Minute man problems..?

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  1. Badin10tions

    Badin10tions New Member

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    Looking through the posts I've seen the MOST (not all) of the guys here give genuine advise to men with questions.I'm a young black male on this site who's developed friendships with men of all nationalities,orientations and age groups because of the sencerity of guys here and i love that.Anyway I have a real dilema.The last time i had sex it was unprotected with a female and i dont know if it was because she was tight or it was just a one time thing but..I was a minute man all 3 times,(Thank god i was visiting out of state when this happened).It was extremely tight and i could see her discomfort and i came, but pulled out quickly.I'm scared of this happening again.Now theres this girl in my town and we've known eachother for years and we're about to mess around.I dont want this happening again.I thought it was because of the tightness and the feeling of the actual vagina (because it was without a condom) that did this but i'm not sure now and I'll be honest...I'm scared.This girl is pretty popular and the rumors could affect me greatly in my town.The plus side could be she tells her girlfriends about my size and the performance goes great or,she could tell them i came in a minute and totally not mention my size.I dont plan on moving out of my town so I'll be ruined if this goes bad so i need your desperate help.This gerl has only been with one guy who's a thin 5" so,its gonna be very tight again.I've been thinking about a few things, doubling up on the condom and using lube but i fear this wont be enough and i might cum early or, pushing it in all the way very fast and rough hurting her but,thats kindda sadistic and i might not get any good reviews from her to her friends.So please help me out and give me your genuine and intelligent advise (Males and females all ages and orientation),and go into detail please.
     
  2. Chest Rockwell

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    do a ton of kegels.

    do them in rapid succession. then try doing them by holding them for 10 seconds at a time. work your way up until you can hold them for 30 seconds at a time.

    the pubic floor muscles develop quickly, so you'd have pretty damn good control in 3 weeks.

    also try edging ... getting yourself to the point of climax and stopping short.

    you might also wanna buy one of those fleshlight sextoys on at www.fleshlight.com.

    there's a thread about it here somewhere.

    but the kegels are the most important part.

    --CR

    p.s.: you seem really long. you might wanna try shallower thrusts with the chick. girls love it when you go all the way in and grind without thrusting. try that instead of porno-style thrusts and that might help.
     
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    Badin10tions New Member

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    Ugh lol i know about kegels for over a year and a half.I used to do them but got lazy.i was gonna do it last night but layed down did like 10 and fell alseep.I have no motivation when it comes to that but bro i think coming from you in such great detail I'll do it.And thanks alot of the advise and going into the specifics,I appriciate it.
     
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    Listen, for what its worth man... Just be yourself, always at all times. Don't worry what people think about you. Forget reputation, forget it all. This may not sound like much coming from an 18 year old virgin, but I've experienced a lot of crazy shit in my life, and one thing I've learned is that if you go around trying to be something your not then you will live a lie, and eventually you'll fucking hate yourself for it.

    If you are a minuteman, so what... You can improvise. Give her the most amazing oral sex she's ever had, and then you can get in her. After that you can take it nice and slow. I'd imagine if you go slowly in and out of her then it will take longer for you to cum. You can always search and do exercises, practice holding it off. But don't EVER let anyone bring you down. No matter what dude, you need to be yourself and be proud of being you. If you let people bring you down you'll live a shitty life, stand strong always, no matter what, these are the fucked up realities of life, it sucks, but there's always going to be someone or something messing with you and making life harder than it already is, fuck it all, just be yourself and you will make it and be proud in the end of who YOU are.

    Good luck bro and I hope that my advice can help, I know that its helped me.
     
  5. orbit03

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    Here is another vote for the all-the-way-in and grind thing (if you are on top). It usually helps me too. The other one that helps (for me anyway) is to have her on top. I seem to be able to last for a long time, but unfortunately it sometimes is uncomfortable for my wife so I don't get to do it very often.

