Javierdude22: Ya know...I totally agree with CJ on his stance that it is hypocritical to talk about true love when your humping a lot of other people.
Before the torches come out...
At the same tim I realise that this stance I take on this subject, cannot be supported by any form of evidence. I cant even come up with rational, intangible arguments, let alone psychological proof or something.
The thought behind me believing that you need to be faithful to find true love, is maybe more a product of my surrounding and upbringing, than that it is real fact. I am a person with tradition and a strong sense of culture, religion and family life...I think that is a strong determinant on how I feel about monogamy. It sure as hell isnt the only one, the other half that might determine it is my own set of personal values and norms I created over the years, but still, this culture thing is a strong reason I think why I think monogamy is the only way.
And what bugs me, is that I cannot find any reason to support this. Other than 'it is what ive been taught' I cannot think of any reason why having sex with one person increases the emotional bond between the two. I have friends with whom I have strong emotional ties, I dont have sex with them, but do with others. Hm...this kinda bites folks...
Im still voting faithful though...ill find that reason