H8Monga: [quote author=benderten2001 link=board=youth;num=1044998338;start=0#4 date=02/11/03 at 21:25:54]
In previous posts, I have gotten into "trouble" with other members (average or somewhat under average) who take issue with my modesty and my efforts to not "strut" or show off, etc. Many of these members believe that I instead, come off even more "insulting to them" by not going ahead and displaying my pride to the hilt.
I simply CANNOT do that---period. The emotional setback I felt in H.S. (though yes, years and years ago) still reminds me...it's not worth having it on MY conscience (anyway) that I would resort to that tactic.
I wouldn't, nor couldn't put any man thru deliberate, demeaning (absolutely unwarranted) degradation of his size...EVER. --That's just not me.
Having realized recently though, that some average size men (desire? / welcome? / encourage?) that "put- down" attitude from the larger guys... (??)
Well... (trying to be respectful of those others' feelings, here) ---to each his own I suppose.
Sorry. --But, I shall NEVER figure this one out.[/quote]
benderten2001, I'm sorry you were picked on in the showers. I think I've written somewhere around here that for some odd reason no one picked on me or mentioned me but they made fun of a guy who was like me. And yes, these were "average" guys although this is talking in terms of flaccid size. We had like two hung soft guys in our grade and no one picked on them nor did they pick on anyone else. I don't think on the whole that it was a big deal for us, but maybe they picked on the other guy for other reasons such as his personality and found something to lower his self esteem.
I have no problem with modesty; I like your modesty and the way you are understanding and all. I'm modest toward all the things I've done others would say is fantastic. I don't understand those who would want you to gloat and show off and I don't understand how it'd be insulting that you don't. Perhaps it's about living vicariously? The desiring, welcoming, and encouraging of put downs and humilitation really has me stumped. I know I'm not like that so you're right to each his own, but I think it's giving in after abuse to their self-esteems. Maybe they feel that is the way it should be and that is their place in the hierarchy, to be floor mats. It's how they deal with themselves I guess. While I can accept myself, I won't do it in a way that makes me inferior to anyone.
If I've insulted anyone let me know. I'd like to know why those guys feel the way you described, benderten2001, but I don't think a thread posing that question will be successful at this board, particularly if I started it. Maybe someone else can do it? I'd like to know.