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So there is this girl that I am really good friends with. We used to sit opposite each other at work for a number of years but she left about 18 months ago. She still works close by so we often meet up and go out. Hardly a day goes by where we arent on email or text. There has always been an undercurrent that something could happen between us but the timing has never been right first I was seeing someone long-term and she has been seeing someone for the last four years.
My problem is that she keeps giving me mixed messages. For example, she said that if I ever got married she wouldnt want to come because she feels like there is unfinished business between us. On another occasion, when she had had a few drinks, she sent me an email asking why I didnt try to get her when I have been single (I hadnt because she has been with someone else throughout that whole time). My problem is that after moments like this she will always say things like dont take what I was saying seriously, I just like annoying you and I worry that what I said might make you think I want something with you but I dont.
Part of me thinks she is just not happy in her relationship and because I am the nearest available male she is kind of latching onto me but there is a lot of history there as well. The fact that Im getting these mixed messages means it is in my head a lot.
Any advice?
My problem is that she keeps giving me mixed messages. For example, she said that if I ever got married she wouldnt want to come because she feels like there is unfinished business between us. On another occasion, when she had had a few drinks, she sent me an email asking why I didnt try to get her when I have been single (I hadnt because she has been with someone else throughout that whole time). My problem is that after moments like this she will always say things like dont take what I was saying seriously, I just like annoying you and I worry that what I said might make you think I want something with you but I dont.
Part of me thinks she is just not happy in her relationship and because I am the nearest available male she is kind of latching onto me but there is a lot of history there as well. The fact that Im getting these mixed messages means it is in my head a lot.
Any advice?