    It is funny, my wife doesn't mind the short duration. She gets hers quickly and she has always been that way. I guess that is why we are a good match. Anyway, she gets frustrated when I tell her that I want to last longer. I want to take longer not only for her, but also because it feels great to me. Oh well. :)
     
  6. Vestigial

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    ~One minute. ~Twenty hours recovery. ~will it erect today? ~maybe try tomorrow.
    That was the story for most of my youth.


    As you can imagine, the training wasn't easy. I was alone, felt inadequate, was losing will to continue with a declining amount of pleasure each time... and only had myself to learn off.


    The most important thing is realise there is a brain above your shoulders, and an entire body at it's command. You need not use only one part of it.


    My experiences before masturbation?
    Well, I was lucky in my early youth, and had company of a forgiving colleagues as clueless as me, and one highly intelligent one in particular... Started off with just mutual exploration (well apart from the thing she was too scared to approach), and following her lead I was soon progessing from just caress and rubbing to giving non-penetrative hyperorgasmia.

    And I must say that feeling the pleasure in her back then... was far more satisfying than anything I'd gain in the next 10 years.
     
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    My suggestion would be to make her cum before you ever enter her the first time. Engage in plenty of foreplay, then go down on her.

    If she's sexually responsive, and you have some idea what you're doing, you will be able to give her a lot more pleasure before the first intercourse. That way, her first memory of you will be that you are a man who gives pleasure. Her second memory might be that you came really quickly...but first impressions set the tone for everything else.
     
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    i'd never had sex without a condom until my current girlfriend. i can say the first few times we did it i was SHOCKED at the difference. sex without a condom felt a billion times more intense and so it was much more difficult to hold off on cumming faster.

    that said, condoms are always a wise choice, especially for preventing stds and pregnancy. use them for protection for that, and to help with premature ejaculation as well.

    i had some success with regular jelquing giving me more staying power -- that helped me even more than kegels.

    but i have to second chrysalis' great advice - give her a great time before you even start intercourse. if you're sure this girl is going to effect your reputation, getting a reputation as a guy who likes giving oral can really help bring on the ladies!
     
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    dude, i was right where you were at before.

    how much do you want sexual confidence?

    if you really want it, you'll work on it.

    nothing that's worth it comes easy.

    and nothing will change if you go about things the same way.

    KNOWING that you can satisfy any women really does affect your interactions with ALL women.

    and they can smell insecurity a mile away.

    do what you gotta do dude.

    --CR

     
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    Wow,the responces have been great.And thank you alot guys.And I just want to give a special dedication out to everyone here all genders races and orientations,you're all very helpful.
     
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    Well Minute Man...
    Tried Minute maid? Just kidding.

    Does the same thing happen when you masturbate?
    Have you tried to masturbate before penetration?
    After how many orgasms does it take longer to cum?
    Or are you just spent?

    Just some ideas...
    Good luck.
     
  12. OmahaBeef

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    Always...ALWAYS...have a Plan B bro!

    Hit the foreplay hard and long until she is beside herself with anticipation, then BAM.

    Remind her that it's "been a while for you" and pay attention to her needs.

    Once you get that first nut be planning your second one. You give her at least 3 intense sessions in one night, then she won't worry about the long first session she might have planned for.

    Maybe I'm getting old, but I can hold out indefinately in any position but missionary. I dunno what it is about that position but I can't hold out long.

    I am not exactly condoning this or any other drug use, but I remember when I was prescribed painkillers once for some injury, that I could go forever.

    ...OB
     
  13. Vestigial

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    The battle isn't only in the body, but also the mind as well. Don't just work towards what you want, but ready yourself to accept it with open arms.


    I find that due to my hypersensitivity, I could throw on three condoms, pair of rubber gloves and an explorer sock... and be in the spinal kicking range with each stroke. Was a refreshing change to the blinding force of each movement. :D


    But generally condoms make most people last longer.


    I found after I got off my idiot meds I went from 3-5 hours to 10-20 hours. ;\
     
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    I agree with most of what was said before...

