I think we all might find it more interesting if talked about what parts pushed as part of the gay rights movement that you as a gay person think might push the envelope.
It might be more interesting for you to realise that the campaign for equality, by its very nature, does not include requiring any radical or "militant" changes to society. Requiring that all people be treated equally by the law is not in and of itself militant, and since I'm not aware of any gay rights groups which actually call for anything more than that I'm personally at a loss regarding what might constitute a militant gay agenda.
That there may be some tiny fringe groups out there who do call for extreme measures can be presumed since they exist in mirror image of extreme fringe groups at the opposite end of the spectrum. But since extreme groups of this kind represent such tiny proportions of public opinion discussing their demands would be of little but academic interest.
Perhaps we might be better off asking you, if you believe that there exist aspects of the requirement that society treat gay people with full equality which in your own words "push the envelope" would you also like to discuss whether or not you believe that there are aspects of the requirement to treat black people or women or the disabled or any other group as fully equal which also "push the envelope" ?
I mean to say, either all human beings are equal and should be treated as such by the law of the land in which they live or they are not and should not, no?
And if the latter is true in your opinion, what is militant about me disagreeing with you? Presumably you would grant me, and every other Homosexual who disagrees with you that they are inherently unequal, the basic right to disagree with you on that point, no? Or is it militant in your eyes merely to disagree with you or anyone else who views homosexuals as inherently unequal?
Or perhaps it is the manner in which such disagreement is couched which you find objectionable, in that case how would you rather that disagreement were couched? What manner of disagreement would be most pleasing to you?