Motivators to have sex with another guy

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    For those guys that have sex or a sexual encounter (by which I mean blow jobs masturbation etc) with another guy that is to say they are bisexual what motivated you to have that sexual encounter in the first place did you seek it or did someone lead you into it?

    What drives you now to have a sexual encounter with another guy, is it something deep down?

    For those who have yet to have sex or a sexual encounter with another guy but are thinking of it have you any thoughts as to way you want to or is it need to?

    :smile:
     
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    Wanting to have sex with men motivates me.

    I'm sorry, was that too simple?
     
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    I think that is a great question, here is what i think, I have a good friend that works in an adult theater , (not a book store, a theatr, big screen and theater seating.) gay men and str8 cpls frequent that place. and mostly just get it on out in the open. From what my friend has told me, and from what i have seen, Men are very turned on by the visual, and some of the men who , to me, who are , for lack of a better phrase, TOTALLY STR8, WILL and have watched men suck another guy off and masterbated as they did, only because it was live and happening infront of them. Then i noticed some of those same men later on down the road , let me watch them get sucked off by a guy, so , with that said, I think its not just a question of am i str8 or bi are, but how sexual a person is, and how much intimacy a person thinks they require.
     
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    Aside from always enjoying an attractive woman, i've often gotten a little stiff seeing a built guy, t-shirt and jeans, shirtless and shorts, at the gym. Even more turned on by a hard cock -- str8 porn, gay porn, real life. Made me curious. Made me want to experience it myself. Wasn't disappointed. I still get turned on by guys. Although it's definitely a sexual response (my cock tells me so), it's nothing like both the sexual and intimate relationship I enjoy with my wife. Motivation for a sexual encounter with a man? my own hard cock in response to what I'm seeing. But I don't feel at all that I'd enjoy a long term, intimate relationship with another man. My marriage is happily monogamous.
     
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    Bud, as far as simplicity goes, I'll do you one better. MUSCLES!
     
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    For me, sex with a man has a different "energy" so to speak. When with my wife, I'm the sole masculine contributor, dominant for the most part, and initiator.

    With another man, I can be pass, follow his lead...... and not worry about getting pregnant.

    Sex with either a man or woman is also very relaxing for me, but I feel more "Spent" after time with a guy. Not sure why.

    As for motivation, when I have my wife, and I have one man in my life. I love them both, but with my wife it always has to be about love and her emotional security etc. With my man, some times it's about love, sometimes its about getting off and having fun playing, not worrying about emotions and all of that.
     
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    Though I have had few male and female partners in a long life, I suspect that I have always been as horny as any guy. Many men are sexually attractive to me and in my mind I can see them as even more attractive; fortunately, my right hand has always been ready to be teamed with my imagination to provide me with immediate relief. Yet, the first sexual contact with a partner always happened only when my partner and I had bonded in friendship to the point where we both wanted and needed sex as a way of confirming the bond that had been created between us. I simply have never been able to think that a casual sexual "hook-up" could have provided the satisfaction which sex in a loving relationship provides.
     
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    I think of it this way, in the stock market insider trading is illegal because the person has the unfair advantage of inside information. That's what sex with a man is like, a guy knows what does and doesn't feel good to another guy. Also guys are hot!
     
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    LOL!!! I'll do YOU even one better: You, Primal!
     
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    I love that analogy! I'm adding it to my repetoire. I've seduced my fair share of str8 guys for their first try with another guy, but I'm adding the above to my list of persuasions.
     
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    No, it really is that simple. Sex with guys has so much stigma to it that people act like there's some weird equation or explanation. Nobody asks straight guys what their motivation is for sleeping with women.
     
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    Wow. There are so many things. His looks, his smell, the way his dick and balls feel in my hands, the way he kisses me, the tingle at the base of my spine when he hugs me . . . .

    I'm sure I didn't mention them all. :biggrin1::rolleyes:

    NCbear (who has LOTS of motivation today, obviously :smile::tongue:)
     
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    Well, watched so much porn and I realized I was getting turned on by cock so, I wanted to touch one and real life. But, I haven't fucked or been fucked by a guy only j/o and oral.
     
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    Back at you: Hellboy Your tatts alone would shift my motivation into 3rd gear, before I ever got to your pits, pecs and cock.
     
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    In my case, up until the age of 21, even though I was very sexual and had an attraction to guys, I had never acted on it. The sight of a well-built man had always turned my head and frequently gave me boners, but really I had no need or desire to do anything about it. But one night at a friend's house, he offered to share his girl with me. After fucking her, while she was in the bathroom, he offered to suck my dick. I readily agreed because I found him hot and had been having a few daydreams in his direction anyway. So I guess you could say someone lead me into it, but it didn't take much of a tug.

    The drive comes from between my legs basically. I like the feeling of the play of power with another guy.
     
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    For me. It could be a lot of things. If I see a bisexual, straight, gay or asexual guy with some of the things or are in some situation I find sexually interesting, I will get hard. I won't approach them though. They will have to exhibit some reciprocal attraction to me to consider sex with them.

    The things I like with some guys. The eyes. The smile. The deep voice or an interesting voice. I like the gluteus max. The calves. Then the personality. The intelligence. And humility.
     
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    I fell in love with my best male friend when we were both 14, and the rest is history. If you fall for a guy or a girl, there's no difference. You want to make love/have sex with them.
     
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    We definitely don't need any other motivation, Primal. Just knowing you were in the same building would be all I'd need to drop what I was doing and put you on your back!:tongue:
     
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    My motivation well its more a deep down urge, sex with a woman is hot passionate and something desire and do the most but every now and then some little devil inside me talks to me to bed a guy the sex has a different head space to it as bflr said earlier there is a different energy to it. Sex with a guy is pure carnal :smile:
     
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