Grrr, this needs more thought than I have time for right now. Just have a few points I need to get out right now.
- Men haven't felt obligated to marry the girl they knock up since the late 50's and the advent of the birth control pill. :irked:
- Why is it always men who are upset about the numbers of single moms increasing? Maybe if y'all stepped up to the plate and acted like men instead of selfish babies there wouldn't be so many fatherless children and single moms struggling to exist. :angryfire2:
- There is minimal societal stigma to being a single mom or teen mom.
- I have no problem with a college educated, working woman choosing to raise a child alone as she is less likely to become a burden on society, her family, and the system.
- Besides if the average woman waits for the right man to come along and marry her prior to having children, she could be menopausal. :angryfire2:
- IMHO, We as a society need to change how we raise boys. Boys, as near as I can tell have no real expectations for what being a grown-up will entail. Whereas girls expect to get married and have children. It's in every Disney fairytale. Have you ever noticed how the Barbie Bride doll is revered and respcted? It's the only one that doesn't end up naked at the bottom of the toy box. :tongue: Yes, there are some girls for whom marriage holds no interest; but there numbers pale in comparison to those that do.
- Boys need to be taught that to grow up, go to college, work, and get married and have children is a good thing. Most men in their 20's and 30's treat marriage like a hand grenade with the pin removed. :irked:
Most of what you say makes good sense.
A few things I take issue with.
First society has changed since the 50's - agreed.
Second - Men (boys by their behavior) will not change on their own.
Life is great! Women have sex with them. They leave when the baby comes. There always seems to be another woman that will have sex with them and repeat the mistake of the first.
Third - The behavior of Women (girls by their foolishness with boys) is what has to change.
Since they will probably continue to have sex with boys - having sex responsibly is the key.
Fourth - Please!
"Why is it always men who are upset about the numbers of single moms increasing? Maybe if y'all stepped up to the plate and acted like men instead of selfish babies there wouldn't be so many fatherless children and single moms struggling to exist. :angryfire2:"
Many have stepped up to the plate. Nobody notices. Such men do exist.
And always men upset. Come on now - maybe you just couldn't pass up a chance to bash men but a hell of a lot of women are upset about it.
Especially the grandmothers that often end up raising the kids because their daughter (the single mom) is unable or unwilling to.
Fifth -
I have no problem with a college educated, working woman choosing to raise a child alone as she is less likely to become a burden on society, her family, and the system.
I realize you do not from other posts you have made and that you have expressed a desire to become a mother.
I have a problem with it.
There is more to raising a child than financial ability.
It is difficult to raise a child when the mother and father are both there.
It is harder on parent and child when only one is there.
I know everyone knows of someone where things seem fine with only one parent.
Well, we view those situations from the outside and reality might be much different from public perception.
We also will never know how much better things could have been if the road taken was the one with two parents.
Signed
Financially able single father