Military Man seeks advice

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  1. taggermest

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    I've been in the service (I won't say what branch) for a couple of years now and when I started it was a bit of an adjustment going for a little while in between times with my girl friend. I've made some new ones along the way but when I started basic the showers intrigued me more than I thought they would. I'd usually have sex with my girlfriend close to 4 times a week so it was adjustment to get without for a while at first.

    My dick would randomly get hard at any moment but I'm 100% straight. I caught this one dude who was probably gay glancing at me not even obvious and the only thing that kept me from kicking his ass was that I didn't want to cause a scene but I did tell him to fuck off. Crazy thing is the next few times I knew someone would be looking I'd respond by growing an inch or two.

    Now I've got a girl and she'd a fiend who keeps me happy but my mind always wanders. Anyone else have these kind of crazy things happen? I'd never do a dude but I think we're just sexual beings so we go at regular intervals and if we're deprived we can probably hump anything. LOL!!!

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    Well, maybe you've got a bit of an inner exhibitionist. It can be slightly arousing to know that someone is looking at you in a lustful way or just admiring your body, even if they are not of the sex you'd wanna have sex with.

    As for the guy in the shower, well, if a guy is boning up in the shower, guys will notice. All guys look at other guys in the locker room, showers, nude beach, etc. particularly if they start getting hard. We all wanna compare and there's a bit of voyeur in every man.
     
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    Well, what are you really asking?
    On the one hand, it sounds like you wanted to assault a guy because he was checking you out (thinking he was gay).
    Then on the other hand you're saying guys get horny so maybe it doesn't matter who you have sex with afterall as long as you get off.
    So which is it?
    I had a fuck buddy who is straight. I'm not straight. It didn't matter to him that I was a guy. He was borderline sexaholic/omnisexual. If it had pulse, he'd fuck it. He wanted cock worship and he wanted to fuck and didn't care at all which gender was in bed with him. There are board members who would say that he was bi because he had sex with me. Technically, he was but he was and is completely straight, if that makes any sense. Sometimes sex isn't about gender. Sometimes it can just be about giving and receiving pleasure.
    So if you're saying you're horny and your girlfriend isn't around, is it okay to get off with a guy, I say don't worry about labels and have fun. Don't let others define you. You know who you are at the end of the day and that's all that really matters.

    Yeah, what he said. Don't assume just because a guy is checking you out that he wants to have sex with you. It's just curiousity. No big deal.
     
  4. str821

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    I don't think that there are many men who don't have some interest in seeing people of both sexes naked, and some exhibitionism is the norm too.
     
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    I think your OP is self-contraditory and maybe reveals more than you realize. Any guy who feels compelled to inflict violence on another guy for showing some sexual interest, whether he was or not, is displaying his own inner conflict over his own sexual identity and desires. Your interest in /avoidance of homoeroticism is revealed throughout your post. I would suggest you get comfortable with that aspect of yourself, and not direct it outward in negative and potentially violent ways.
     
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    I don't like Freudian nonsense, usually, but I think that Maxcok has a point. Men who have violent thoughts toward those who show even slight homoerotic inclination (of which most men have at least a little bit) are mostly just uncomfortable with that aspect of themselves.
     
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    Well, it's not Freudian, or nonsense, but thanks for the reinforcement ;-)
     
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    I never understood the need for a guy to kick someone's ass just because he looked at you. Violence sucks. Just ignore the guy and go on with what you're doing.
     
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    As has been very appropriately mentioned, I think the 1st thing that you need to do is think long and hard about why you felt the need for violence because a presumed gay guy was looking at you. :cool:
     
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    Taggermist,
    Your kind off like a chick who dresses provocatively but gets offended when looked at.
    Try beating your meat regularly and you might not get so aroused in the shower.
    Or would you consider that gay?
     
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    Just wait for DADT to get repealed and then you can be at peace with yourself, OP
     
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    THen he gets his ass kicked for getting a chubby in an all male "Straight" shower room.

    Change your percentages to 90/10. ... or 80/20
     
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    I'm with the others on this one. Men who feel violent urges towards another man just because he has looked at them, are usually trying to supress - to stamp out- their own feelings of homosexuality. Did you honestly feel genuinely threatened? And if so, why? I would hope that you didn't lash out, not because you 'didn't want to cause a scene' but, because physically hurting another human being is wrong, full stop.

    The fact that you became aroused on later occasions suggests you do actually like some male attention, even if you would never take it any further so just relax and enjoy it.
     
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