Moving in with gf cause for drop in libido?

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Ever since I moved in with my gf I don't have the need or want for sex anymore.

I used to have these huge cravings or urges all the time to dominate my gf in bed or any hot girl but I'm down at a regular two times a week since I moved in.

I don't have any trouble getting it up I just don't feel very sexual anymore.

A sidenote is that I'm working for the entire month of dec making overtime at my job and that I' see I differ more from my gf then I'd like to believe. She just wants to ly in bed all day cuddling whereas I would like to get out and work on the apartment or do something outdoors.

I don't know if any of this is familiar to the members here but any input is welcome.
 

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Guess the hunting need is over ! Head up, bro, some peace at work might get you hungry ahain!
 

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Me and my bf moved in together a few months ago and he too works a lot and goes to school. I just go to school. So when we are together we're usually all over each other. All I can think of in your case is that you may be stressed? Or maybe you just need to spice things up because the sex has become predictable? Me and my guy have been experimenting and getting our kink on in all sorts of ways and the sex has been fantastic. Do you still find her sexually attractive? Are there things you think she isn't doing that turn you on?
 

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Sex is fine and she is very attractive as a former model but I'm just used to me wanting it three times a day and now it's down to 2 or 3 times a week, which isn't a big concern but just a big difference for me.
 

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two things. one, you're just overworked; and as someone who had a hell of a crazy busy semester in graduate school myself, your sex drive does take a bit of a tumble. doesn't mean you don't like it or want it or get off on it. you're just busy and it's hard to enjoy fun things when you're super busy all the time.

the other? you're nesting. you just moved in with your gf. sounds like your relationship is pretty serious to be moving in together. am i right? you gotta establish what your home life is like now; that too takes some adjustment. you've clearly found one difference. now that you're both at home, she wants happy-cuddle-fun time and you wanna get out of the bed. right on. it's cool; it's just something to get used to.

not that any of my gfs have ever been that serious, but i imagine when you're not living together, your sex life is all about that big to-do of getting ready, getting your clothes on, jetting over there to bang it out. think of all the prep time, the excitement, getting rowdy and rarin' to go. now. meh, she's right there. turn over, poke, poke.

anyway, just don't worry so much. get your overtime at work dealt with then see how you feel in a few weeks.
 

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Moving in with gf cause for drop in libido?
Ever since I moved in with my gf I don't have the need or want for sex anymore.



I think having anything readily accessible tends to get some people into a sort of natural content mode
Sex aside, myself for eg
If i take a liking to a certain food item for eg, i usually buy a quantity of such, and once i have it in my abode, i sort of go off it for a while hah true
but eventually get back into the mode of loving and enjoying it
sort of related, maybe.

Chocolate Almonds for another eg
Love em, but have forced myself to ONLY buy em at Xmas
Now i KNOW i will buy 1/2 a dozen boxes hah and over Xmas enjoy some, but also have the rest to last for maybe 3-4 months..and no more purchase of same til next Xmas ha