My best friend wants to see my penis in person, please advise

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I stand by my original statement....You have a different code of friendship, dolfette. I wouldn't put it out here and allow my friend to be put in a 'creepy' light when I know him to be a solid guy. You don't do that to a 'best friend.' Period....but, perhaps, you do. To each his own.
to everyone here he's just a hypothetical.
colour me crazy but i think getting the advice he needed in order to save the relationship trumps anonymous pixels judging a hypothetical.
 

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does it matter why? choice is choice. a comfort zone is a comfort zone. nobody has to explain why they don't want to expose themselves on demand.
 

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Thanks to all the people who are still giving me advice, but it isn't needed anymore. I'm surprised this thing is still going on. It has already been resolved and I think with the best possible outcome.

After reading through most of the posts it seems that people on here are divided as to the request to see a friend's dick as being creepy or just curious. The OP kept stating that the friend had been proven to be very trustworthy, had been there for him etc....I just didn't get a creep value from that request. It seemed like he was a really good friend. Yeah, he was curious as guys can be. He wanted to see a hard cock and he the person he felt comfortable enough asking was his best friend. The guy was curious. I think in the way he handled the rejection of his request shows his character. I wouldn't mind having a best friend like that guy. The OP? Nah. Dude, you over think and over sexualize too much. You put your best friend in a terrible light on here...even if it was anonymous. Shame on you. You knew that he would react the way he did. You allowed others to doubt him and call him all sorts of stuff. You should have put the brakes on this thread a long time back. Be a better friend in the future.
Yes, I did jump to conclusions. It was wrong of me, I'm only human, but like Dolfette said I was worried about losing him if I screwed up and I didn't have enough time to think it all through so I asked for advice. On top of that, you don't know my friend's identity (no one here does), so he currently doesn't give two shits since no harm at all has been done to his image. For the record he's a great guy :smile:

Your showing all of us your penis and you dont even know us.... why not your best friend?

My thoughts exactly.

This is my post from before. If you hadn't rushed to post your (already stated and answered) question instead of reading what was written before you may have read it. Maybe even read all of it before replying.
...On a side note, in response to some of the other posts, I can show my wang here because none of you know me and, more importantly, you aren't in close physical proximity to me, which is what I wanted to avoid and why I had no problem with sending him a pic.

Glad it worked out!
On a side note, I love how people post a problem here, get advice, resolve it, and then for weeks after people continue to post advice.

I know, I came back and saw my thread was hovering at the top again and was like :confused:
 

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My two cents...
If you are as close as you say and the friendship is that solid - why the bell wouldn't you show him. Takes guts for him to ask! And a testament to how much he trusts you. Your guys so let's be real here for friggin second. We ALL wonder about the size of our friends. We all have cocks and think they are the best things in the world. Why do we men do view it as something to be so secretive about? Lord we all get boners - be proud. and so what if it was a come on - take it as the compliment it is - he's into you and get over yourself. And if the mood strikes while your checking out each other junk - reach over and jack him until he shoots the stuff of life all over the place. Hell of a bonding and brotherly time. Neither of you will immediately put bows in your hair and join the next gAy pride parade I promise you. But will be something to look back on that is between the two of you and no one else.
 

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My two cents...
If you are as close as you say and the friendship is that solid - why the bell wouldn't you show him. Takes guts for him to ask! And a testament to how much he trusts you. Your guys so let's be real here for friggin second. We ALL wonder about the size of our friends. We all have cocks and think they are the best things in the world. Why do we men do view it as something to be so secretive about? Lord we all get boners - be proud. and so what if it was a come on - take it as the compliment it is - he's into you and get over yourself. And if the mood strikes while your checking out each other junk - reach over and jack him until he shoots the stuff of life all over the place. Hell of a bonding and brotherly time. Neither of you will immediately put bows in your hair and join the next gAy pride parade I promise you. But will be something to look back on that is between the two of you and no one else.

Zacly. Touché

Because I felt very uncomfortable at the thought of showing him my cock in person. I already sent him a picture, which I would never have done for any of my other friends and I trusted him not to show it to anyone. I told him I really felt uncomfortable showing it in person and he said it was fine, the pic was enough if that was the case. Everybody happy (except some people here apparently).

And the 'mood' will never strike, with him or anyone else. I would never touch another man's junk so please don't force your ideas on me. You don't know me.

As for your 'Zacly' statement, read the post just before yours!
 

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Hey Sumbodi, you might want to ignore this thread for awhile. It has taken on a life of its own and no longer cares what was your initial issue or that you have since resolved it. Come back in six months when it'll be telling stories of guys sucking off their straight best friends, in public, while thousands of naked bicyclists applauded.
 

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Hey Sumbodi, you might want to ignore this thread for awhile. It has taken on a life of its own and no longer cares what was your initial issue or that you have since resolved it. Come back in six months when it'll be telling stories of guys sucking off their straight best friends, in public, while thousands of naked bicyclists applauded.

:biggrin1: Lol would be an understatement for what happened when i read this. And I think you're right, I'll back off and let it stew for a while, or I'll just be repeating myself for ages.
 

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I started working out with a guy years back and we started hanging out together. He was one of those "alpha male" types. He always had to be the best and it made him really insecure if he wasn't. I was taller and stronger and I guess he had to know what he could tell people to make him seem better than me.

I just stopped hanging out with him.
 

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Instead I just told him it would really make me feel uncomfortable and he said 'no problem then'... just like that. I guess I had overreacted and been reading way too deep into it, coz there doesn't seem to be any change in our friendship and it was all business as usual afterwards.
Ok you're sick of this now, but you have given us all a puzzle. I would have thought that if someone just wanted to see dicks, there are plenty on the internet. If someone wanted to know if you were bigger, then he would just ask that instead of asking to see. If someone else had told him you are fucking enormous, or he suspected it, then he might have just wanted to see to know how he compared, to see what he had to compete with (not really just competing with you, but with the whole world of other guys, you just being the one available to check out). Ive seen lots of dicks but I dont think I have ever asked to see one, except funnily enough last week. But it was a guy I'd just been kissing, bit of a clue.

But what you just said ..'no problem then'...is just exactly what someone might do who realises he has just overstepped the mark and was after something more which is never going to be mentioned again. Seems a very firm stepping back after making several attempts to see.
 

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Some of you fascinate me in your nonchalant attitude about "it's just a dick, show it to him." Yes, it's his penis, and the guy wanted to see it in person AFTER receiving a photo of it.

As Dolfette said, this is a comfort zone thing.

I would be much more comfortable showing my dick on the internet than to people in real life. He doesn't know you, and had emotional obligation or decades of friendship at stake if things had gone wrong.

Coercion qualifies as rape in almost all instances, and harassment in others. Not talking to you OP, but to some of the people that are hanging on to the "old days" when dicks would be shown everywhere for no reason. Respect people's privacy and need for personal space.

With that said, if my best friend asked me, I would show it to him. Not a big deal to me, but i'm also acutely aware of my persuasive ability and abusing it in the past.
 

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If this guys has insecurity issues involving his penis size, the last thing he needs is to see/compare himself to your monster. Good choice not to do so.