I have had a dilemma recently and I need some objective advice:
I happened to have had a layover at an airport for two hours. I was on a dating app mindlessly swiping and I match with a guy named “Andrew” who lives near the airport. I strike up the courage to message him because I thought he was attractive and didn’t think anything of it since it was a layover and I thought there would be no chance us meeting. Andrew messages me back to my surprise. Since then we have hit it off.
Andrew and I have exchanged numbers and have texted every day for the past two months. We have shared intimate details (and maybe pics...) with each other about our lives to the point that we both know each other very well. We have chatted over the phone as well and hit it off. We have the same type of sarcastic humor that sometimes doesn’t translate well over phone, but it’s funny when he has to clear it up for me. He’s been that one person that I will say good morning and good night to and vice versa. We even agreed to a time for me to come visit him next month and I have already booked my refundable flight.
I get an ominous text while I was at work yesterday. Andrew tells me that his ex has moved in with him all of a sudden due to the recent Texas tornadoes and his ex became homeless as a result of it. He wanted to help his ex out, but this has brought back feelings for his ex and he’s having a hard time reconciling these feelings. Andrew said their relationship ended because they were at different paths in their lives at the time, but the feelings never fully disappeared. They kept in touch intermittently but didn’t see each other often.
I feel torn about what to do next. I told Andrew I appreciated his honesty. I support Andrew’s decision to be there for a friend in a time of need, but the history is there where they can rebuild the relationship However, he and I have made plans to see each other next month and he was really looking forward to it based on our strong attraction to each other. He’s having a hard time processing this. I feel like there has been a reason he has been texting me every day if he didn’t think it was worth pursuing, but me living in a different state is not convenient at the moment. I have told him I don’t judge him for what he does since we aren’t technically together and I don’t want to be insensitive to his ex’s housing situation. Should I step aside and let him figure it out with his ex or should I see where this goes with him and visit him despite the circumstances?
I happened to have had a layover at an airport for two hours. I was on a dating app mindlessly swiping and I match with a guy named “Andrew” who lives near the airport. I strike up the courage to message him because I thought he was attractive and didn’t think anything of it since it was a layover and I thought there would be no chance us meeting. Andrew messages me back to my surprise. Since then we have hit it off.
Andrew and I have exchanged numbers and have texted every day for the past two months. We have shared intimate details (and maybe pics...) with each other about our lives to the point that we both know each other very well. We have chatted over the phone as well and hit it off. We have the same type of sarcastic humor that sometimes doesn’t translate well over phone, but it’s funny when he has to clear it up for me. He’s been that one person that I will say good morning and good night to and vice versa. We even agreed to a time for me to come visit him next month and I have already booked my refundable flight.
I get an ominous text while I was at work yesterday. Andrew tells me that his ex has moved in with him all of a sudden due to the recent Texas tornadoes and his ex became homeless as a result of it. He wanted to help his ex out, but this has brought back feelings for his ex and he’s having a hard time reconciling these feelings. Andrew said their relationship ended because they were at different paths in their lives at the time, but the feelings never fully disappeared. They kept in touch intermittently but didn’t see each other often.
I feel torn about what to do next. I told Andrew I appreciated his honesty. I support Andrew’s decision to be there for a friend in a time of need, but the history is there where they can rebuild the relationship However, he and I have made plans to see each other next month and he was really looking forward to it based on our strong attraction to each other. He’s having a hard time processing this. I feel like there has been a reason he has been texting me every day if he didn’t think it was worth pursuing, but me living in a different state is not convenient at the moment. I have told him I don’t judge him for what he does since we aren’t technically together and I don’t want to be insensitive to his ex’s housing situation. Should I step aside and let him figure it out with his ex or should I see where this goes with him and visit him despite the circumstances?