my best friend and i.......is it weird

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  1. luckydog

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    My best friend and i have been friends since 8th grade......and we are now completing our 2nd year in college......we are or like to beleive that we are very str8....we both have gfs and he is thinking about the big question with his....but when we are very drunk or high we like to watch porn together and help each other out... we dont do this with other ppl...just us.......we gave each other head many times....there wasnt any pentration in any of our encounters....just lots of touching and sucking.....there isnt kissing also...just hands and mouth on cocks..how weird is this.......
     
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    Pretty standard behavior for a huge number of guys who label themselves 'straight'. So long as you don't get hung up about it, just continue on with it ... you can be certain that millions of others are doing the same. :smile:
     
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    When I was 20 I lived with my girlfriend. I would have loved to have a friend like yours. The question is: do you get high watch the porn so you can mess around with your friend?
     
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    Sounds pretty normal ... and fun!
     
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    I think that for a lot of people (male and female) homosexual experiences are first more comfortbale within the confines of a trusting realtionship. That you and your friend feel safe to go there is fine. You two get to determine the boundaries of your relationship.

    That being said, I think you and your bud have to consider examining what Sorceror asked. I hope for both of you that you feel comfortable to experiment without drugs as a potential buffer. Good luck with that.
     
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    i see that only gay people have posted so far....from a str8 persons perspective that is sum funky weird crazy shit...i wouldnt tell any of ur str8 mates because thats just proper weird!

    proper weird! x
     
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    Just to clarify, I've never made moves on my straight friends, not my style. If they tell me they want to experiment, then that's another story.
     
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    Sure wish I had had friends like yours when I was growing up luckydog. Althiugh you may have homosexual curiosity it doesn't mean you are one--you'll find out if you are after two marriages and 3 children are in the mix to complicate things, in the meanwhile, don't sweat it, just try to enjoy.
     
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    Weird to you perhaps, but reported so frequently on these boards and elsewhere that it is beyond a doubt relatively commonplace behavior. However, your reaction illuminates well the reasons that it is seldom discussed openly.
     
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    My stance as well.
     
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    Heres my opionin..............It's my belief that any man that defines him self as "Totally Straight". Would never indulge in any homosexual sex act. They can be as homo friendly as they like. This does not in any way make them GAY. With that said, those that do engage in "Play"...I think there are hidden desires deep down. They need to really think about how they live their lives. Making sure along the way, they do not hurt those they love. Hiding their secret joy of man to man fun.
    If you and your best friend are engaging in "play" with only the two of you, in my opinion you are not "totally straight. To your friend that is thinking about marriage....with what little information you have shared. There is already trust issues with his relationship with his GF. Without trust ....there is no way a relationship will survive. My question is this...Let's say he does get married. Will the two of you still get together and watch porn...and "Play".....NOT Good....:rolleyes:
    This all comes from experince...it does not feel good to be cheated on...:frown1:
     
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    I suppose I should just keep this in a text file somewhere so I don't have to retype it every time.

    You sir, are heteroflexible on the Drewbert scale of sexuality. It goes like this:

    1. Heterosexual - likes the opposite sex only

    2. Heteroflexible - likes the opposite sex, will only enter long term relationships with the opposite sex, has "relations" with the same sex only on occation.

    3. Bisexual - likes both sexes equally, equal chance of a long term relationship with either sex.

    4. Homoflexibile - likes the same sex, will only enter into long term relationships with the same sex, has "relations" with the opposite sex only on occation.

    5. Homosexual - likes the same sex only.
     
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    It's funny, I usually defer to the Kinsey scale but I think I like yours better:biggrin1:
     
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    Being totally anything, straigtht or otherwise, can still be circumstantial and in this case based on the closeness of the friendship.
    I dont see it as having anything to do with being curious just a passing service enjoyed by two close friends.
    Underneath it all I dont think anyone is 100% anything. Situations make for odd bedfellows! You may think you certainly wouldnt do something but wait and see you might really surprise yourself!
     
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    Royston, that picture in your profile, is that your hand on a friends crotch or a friends hand on your crotch?

    Proper weird:biggrin1:
     
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    a good observation...you've won this round
     
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    I think this post is "proper weird".

    That's just the problem. With "straight" dudes jerking each other off and giving one another head during adolescence it has to be kept under wraps. They'll deny it under torture.:rolleyes:

    Perhaps it's time you "str8 mates" just got over your issues around homosexuality (the male variety that is..) and admit you experiement like everyone else.

    All your logic does, royston, is keep the "unmentionable" piece of male sexuality nicely in denial to the detriment of the rest of us. That sort of logic has kept gay males defending our sexuality for generations.

    Admit it: You wank with your friends. If you're comfortable with your sexuality you'll survive.
     
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    The important thing is that if you and your friend are fine with it and the only reason you're feeling odd is what other people might think. Don't worry about it. It's only you two in there when you're fooling around so you two is all whose opinion counts. Second, if there's any chance this is more than just "helping out" for either of you, you should figure that out before popping any questions to anybody.
     
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    The human heart does not walk a straight line
    ---Tennessee Williams
     
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    um, in the scope of human sexuality and exploration, 2 buddies being mutually "friendly" is so tame by comparison to what some people are into...

    while i'll admit that some str8 men might consider this kind of thing "proper wierd"...i think you'll find that actually the vast majority of men and women have had this kind of encounter.

    that being said.....your attitude that he shouldn't tell any of his other friends because it's wierd is rather, um...dated, shall we say?

    it's not wierd, it's private. what he and his friend do is between them...but it's nothing to ever be ashamed of.
     
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