why the fuck not?
a relationship isn't simply sex. if you need to have sex outside of your relationship to 'spice it up' then you probably shouldn't be together (long-term). are gays so gong-ho about sex that they can;t be satisfied by one partner? i doubt that
I completely agree. It is not just about the sex, there is so much more to a relationship than the sexual aspect. I admit it is quite a big part though, you need that physical closeness with in private. Finding him attractive and only wanting to have sex with the one you are with. I do not agree with open relationships, personally.
I think that monogamy between gay men is difficult, especially if both participants are attractive. I don't really know why that is, but in my opinion, there is sometimes this mentality that if someone better comes along, then why not? I think that in order for monogamy to exist in a gay relationship, each participant must be in equal footing, such as sexually/physically or financially or mentally/emotionally. If both participants believe that they can't find any body else perfect for them, and that whoever it is they are with is on equal footing, then I think monogamy can exist. The idea that "I can do better" must be eliminated. This is how I would base if I could be monogamous with someone or not.
BUT that being said, I do not agree with getting into relationship with someone if at the end of the day you would leave them for someone "better." Better to stay single until you find the one that can tame the beast within you lol.
I agree with this general sentiment, but I do not agree with having to be on equal footing. If you are in a relationship with someone you are going to have differences and some unequal footing. It is all about supporting each other, being two pieces of a puzzle, fitting together and being the other half that makes each other whole.
It is about making up for and/or accepting each others shortfalls.
It is not about being with someone because you don't think you can find anyone better, it is about being with someone because you do not want to be with anyone else as he completes you.
I know one person cannot meet your every need, that is why you have friends etc. As long as he meets the needs that are important.
I think people are far to quick to give up and end things if a relationship gets boring or monotonous, but this is when if you truly love someone you work hard, put in the effort and make it work.
People do not stay together anymore, they just cut and run.
I am very traditional when it comes to these things, in the 40's, 50's etc this would not happen. You would stay together and make it work...I think we lost this sense of responsibility these days
Anyway, enough of my hopeless romantic ranting lol
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