! One never knows how one comes across online, so it's nice to hear something so cool! :biggrin:

""Keep my head down and don't think too much."" i'm going to change the phrasing: keep your head up, and, don't over think!

You & me, babe. Maybe we should become traveling companions and terrorize the "boys" of the world! :wink:


Mmm....that's a good one.

Why twenty years? Cause you have to be at least 50 to don the red hat, no?

Ok. I really love you now. :love:

As for the zombie apocalypse: Yes, I'm a fucking great shot. For someone who's as not-cool-with-guns as I am, I know my way around firearms. (Comes from living in the sticks for so long.) Still, when it comes to zombie killing, I'm more of a sword guy. Guns make too much noise...too likely to attract more zombies.

Good point. I'm just not that great with hand-to-hand combat. I'll go with a bow & arrow.

When the dead rise, the hus and I'll bike out to your place with our gladiuses, shotguns (if you're gonna go, go big) and our water filter.

Got you & the hubby covered.

P.S. What's Smitty's?

*jaw drops* What is Smitty's? Are you sure you're Canadian???
 

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Ya, getting older sucks. I mean, ok, there's the clarity and the wisdom and the emotional maturity and all that....but the slowing down and the aches and pains and all the sagging,,,it blows