Mother's-sister's relationship with hung son-brother?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Charlie14, Nov 16, 2005.

  1. Charlie14

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    I am wondering how other hung guys related to female family members and how females here felt about having a hung family member and if it affected their relationship at all.

    I definitely felt it affected my relationship with my mother and older sister. When I started developing I felt an immediate impact on our relationship and noticed both my mother's and sister's attitude towards me change dramatically. Looking back on it now, at the age of 19, I remember my mother and sister being very conscious of my size and I feel they conditioned me to feel embarrassed about my size and to hide it. Any time I wore some type of clothing that you could see my penis size in.. even remotely.. they would act disgusted and either tell me to change my clothes or they would act disgusted and angry and leave the room. Of course they never came out and said why... I didn't realize that until recently.

    I also felt that they physically kept a barrier between us. I don't ever remember my mother or sister showing any kind of physcial affection toward me beyond around 12-13. The change feels very dramatic to me looking back.

    I also felt that my mother treated me like my father who I also have heard was very well endowed and also was a womanizer. I have no recollection of him, he left when I was 4 or 5.

    Anyone else have a similar type experience?
     
  2. GoneA

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    Well, as far as you first question goes, "I am wondering how other hung guys related to female family members": Normally, relationships in these contexts (mother-son, sister-brother, etc.) are not influenced by penis size.

    Secondly, it doesn't sound as if your problems stemmed from being well-endowed but, from something much deeper. Have you and your family members had professional counseling? It sounds like you need it.
     
  3. Charlie14

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    Thanks for the input, GoneA. I appreciate it.
     
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    Nice, there, Dr Rock. No , seriously, just talk with them honestly and you'll find the answer sooner or later. Anything we give is all perspective, and I think you need to evaluate the situation with your family.
     
  6. Charlie14

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    I'm surprised to be the only one to experience something like this. I have had some lady friends who were very busty and heard they kind of went through similar experiences with their fathers and brothers when they developed. I guess most women are different than men in how they react... interesting. I wonder why my family members were so different?
     
  7. Matthew

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    Charlie14, I also felt weird growing up and becoming a man with just my mother and sister in the house. Although my mom did a great job of raising us, it would have been nice to have an adult male around who could help with questions about manhood and other stuff. I didn't have the particular experiences you had, but then again, since you haven't talked openly with them about it, you can't be sure of exactly what their issue was. If it were me, it would seem like a super awkward topic to bring up. I'd probably let it go and talk about it elsewhere ... that's what LPSG and/or shrinks are for!:)
     
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    Hmm that's strange and nothing like that has happened to me. One time my penis nearly fell out of my shorts, or was bulging out when I was climbing onto the shed to get a ball for the neighbour.

    My sister was in the garden then said something like 'I felt like saying Paul!'...and made some kind of joke. No one has said anything other than that, and although a lot of my family and old neighbours have heard (from my mother!) I'm big or whatever, it hasn't changed how they treat me. However, I do get winks and nice comments from my HOT neighbour (well old neighbour, I've moved away now), who is a twin, her sister does the same thing :D

    Although my penis isn't as present or big as yours (I don't think) Charlie...that could be a reason. You usually can't see mine unless I have shorts on or jeans that fit a certain way. Anyway good luck, and maybe your mother and sister don't like your penis showing because it's a reminder of your father? Or something...my mum didn't like me growing a beard/stubble cos I looked like my dad lol.

    Anyway, good luck. The only family member that talks about my penis is my uncle, he makes jokes and insinuations quite often...
     
  9. B_HappyHammer1977

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    Not had any kind of barrier like yourself. Only once have I had a comment (or at least I think it was??) from my sister about "bulges in your trousers".

    As for your personal situation, in my amateur shrink mode, I would think you are probably right in your thinking that it has something to do with your absent father. I agree with the previous poster...maybe, if it bothers somewhat, maybe you could see a counsillor. But only if you think it's having a marked effect on your relationship with your family.
     
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    On the otherhand, the size of your dick and the potential link to your father is not your problem. Psst, a shrink is not going to make it smaller, but for your mother and sister, he/she might make it easier for them to deal with the absent and long-ago husband/father.

    How do you suggest that they see a shrink? I have no idea. I would not have the balls to tell them, "You don't like my dick....you should see a shrink." Regardless of how much you love them, you must realize you have a disfunctional family. As you move toward adulthood and independence, it is likely that they will become a less important part of your life.

