My best friend wants to see my penis in person, please advise

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Thanks guys, I really hadn't expected such quick responses and good advice. It's just that I was in a confusing situation where, as much as I wanted to, I couldn't waste time sitting on the wall and needed to act but was under too much pressure to think of a clever way out of it. Like I said I'll go with FancyPants' suggestion and tell him tomorrow then just see how it goes from there.

As for why, he said it was just because he was feeling really insecure. Not the best reason, I know, which is why I was suspicious in the first place.
 

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This sounds like the kind of behaviour of a closeted gay man testing the waters before coming out, so I'm going to present that as one of the possibilities that you should consider. I suspect many of the gay men on this site would acknowledge some odd behaviour around the time they came out, myself included. When I did finally come out, I valued the support of my friends, and lost a few in the process.

I would say to him that if he wants to see erect penises, or is bicurious, that's cool with you, but that you think his desire to see yours is getting a bit creepy, and you value the friendship too much to let it go any further.

Good luck.
 

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I've been in the same situation but on your friend's side of the equation. I had a black friend I really liked and, because he kept leaving his pants unbuttoned, I became VERY curious about seeing his dick.
He even said one time, while we were in conversation with his cousin, that some Asian guys he worked with were curious to see a black dick and that he whipped it out and showed them!

This piqued my curiousity even more and I started to see if I could catch a glimpse up his short's leg or something. We'd go to the gym and shower together a few times but I never got my than a short glimpse of it.

Anyway, I did see it by accident eventually. He's my boy friend now, and has told me that all I had to do was ASK and he would have shown me.

Something else for you to think about. Basically though, if YOU are not comfortable with that, I would tell him so. If you are comfortable, I'm sure it's no big deal..
 
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I guess this is a problem for the younger generation that I can't relate to because of the preoccupation nowadays with ultra privacy. I saw all of my buddies completely naked and they have all seen me completely naked when we went to the gym together. After working out, we dropped our clothes and headed to the sauna and open shower to get cleaned up. I can tell you what each one of my friends is packing, and they could tell you what I'm packing. I have always said that this obsession today with ultra privacy is detrimental for today's younger generation because of the paranoia and insecurity it creates. This is absolute proof of that. I never had to come right out and tell my friends that I wanted to see their penis because there was always plenty of opportunity to check them out in the locker room, sauna and shower. My friends subtly checked me out, and I subtly checked them out. It's natural to compare to see how you stack up with your buddies. Open showers allow that to happen without it becoming weird or awkward like it has in your case. Such a shame. :frown1:
 
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I think it is a come on. The friendship is probably over anyway. If you don't show him he is likely going to be angry. If you do and he wants more (which I think he will) you don't want to be friends.
 

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and again - if he wants more and has a crush on OP. Do they try to retrieve a friendship between a straight and a gay man with ground rules laid down, and a supportive straight guy helping a gay guy figure himself out? Or does straight guy freak out and call him a fucking faggot?

Noone tells the fucking faggot who is 22 and very manly how he is supposed to work out how he is to learn how to be a gay man.
 

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well if you have shown your cock to all on the site why not your friend to. after all you said you could trust him. he maybe is that just curious just let him know its a one off deal. and you are have reserves about it but are happy to satisfy his curiosity. then carry on being a friend
 

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I guess this is a problem for the younger generation that I can't relate to because of the preoccupation nowadays with ultra privacy. I saw all of my buddies completely naked and they have all seen me completely naked when we went to the gym together. After working out, we dropped our clothes and headed to the sauna and open shower to get cleaned up. I can tell you what each one of my friends is packing, and they could tell you what I'm packing. I have always said that this obsession today with ultra privacy is detrimental for today's younger generation because of the paranoia and insecurity it creates. This is absolute proof of that. I never had to come right out and tell my friends that I wanted to see their penis because there was always plenty of opportunity to check them out in the locker room, sauna and shower. My friends subtly checked me out, and I subtly checked them out. It's natural to compare to see how you stack up with your buddies. Open showers allow that to happen without it becoming weird or awkward like it has in your case. Such a shame. :frown1:
I s what you are saying, and if it was a flaccid cock fine, but he wants to see him fully erect. Have you seen you buddies fully aroused? Have they asked you straight out to see yours hard or vice versa? If not then it really isn't the same, no?
 

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seems your more uncomfortable now about this decision. invite him over and give him look at the hard one, then you'll know what's up with this strange request.
 

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I hope u understand dude but the thing is your friend is a bisexual. I also have that senario with a friend b4 that would want to see my wang.. at first i was wondering why does he wants to see it?....to compare? is that all that he wants?...to cut the story short, I ask him frankly... are u a bisexual or gay? he replies...Maybe..I tell him that its ok with me that I found out the truth. we are still friends...
 

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first of all, the dick doesn't make the man.. right? and it sounds like you are a bit insecure about the situation too. So tell him your feelings and get it over with. As good a friend as you say he is to you, maybe this is a "sacrifice" you can do for him. And then help him work through his feelings, but tell him that you are not going to compromise your standards with any physical contact.
BTW.. very nice equipment. Thanks for sharing here.
 

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Honeslty, I think you are over-thinking this situation. Just show him your dick, let him show you his. All guys have some degree of dick fetishism. We love our cocks...we are interested in how we stack up. I was in a similar situation, have been two or three times actually, and in all cases it bonded us further as friends....not a big deal.
 

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Hey man, I hear your concern but if this is your best bud and you are obviously on this site, get over yourself and show your cock to your best male friend, hard or soft. We are all men, all have cocks and all get hard ons. That he asked you is a sign of security in him in how he sees your friendship. If you hold back, you'll be the one changing the deal. This is how I see it and as a psychologist this is how I'd advise a patient if posed with the same issue. The real issue here is not what you are describing but is how you are dealing with the challenge or not.
 

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i say that if ur comfortable enough to show it to strangers on the internet you should afford your buddy (who you said you turst) the same respect
 

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I was in the same situtation and he finally showed it to me. Years later we enjoy other as friends and fwb.
 

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Next time the subject is raised just say "look could we drop this it makes me feel creepy".
"You're my best friend (or whatever) but I think us talking about our dicks is just weird" and quickly move on to something else.
Suppose it is easy for me to say but this sounds like conversations between 10 year olds
 

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If it really makes you uncomfortable showing it to your friend just like that, then don't.

If I were you, I would openly discuss my size and ask his, so you can give him some feedback about whether he's got a small one, big one, or whatever he wants to know about his cock.
Don't immediately think he's got a crush on you, maybe he only wants to make your close friendship even closer, by taking away any physical secrets.

You could friendly decline (or show him a pic, as you've already done that), talk about his insecurities and maybe even add that "he'll get to see it once" (like when you're sharing a hotel room or going to the gym together).