MMF Threeways

[Melly]

I didn't realize there was a difference between MFM and MMF. I definitely want an MFM threeway. I want all the attention on me. :biggrin1:
I'm single now, so I figure this is the perfect time to do it. But I don't know many guys who'd be into something like this, or at least not that many that I'm attracted to.
I've thought about using craigslist, but am still wary of it's shadiness. I might still try it though. Or perhaps there are guys on here that are into the MFM threeway. :wink: I'm in the Chicago area btw.
It seems like a lot of threeways happen when you know at least one of the guys though in this situation from what I gather from the responses.

I think CL is a lot less shady than many people make it out to be. IMO it's no more or less shady than meeting someone in a bar. People who post on CL are just people like you and me. The only negative thing I've experienced is that the anonymity of the internet allows someone from CL to be much more of an asshole than they would be in real life, as there is little to no accountability to be polite when someone doesn't even know your name. Even people who aren't outright assholes think nothing of blowing people off without any sort of explanation. I know I've been guilty of that myself.

For my own (future) MFM experience, it is indeed to be with a friend and his friend. I met him off CL though. :wink:

 

[keva]

My Fiance and I have done MMF a couple of times and had a great time. Most of the action centred on her with just a little between the guys. We met the first guy off either craigslist or gumtree, not sure which. He was young and fit and a really nice guy but I think we may have gotten particularly lucky. We met him twice. There was a bit of angst after the first time because I was then working away from home for the first few days afterwards. Once I got back and we could talk about it we were ok. We met him a second time and had another great time. He stayed overnight that time which was surprisingly good. We have half a plan to meet him again in the next few months. We also went to a swingers club a couple of times but weren't that bothered with it. We met one nice guy and had a good time but didn't do much the other couple of times we went and eventually gave it up as a bad idea.

 

[cobrajet]

An MMF or MFM can be a great time. The key is to take the time to reach a common understanding of boundaries. Just jumping into bed with two other people that have never done it before might work, but it's more likely that all kinds of conflicts will come up. If you want the guys to play with each other, don't just wing it or odds are someone will freak out. If you want all the attention, assure the guys they don't need to be sexual with anyone but you. If you want the guys to use condoms, tell them that up front. Don't wait until you're all naked and have an issue when one of them doesn't bring condoms if you haven't made it clear that's the rule. If you don't enjoy anal, don't just hope the guys will just "take a hint". Say that up front. You don't need to be militant, just have a conversation about what's ok and not before you jump into bed.

Also, have some idea before hand what the guys are like as human beings. If someone's a selfish asshole, try to find that out before you're in bed by at least getting to know them a little. There's no guarantee they'll be great in bed but you can at least get a sense for where they're coming from.

Real life isn't a fantasy. It's made up of real people. These won't be the people you've imagined, they will be who they are. An MFM, MMF, MMFF, etc. is only as good as the M's and F's.

Swinger websites might be a better option than Craigslist as you have a chance to represent yourself and interact with others online before taking time to meet. Adultfriendfinder isn't too bad.

 

[paigexox]

I did a threesome with two guys at the end of my exams last year. There wasn't really a whole lot to it (though there really never is in school)...

I knew the one guy from before (had been having sex with him), and the other was a room mate of his that seemed like he would be a pretty enjoyable. Sooooo I proposed the idea in confidence to the guy I knew to gauge his reaction, and then after that went over well I pushed things forward a little later in front of them both. Once you kind of get it out there it's pretty obvious which way things will go, or not :tongue:

 

[B_quietguy]

I've enjoyed several threesomes. Some MMF and some MFM. They were all awesome.

One back in college was with a FWB, a straight friend of mine, and me. She and I bumped fuzzies a few times, and I knew she flirted with him a couple of times. So one day while the 3 of us were in her apartment, I jokingly suggested we both bang her. The look on both their faces told me all I needed to know. A few minutes later, we were nude and she was taking turns sucking us. Then we took turns fucking her. It was hot!

I've been propositioned a few times by MF couples to join them and that led to a few MFM and MMF play sessions. Around the poly community, I'm known for versatility so people ask.

If a woman wants to find male partners for MMF or MFM, she can try posting ads on various adult/sex dating websites. HornyMatches.com, AmateurMatch.com, SexInYourCity.com, etc... A female friend of mine once pointed out an ad to me showing 3 hung men who offered themselves to any woman for a night or even a whole weekend. Their ad claimed their weekends were often booked 2 or 3 months in advance. Just pointing out there are opportunities for women to enjoy 3-somes and moresomes with men.