    Good luck.

    jay
     
  11. skilledpianistgirl

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    I thought I'd provide a little female input. I really don't think it has anything to do with your father being absent, or your size in and of itself. My dad left when I was 9, and my mother has raised me and my younger brother (who's 19) alone since then. Like with your family, my father (so my mother has hinted at) was pretty well-endowed, and my brother seems to be too. So to get to the point, my brother's often walked downstairs in the morning in his boxers with wood, or worn underwear around the house that let us see his pubes or his bulge. And my mother and I would invariably ask him to go put some pants on. I don't think it had anything to do with my father being gone. It honestly felt simply that being faced with a relative's (particularly a father or brother) genitalia is simply uncomfortable. It grossed me out. It wasn't about my brother being big or reminding me of my dad. I just honestly didn't want to see it. Would you really want to see your sister's naked breasts or your mother's bush? I wouldn't take it personal dude.
     
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    Great point. I'm wondering if your mother may have endured some inappropriate sexual dynamic on the part of a male family member at some point in the past.
     
  13. Alley Blue

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    Absolutely GREAT post Skilledpianistgirl.

    Charlie14, Skilledpianistgirl is in the exact same position as your sister is, and she really gives some helpful insight as to how they might be thinking.
    Keep in mind, just because your conscious about how well endowed you are, it doesnÂ’t mean everyone else is too. They may notice it from time to time, as Skilledpianistgirl said, but I highly doubt that its going through there minds, constantly, when your in there presence. Perhaps there's other issues there, bigger then your penis! Funny enough, this reminds me of how my aunt has a very full bosom. In the summertime it gets very humid, and she often appears somewhat scantly clad around the house. No nudity though. As a member of the family, I simply never really paid any attention to it. I assume if I was a guy off the street, I would be distracted by it, but as far as I was concerned it was just my aunt in her "relaxed state".


    This would of been the perfect opportunity for you to communicate your feelings to them and ask them to explain why they're constantly reacting a certain way towards you. Your large penis may be the very last thing on there mind. But you'll never know this with out some sort of communication. Now if they end up expressing some sort of weird "hang up" they have with your endowment, well then its time to arrange for some sort professional help for them........
     
  14. Charlie14

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    "It grossed me out. It wasn't about my brother being big or reminding me of my dad."

    The thing is that I wasn't wearing clothing that was revelaing at all.. I mean sometimes I might be wearing somehting and my size was very apparent... but many times I was just wearing normal clothes. even somehwat baggy.. and looking back on it now I really feel this is what it was aobut.

    Like I said.. i have spoken to some girls who developed at a young age, were very busty and/or attractive and they went through exactly the same thing with their brothers and fathers.. there brothers and fathers were very uncfortable around them because they felt there was an attraction there.

    There was one thing that happened with my sister so I know there was something going on there that isn't normal.

    And I also suspect my mom was a hardcore size-queen from things I have heard as well.

    These things just make me wonder if my mom and sister had somehting else going on internally that most women don't have.. In the same way men that molest family members have something wrong there too. Or in the way that women teachers have sex with their students.

    But it is all really a mystery now because I left home at 16 and don't really have contact with either of them anymore..
     
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    Sounds complicated, did you leave home because of there "disgust" with you? And what happened between you and your sister?
     
  16. Charlie14

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    I left home because I was basically kicked out. My mom was basically psycho. We didn't have a lot of money so she was alawys stressed out to the max and I also had a lot of girls calling and she would get irrate. I just couldn't take it anymore. She kicked me out and I didn't try to ever go back.

    And my sister.. when I was 11 or so we were wrestling around and she had me pinned and she was straddling me and she started rubbing on me like as if you are getting a lap dance. And then she turned around and she told me not to move and I could feel her hands on my penis through my clothes. I was fully hard. Then she acted all pissed off at me like I did something wrong and it was my fault and said I was disgusting and I should'n't ever do that to a girl. I didn't do anything though. But then after that she never did anything like that again.
     
  17. GoneA

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    It is now made abundantly clear that your domestic issues are deep-seeded and, as I mentioned before, do not stem from your being 'well-endowed'. I agree very much with AmericanWoman as I think there was an inappropriate sexual dynamic between your mother and someone else; not only your mother, but your sister as well.

    Are you wishing to patch things up? If you are, again, all I can recommend is professional family counseling. Have you been considering family counseling? I really do thing that it would help - especially given the nature of the issue at hand. Furthermore, I think the consequences of seeking professional help will be far-reaching, in that not only will it help to rectify the current issues surrounding you, your mother, and your sister but, better prepare them [and you] for future relationships.

     
  18. Charlie14

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    I'm not sure I want to deal with my Mom and Sister right now.. but I would consider individual counseling.
     
  19. GoneA

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    You not wanting to deal with your mother and sister is quite understandable. I also advocate you seeking individual counseling as I am collective/family counseling.
     
  20. B_IanTheTall

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    Are your mother and sister the type of people that would sue the Boston school system because a school bus drives past the Boston Art Museum, which has a David statue in the courtyard?
     
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