Mmff Gone Wrong?

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Long story short. Girlfriend’s close friend and her bf wanted to engage in a 4 some.
Both ladies have D-cups and all the right curves, he is about 5.5-6x 4.5 if I had guess, and I’m about 8x6.
Well, it has been brought to our attention this encounter has caused him to become insecure and develop other issues.

Her friend came over to talk to us, and said he is looking up surgery and what not... he saw both women reacted more favorably to me vs him.. from my view, he just doesn’t know how to fuck or anything, definitely not a size issue, which both women confirmed.

The ladies want me to discuss the things I do like PE and using the bathmate to him..
I know a lot of guys have experience with this, need some help here since it’s my girl’s best friend.
 

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There are numerous discussions, on this site, about guys wanting to introduce another participant into a couples sex life. The prevailing response seems to be, make damn sure you are prepared for it as it can become a issue with insecurity, emotions, etc.

Your story is a perfect example of this.

The other guy is just going to have to come to terms with himself and realize dicks come in all shapes and sizes, and there is really nothing he can do with it. You’ve stated it’s not the size so much as his actual performance. Maybe you should take him under your wing and give him pointers, etc.. I’m just not sure. Surgery would not be the solution. He might end up with something that looks better but doesn’t work as well.
 
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Examples like this are why I could never do MMF with someone I am committed to. I can play the bull simply because if it goes badly that is their relationship not mine.
 

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There are numerous discussions, on this site, about guys wanting to introduce another participant into a couples sex life. The prevailing response seems to be, make damn sure you are prepared for it as it can become a issue with insecurity, emotions, etc.

Your story is a perfect example of this.

The other guy is just going to have to come to terms with himself and realize dicks come in all shapes and sizes, and there is really nothing he can do with it. You’ve stated it’s not the size so much as his actual performance. Maybe you should take him under your wing and give him pointers, etc.. I’m just not sure. Surgery would not be the solution. He might end up with something that looks better but doesn’t work as well.

thanks for your response. Yeah, It’s definitely something I regret now. I want to do what I can to help him, looks like I’m hiring a new intern. Lol
 

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Examples like this are why I could never do MMF with someone I am committed to. I can play the bull simply because if it goes badly that is their relationship not mine.

I totally agree. I have always felt that way, just thought being MMFF would be little different.
 
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I totally agree. I have always felt that way, just thought being MMFF would be little different.
Everyone involved has to decide beforehand what they are getting themselves into and if they’re willing to deal with the aftermath.

I decided years ago I couldn’t deal.
 
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Cock size won't help if you don't know how to fuck. I've been in multiple MFM situations I could have cared less about how big my friends cocks were, I just wanted to have sex or get my dick sucked by the girl we were fucking. If he was more focused on your cock instead of pleasuring your women, that's his problem.
 

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I'd recommend trying to talk to him about his technique since that's something he can do a lot more about to change. Not that you said this was a factor, but perhaps it is.... I had a friend way back that used to cum really quickly with women. He and I were good friends so he admitted it to me. I asked him if he could practice letting up on intensity a bit when he was masturbating to get better at lasting longer. He then said he never masturbates. I'm like dude, you've got to swing the baseball bat in the off season so that you're ready for the big game. His endurance improved when he made sure to cum earlier in the day by himself.
 

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Obviously anybody involved in such an encounter should get their insecurities in order before embarking but a minor part to this story is giving me pause; as i wonder why its a part of the story at all.
Both ladies have D-cups and all the right curves,
It seems at least one half of the other couple had their insecurities satiated beforehand which tells me a lot about how those encounters are initiated in that particular household. Id be interested if any of their other poly encounters included a like sized man and a woman with bodily or genitalia features that spoke at her specific insecurities combined with both men seeming to have more fun with that woman than her....or if the selective process(and who runs it) precludes that from happening.
I just feel like if some, say larger woman, with stretch marks and saggy boobs felt some type of way about how the two guys seemingly had more fun with the other woman with the petite, tight body, and clear skin in the foursome, we'd be a lot more sympathetic to the insecurities and actions displayed after the fact, and a bit more understanding as to why they would want their exterior aesthetic altered as a result.
 
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Also begs the question of how sexually satisfied the other woman was with the man beforehand. Was the MMFF performance particularly bad or indicative of his normal sexual prowess? If it was a one off it speaks to the veracity of his feelings about their specific reaction or aesthetic enjoyment of your dick( which probably motivated his subsequent bad performance). If its par for the course then neither one of those people have any business having poly encounters until they get their own shit in order; she sucks for arranging/initiating the encounter, he sucks for going along with it.
 
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If they approached you about a foursome I wonder exactly what would have brought that on. Either pure curiosity or there is something else going on in their relationship. That being said, Ive been in a number of three and foursomes and sometimes the other guy was quite bigger than me..... never bothered me and to be honest it was usually quite fun. My college room mate is a perfect example, he is larger then me, we remain good friends to this day.
 
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The important thing is for everyone to be on the same page. If two people in an MMF are expect a bi component, they'd better make sure that the third person feels the same way, My gf and I are both bi, and there's nothing worse than a second dude freaking out because he's getting too close to my hard cock
 
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I don't get it. If it's not about his size, then why tell him about your PE routine and how to use a bathmate?

If on the other hand it's about his technique, you can surely offer him some advice.

Not everyone is a good fuck. The sad reality to that is that, the men who are not good at fucking don't know that they're not a good fuck. Somebody needs to tell them. Give them some pointers on how to spruce up their game.

Probably make their partners happier and more content.
 
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Can somebody just for the record share what a "good fuck" makes hehe... ??


A good fuck is making sure your partner is completely satisfied.
I've known many women who's partners didn't satisfy their needs. When their partner got his nut he was finished. He didn't stay with it to get her off.
You keep a woman happy in the bedroom she'll keep you happy.
 

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I'm smaller then your friend and seen my wife with guys your size and larger. To be honest, having a guy tell me how to do it better doesn't help, having her tell me what he's doing while he's doing it has improved my "game". But there are certain pleasures she going to experience by the additional internal pressure and places he can affect that I can't. I have to accept that and just try to continue to "up my game" by listening to her and seeing what he's doing.

At the end of the day I know he's providing her better sex, but when it comes to making love he just can't provide the combination of physical and emotional connection that I can with her. It's two very different things that can occur doing the same physical action.