 

[trentnyc08]

I have done it once in college and it is a huge turn on! I would do It again anytime.

 

[haulthat]

I'm sorry but you just blew my mind. MMF or MFM? Is that like guy on guy + chick or Guys with a chick in between? Anytime I think 2 guys 1 girl, even if the guys aren't comfortable touching eachother I think MMF so let me know. That's advanced for me HA!

An MMF or MFM can be a great time. The key is to take the time to reach a common understanding of boundaries. Just jumping into bed with two other people that have never done it before might work, but it's more likely that all kinds of conflicts will come up. If you want the guys to play with each other, don't just wing it or odds are someone will freak out. If you want all the attention, assure the guys they don't need to be sexual with anyone but you. If you want the guys to use condoms, tell them that up front. Don't wait until you're all naked and have an issue when one of them doesn't bring condoms if you haven't made it clear that's the rule. If you don't enjoy anal, don't just hope the guys will just "take a hint". Say that up front. You don't need to be militant, just have a conversation about what's ok and not before you jump into bed.

Also, have some idea before hand what the guys are like as human beings. If someone's a selfish asshole, try to find that out before you're in bed by at least getting to know them a little. There's no guarantee they'll be great in bed but you can at least get a sense for where they're coming from.

Real life isn't a fantasy. It's made up of real people. These won't be the people you've imagined, they will be who they are. An MFM, MMF, MMFF, etc. is only as good as the M's and F's.

Swinger websites might be a better option than Craigslist as you have a chance to represent yourself and interact with others online before taking time to meet. Adultfriendfinder isn't too bad.

 

[blacklegend]

I have had more MMF threesomes than I can remember thanks to swinger websites and swingers clubs!
I have also been lucky enough to have a few MFF threesomes as well and I have also been to several full blown orgies. If ever I am asked to go to my "happy place" I think of my MFF when I was being ridden by one girl while the other licked my balls, then she pulled my cock out of her friends cunt as soon as I started cumming, sucked the cum from my cock, then she stuffed my still erect cock back into her pussy and I carried on fucking...best night ever!
You also need to be comfortable with having some sexual contact with the same sex, for example, I have done both DP and double vag penetration, which I couldn't do if I was homophobic and afraid of touching a man!
The easiest way for guys to get a 3sum is to find a couple who are looking for an extra guy. You would be surprised just how many cpls go out on a saturday nite with the intention of finding a guy to take home with them. Its actually easy to spot them...as the female is usually very flirtatious in front of her partner and dressed in a sexually revealing manner. I met a couple that way in a bar and I actually struck up a conversation with her husband at the bar, complimenting him on his beautiful wife, who I went on to fuck later that evening.
If a girl wants a MMF 3sum and has to ask us guys why, she is probably not serious about it, as IT'S EASY to find 2 guys to fuck you, whether you are in a relationship or not.

 

[CockinPussyLover]

If a girl wants a MMF 3sum and has to ask us guys why, she is probably not serious about it, as IT'S EASY to find 2 guys to fuck you, whether you are in a relationship or not.

Yeah it is easy for a girl to find two guys to fuck her.... two ugly/lame/stupid/diseased assholes. I'm not just trying to fuck anybody, even if I'm trying not to be picky.

 

[RideRocket]

If you have a casual male friend you might bring up the idea of going to a swingers club. Most only let a few single men so it doesn't become a meat market. Plus, you have more control over whom you choose. It's a better option than craigslist or even some regular bar hook-up.

 

[CockinPussyLover]

Thanx for all the tips and website suggestions. So if I were to meet two guys from a website or a club, what would be like the top 5(or more or less) questions you'd ask them before you had sex with them?

 

[RideRocket]

1. Hi, what's your name?
2. Do you have any diseases?
3. Are you sure?
4. What's that blister thing?
5. Are you lying to me?

Just the first five I came up with.

5.

 

[CockinPussyLover]

If you have a casual male friend you might bring up the idea of going to a swingers club. Most only let a few single men so it doesn't become a meat market. Plus, you have more control over whom you choose. It's a better option than craigslist or even some regular bar hook-up.

I really like this idea. Now to find a casual male friend who'll go to a swingers club with me. There are a couple people I know who might go with me though.

