If you refer back to the pregnancy thread you started, I think you'll find all the information that you need - which I gave you.
In short again. You are fucked, & you are going to be fucked! I take it you either didn't take my suck up to her or her mum advice, or it's all gone tit's up.
You need to start thinking about your income levels NOW! Do not fucking leave it, because once you are assessed, that's it. The powers that be have decided that you are a deadbeat dad in advance, despite her absolutely refusing any kind of contact with your own kid pre-birth.
I wouldn't say she's refusing contact. I'm just not wanting to contact her cos she seriously stresses me out. And normally I'm never stressed.
No taxation without representation say I - & indeed Erin Pizzey.
I have no idea of your financial circumstances, but unless you've got plenty spare, you either need to move to a better place now, AND start lowering your income by chucking as much as possible into your pension!
Ever since they decided that mothers on benefits could also keep maintenance, the amount naming fathers, & fathers paying has doubled. She will claim maintenance. If she doesn't now, it can still be claimed retrospectively.
Do not go to a lawyer if you want to see your child. It costs a fortune & does not work.
The fact that she doesn't want the child's father's name on the birth certificate makes her a piece of shit concerned only with her own well being, & not her child's - the only thing that you can do is check, prevent, & reverse any action where some other guy's name is put down.
This is a misunderstanding too. From the sounds of it she will put me on the birth certificate but I think I'll get a DNA test. And I shouldn't sign the birth certificate unless the result comes back as mine?
Why did you have sex with her? She turned nasty fairly quickly!
I don't know! Seriously, it was some of the worst sex ever. And over in minutes...cos she was pestering me to cum.
Once you are assessed for child maintenance, the assessment cannot be changed without the agreement of both parties.
I therefore wouldn't do any overtime soon, & taking unpaid leave sounds like a good idea too. This will reduce your payment for up to 21 years, & should you meet a nice girl, settle down & have a family, it'll leave you more cash for that.
Those 2 nights will cost you about £50K plus over the years, without any of the benefit. It's about 15% of net income.
You'll probably see, or hear of her about with other boyfriends, & you'll be wondering how all that affects your kid, & how she's enjoying spending your money on things for herself.
I hope you've learned to put a rubber on it now
I had rubbers with me, that's the sickest thing!