Missed signals - somebody wants to hookup
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And you have unenviable rudeness
We were both giving signals, he was just far more shy than I (and probably most people in the same situation) could comprehend at the time.. shy enough that it crossed my mind that maybe I misread him and he could be gay
You seem to be on a roll of championing gay political correctness to the point of being an asshole, but I'm pretty sure that most gay men understood exactly what I meant and weren't offended
No, I didn't, that was after the event and didn't affect her first assumptions that he was being dense or gay.
Puhleeze... your judgement is based on one sentence. In addition to the ONE thought she posted (maybe he's gay)... I'm willing to bet there were a whole host of thoughts going through her head, like "Am I not being obvious enough", "Does he not dig me?", "his last girl had (insert physical difference) so I wonder if that's what turns him on?", or "Maybe he (gasp) respects women and doesn't JUST want a roll in the hay".
You didn't say anything about him giving signals, actually you said there was "nothing from him", nor that he was shy. Just that "guys are really dense" and annoyingly "persistent" too when they don't get the message. When he didn't go for it, your first thought was he must be gay. Which, if you think about it, is quite conceited. You mentioned that you were both a bit drunk. Maybe he didn't think it was a good idea to fuck when you were both inebriated, maybe he was tired or had a headache and just wanted to crash out after the party. Maybe he wasn't in the mood. This isn't even about gay correctness, it's the idea that men have to be always ready and willing at the exact time when you want it and completely in tune with your moods.And you have unenviable rudeness
We were both giving signals, he was just far more shy than I (and probably most people in the same situation) could comprehend at the time.. shy enough that it crossed my mind that maybe I misread him and he could be gay
You seem to be on a roll of championing gay political correctness to the point of being an asshole, but I'm pretty sure that most gay men understood exactly what I meant and weren't offended
None of which were mentioned. Let's play out the scene with genders swapped:
Women can be really dense.
The absolute worst was when I had an out-of-town friend crash at my place after a party. We were both a little drunk, I changed out of my clothes (super cliche with the door open) into just a t-shirt and briefs. We were talking in the kitchen and I made sure she got a good look by getting things from the top cupboard on my tiptoes (totally cliche, I know
), I even turned the conversation towards sex. And nothing from her. We just said goodnight and went to sleep. I thought maybe I totally misread her and she was lesbian but a few days later a mutual friend told me she had a crush on meSo wtf? I don't know how much more obvious I could have been other than putting a post-it note on my forehead that read "please put your vagina on me".
“If you ever need a place to stay when you’re in town, you’re welcome to stay at my place.”
Is this one a missed signal? I was at a festival, sitting down for a bit when a guy came over and asked if he could sit next to me. He sat and we chatted for quite a while then i was leaving to meet my friend and he gave me his number and said if i wanted to stay in california he had his own place close to beach and a room for me!
He was really handsome and a very cool guy. I dont think this was a missed signal, just a really cool guy
Correct. Women's brains are complicated AF. I didn't think that @nailz was obligated to post 100% of her thoughts at the time... the thought that she misread his orientation illustrated the extreme. If the ladies of LPSG were expected to share ALL of our thoughts when sharing stories of experiences, it'd be a TL;DR fest.
And no, changing the genders isn't sufficient. It'd need to be more like this:
The absolute worst was when I had an out-of-town friend crash at my place after a party. We were both a little drunk, I changed out of my clothes (super cliche and flexing my biceps while neatly folding my sweater and neatly putting it back into the drawer where it belongs before going into the bathroom and shaving/exfoliating so my face would be smooth against her delicate skin) into just boxers that showed my 6 pack. We were talking in the kitchen and I made sure she got a good look by getting things from the bottom cupboard and then standing back up to show the sizable tent in my shorts (totally cliche, I know ), I even turned the conversation towards equal rights, how beautiful our babies would be, and my substantial 401k contributions. And nothing from her. We just said goodnight and went to sleep. I thought maybe I totally misread her and she was lesbian but a few days later a mutual friend told me she had a crush on me
So wtf? I don't know how much more obvious I could have been other than putting a post-it note on my forehead that read "I respect you. please put your vagina on me".
(And I'm kidding about the above.)
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You're in no position to explain to me what happened unless you were there. You seem to be making an LPSG career out of twisting words and arguing about situations you haven't a clue about.
I'm just going to go with @AlteredEgo and tell you to "Fuck Off"
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Ever hear of Small Talk ??
My attempt to be funny on my last reply.
But probably just small talk as you suggested. And I guess she was comfortable enough sharing that information since the location of their house was known. Just wish I had came back with a question or two, without making things awkward.
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My attempt to be funny on my last reply.
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the tv, I was distracted when she walked in the den, wrapped only from a towel fresh from the shower. She had mentioned she was going out with a friend.
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I only know of missed signals after the fact when those I dated told me things like:
I wondered if you were ever going to ask me out.
It's about time you got around to it (having sex).
Didn't you get all the hints/signals I was sending all that time?
My answer, invariably, "No, I'm not a mind reader."
I wondered if you were ever going to ask me out.
It's about time you got around to it (having sex).
Didn't you get all the hints/signals I was sending all that time?
My answer, invariably, "No, I'm not a mind reader."
Quick story. Right after my dad passed away years ago and AOL was still a big thing. I started chatting with people online. I started chatting with this girl who had a boyfriend who was playing a popular college football team at the time. I guess she was lonely because he was out of stated and she wanted to hook up and be sex buddies. I decline because she wasn't my type and I don't do females who already have boyfriends. We continues to chat and talk on the phone for a while. We eventually stopped talking and apparently she just started hooking up with other random guys. I don't regret not hooking up with her at all though.
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That doesn't sound like a missed signal.
Lol yeah I know. I just felt like typing about something.
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Must confess that I have been absolutely hopeless when it comes to " hookup " signals . I think that is the fear of misinterpretation , that holds me back . Somehow , I have been truly fortunate with women , but it sure is not down to me . Tricky .
Given the social climate, if I was back in the pool, yes, the woman would indeed have to wear a sign that reads, "please put your penis in my vagina". Then we can bring in the lawyers and a notary public, where all parties may sign The Relationship Agreement.
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