 

[petite]

Go to a Munch in your area. Meet men and if you find some of them interesting, express your interest in a MFM and if they're interested, too, get more specific about what you want. Ask for references from other people that they have "played" with, since you are new and don't know them well.

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I think asking them to get tested and requiring them to wear condoms would probably be a good idea.

 

[B_curiousme01]

I wouldnt share my wife. Even though shes expressed interest in me and one of her female friends while she watched. She says she loves to imagine me in action from an angle she never sees. Watching me please her friend like I do her.

While I built a chubby at the thought of it, I KNOW BETTER!!!
She might squirt watching, but when the squirting's over, look out!
I call it POSD(Post Orgasm Stress Disorder).

I wasnt aware that many women fantasized about that. It usually involved lots of alcohol and a female that was very open minded.

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POSD!! Too funny! I would guess that you are right in the longterm, but maybe not...I would share my husband with another female with a few exceptions: she would NOT be someone we already know (way too many problems with that for me), it would not be a regular request, and he would not see her again unless I knew about it.

OP: try to find a guy friend you like and feel comfortable with. I'm sure he has a friend or two who would love to help out. Be wary being with two men you don't know... Have fun! Tell us how it works out!

 

[deedsforfun]

Have you tried filming it when you two do it? It accomplishes the angle thing but also accomplishes the not sleeping with someone else thing

Oh yeah. Filmed abunch. Its not just the angle. She wants to see me in action. Wants to see me pleasuring someone else like I do her. My reaction. She wants to help put me in. All that. I dont think she'd actually follow thru. She says she wants to see it, but under perfect conditions. Someone less actractive than her, looser than her etc. In other words no competition LOL.
Understandable. I dont want a better looking mule rippin my shit to pieces LOL. And thats why all the dildos are smaller than I. I MUST be the top shelf LOL.

 

[deedsforfun]

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POSD!! Too funny! I would guess that you are right in the longterm, but maybe not...I would share my husband with another female with a few exceptions: she would NOT be someone we already know (way too many problems with that for me), it would not be a regular request, and he would not see her again unless I knew about it.

OP: try to find a guy friend you like and feel comfortable with. I'm sure he has a friend or two who would love to help out. Be wary being with two men you don't know... Have fun! Tell us how it works out!

Sounds like my wife. Exactly her rules. And I would agree. It must be on her terms. I was suprised at her fantasy. Seems many women want to see this. It took some yeras for that one to come out. But it did. She mentioned one girl because shes seen her naked, knows how many kids....she knows it wouldnt be better in other words. The thought of a good 3way or even a 4some both swapping sounds fun. But Im not sure I could stop thinking about him and her when Im away from home. So I never offered to give her what she wants(me with another women) to avoid going down that road. Cnat take it back. If she really really wanted me too, and begged and set it up. I might consider it. But right now shes just expressing some thoughts. We have a pretty kinky no holds bared sex life. This would be new for us.
Right now the thing she really wants is us to go to a swingers club and just fuck in an open room. No others involved, just us in open room. So Im all for that.

Im suprised just how open many of you ladies are. Most sound very
"I aint sharing my man with anyone" or so I thought and now I see many are all about it or even 2 guys all on them. Lots really seem to like the thought of being devoured my too guys.

 

[ItalianStallion1]

Go to college. Get a girl drunk. It'll happen.

i like this answer the best

 

[sophomore19]

i'm curious - to those that have had a mfm, if one of the cocks was bigger, did u find that the chick preferred the larger over the smaller? i would imagine that things would flip-flop around so much it would be hard to tell.

I had two mff in college (one of them was more of a fmf i guess) and i didn't pay more attention to one than the other...

 

[petite]

First of all, the OP is a woman, so advice should be about how a woman would set this up, but this advice was clearly intended for men:

Go to college. Get a girl drunk. It'll happen.

FFS, that's the worst advice I've ever heard a woman give a man. Next you'll be promoting the use of roofies.

Men, how about finding a woman who actually wants to have a MMF threesome and who'll be really happy to wake up next to two men, instead of taking advantage of a person whose judgement has been impaired?

This idea would work for men, too, and you'd be more likely to hook up with someone who will want to do it again instead of a person who wants to press charges:

Go to a Munch in your area. Meet men and if you find some of them interesting, express your interest in a MFM and if they're interested, too, get more specific about what you want. Ask for references from other people that they have "played" with, since you are new and don't know them well.

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I think asking them to get tested and requiring them to wear condoms would probably be a good idea.