I have been lurking here for some time, but when I ran across this thread I felt like I had to reply. While I would never consider myself hot, my 27 year old boyfriend is. I did not go looking for a guy younger than myself, it just happened. Previously, I had never dated a younger guy, in fact I was always attracted to older men.
John tells me many times every day how hot he thinks I am and though I would not agree, I do love hearing it from him. Sex for both of us is better than ever before, partly because of our love for each other but also because we love to play, laugh, wrestle, and joke and well...have a great time. Yes, both before and after and during sex. Life has never been better for me and I am certain that John would tell you the same.
At 51, I am very happy to be middle aged.