    Lots of foreplay. "Clean the pipes" beforehand. Do kegals (they love the feeling when youve done them for a long time). And... don't be nervous, that kind of kills your game, condom or no condom. If you're confident in your ability she will sense it and enjoy everything even more. Don't lose focus on that and you should be fine.

    Lastly, don't worry about reputation, that's kind of silly. Good lovemaking can take practice with different people. If she's worth youre time, she'll understand that and stick around.
     
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    If you can't fit your arm, and aren't so good with fingers, then try something dildo-ish... you can even hold it between your legs. There is little reason to be inadequate due to minute man issues, and many ways you can fix them.


    I know a minute man who employs intense clitoral stimulation to get the minute maid thing happening too.
     
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    You have been given some great advice. Try masturbating earlier in the day. You won't have so much built up by the time you have sex.
    This will help you last longer. Good luck.
     
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    I dunno either, but missionary definitely seems to be a position that most guys have a trouble controlling themselves with. I know a lot of pornstars like to ejaculate from that position. It's by far my most intense position, and not one I like starting out in. Gotta admit it was the position I thought the OP may have been using too.

    I do believe that sex is partly mental like others have suggested here. Things like fear, anxiety, nerves, anger, and uncertainty can play havoc I believe sometimes. I noticed that a lot of younger especially have a tough time holding back when they first start having sex. I dunno, but it may be that their bodies need a few experiences before it can relax itself to not ejaculate quickly. It usually get better and easier as we age or get more experience. I do think there are practical things that can be done though. Things others have suggested like: edging, kegels, and especially relaxing.

    Just be careful not to take it totally the other way. Orgasms are a selfish act to a certain extent, and surpressing them too much or too often could lead to delayed or repressed ejaculation, which can be tough for any guy trying to have a family I hear.
     
  18. Vestigial

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    I can thrust the fastest in missionary, but since the tpm ranges into the thousands, I doubt it really matters one bit.

    For me it is physical, mental, and very much spiritual. A problem in any of those aspects will affect me from perfect orchestration. If you aren't a spiritual person, then ignore it. Otherwise, embrace it as fully as you can, even 'one night stands' can be events that shape the lives of others.


    I hit the 12-18 hour to first orgasm point for a while.

    After alot of mental reconditioning I'm back down to a few hours, but the truth is I found it easier to break off before.... now the orgasms keep fuelling me (and i've lost my refractory period too, so it's basically up at whatever level it likes when it can be... my hand isn't exactly the best at keeping it's attention though).

    Maybe I was better off with 12-18 hours. Orgasms aren't everything, even a 2 minute long orgasm is blindingly intense, to the point where it isn't that good except to make other parts of your body experience orgasmic shockwaves for the next few hours. And that doesn't happen all that often.
     
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    I've had exactly the same thing happen lots of time. I've noticed that it's ALWAYS when I am nervous. So either nervous because it's the first time with that particular girl, or I'm stressed out, or maybe tired.

    I think that 99% of the problem is in your mind, and the harder we try to last the quicker we blow our load!

    So I guess what I would do is relax, concentrate on enjoying whats happening rather than stressing out about your performance; the more you get into it and enjoy yourself the more she will.

    :cool:
     
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    Wear a condom. As others have pointed out, sex without protection feel SO much better, it's a world of difference and if you haven't had this problem before that's probably why you had it this last time. Put the condom on, and you probably will be able to last as long as you did prior to this. You should do it just to be safe anyway.

    Also, try focusing on giving your partner pleasure and shifting your focus away from what you are feeling. If you're only concentrating on how you feel you are going to climax quickly unless you're intentionally trying to hold off, and unless you have practice with that you may not be able to.

    Speaking of, masturbate. It's a good way to get to know yourself sexually. Try to hold off for as long as you possibly can. Practice bringing yourself to your threshold, so you know where it is, and then backing down a bit so that you don't actually climax. See how long you can go.
     
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