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i think i kind of know where you are coming from.however i do agree with alot of the post that you have to be careful about "coming out."i am also bisexual,and i was married for 4 years.i did in fact lose some friends when i told them i was bi.i have a post in here.where a friend of mine asked me to have a 3'some with her,and her husband.this dude and i are pretty tight.we go to the gym,drink,and have even gone to strip clubs together.i had no idea this guy was well in his words"bi curious."i had a feeling he was,but i did not react on it.hell yeah i was curious to see what he was packing,but i let him make the first move.the way i see it is you either come straight out,and ask him to play with it.you get him drunk,or you just let it go.just remember whatever happens,you have to live with.

I know I have to be careful. But Im just curious, and totally dont want to risk anything. This friendship is a great one. Seriously. But curiosity has a hold of me too. Maybe I just won't do anything to risk it.
-B
 

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None of my friends know what my biceps, chest, and traps feel like. Nor does my brother. Your friend is at least a little bit gay. Of course, whether he is willing to admit that to himself is another question altogether.

I have no experience with this dilemma myself but my first thought is that you should challenge him to a size contest. Just say, "Haha, your girlfriend said you have a big dick. I bet mine is bigger...oh yeah? Let's find out!" That way, the "gay attraction" is totally deniable.
 

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vanden_thomas said:
None of my friends know what my biceps, chest, and traps feel like. Nor does my brother. Your friend is at least a little bit gay. Of course, whether he is willing to admit that to himself is another question altogether.

I have no experience with this dilemma myself but my first thought is that you should challenge him to a size contest. Just say, "Haha, your girlfriend said you have a big dick. I bet mine is bigger...oh yeah? Let's find out!" That way, the "gay attraction" is totally deniable.

I was surprised, and happy, at the chance to feel his muscles when he asked me to. I've done it a few times actually. But, are you getting the idea he might be a little gay because of the muscle feeling, or something else?
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boxersboy75 said:
I was surprised, and happy, at the chance to feel his muscles when he asked me to. I've done it a few times actually. But, are you getting the idea he might be a little gay because of the muscle feeling, or something else?
-B

Man, just ask him.. There is no reason to draw this out anymore. Tell him you are gay, and that you enjoy being with him. PErhaps, if you suggest it, he will let you feel more than his muscles.

If you are not going to take a chance, then don't bother talking about it anymore. People often mistake friendships as something more. You coudl fuck it up royally.

However, if your desire to touch/suck overcomes your desire to be his friend, then you have your answer. If it doesn't, then you have your answer.
 

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boxersboy75 said:
I dont think its the same at all.
-B

I agree with Jeff - can you honestly say 100% that when or if you have seen his cock that that will be enough for you? Do you really think your reaction will be "nice cock - glad I've seen it period" ?

Like Jeff says - Just tell him you are gay, I however would leave it at that and then see what happens.If he is gay or bi then things will probably move on from there. If he is straight then he will probably appreciate your honesty as a good friend and perhaps stop inviting you to feel his muscles etc which I doubt he would do if he were 100% straight and knew you were gay.
 

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boxersboy75 said:
I'm not trying to get him into bed. Thats not the point of all this.
-B

I know I have read the thread - you want to see his cock - now read my post above - I am basically asking if you think that seeing it will be enough.
 

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boxersboy75 said:
Seeing it, yes. Touching it, if it happens it happens. Having sex or sucking on it, thats not the something I would push or even want to try and risk the friendship that I have.
-B

And that is fantastic. MY point is still the same.


Do it, or forget about it.
 

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are you willing to risk a great friendship?

Telling him is a serious risk, and you have to ask yourself is it worth loosing what we have as buddies now?

Im strait, and i hug my friends, and we goof of together too. My friends have seen my piece, and ive seen theirs (well some), but were strait.

Im not saying if you tell him, he will have a negative reacrion, hell i dont know the guy, but outsides are good judges, and not considering what type of guy he is or anything, you have to consider the worst possible outcome, and that would be screwing something up with your friendship.

If you want to see his cock, say "dude i hear you have a big cock, but i dont believe it."

thats what happened with my friends so i showed them and now they do.

asking a guy to touch your muscles will not in ANY way make you gay, it really depends on if it was goofy or if it were sincere. If you are in a really goofy relationship with this guy, you know one where you just act like idiots around eachother, be careful, cuz sometimes strait guys will do something like that just to be goofy.

In my opinion, just walk it off...
 

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Kyuhaku said:
are you willing to risk a great friendship?

asking a guy to touch your muscles will not in ANY way make you gay, it really depends on if it was goofy or if it were sincere. If you are in a really goofy relationship with this guy, you know one where you just act like idiots around eachother, be careful, cuz sometimes strait guys will do something like that just to be goofy.

In my opinion, just walk it off...

We arent goofy at all. Everything is sincere. The muscles were each time "Feel how hard these are" and "Feel this, its getting huge".

I really dont want to risk what we have. But honestly you cant blame me about being curious on a guy thats ubber good looking, tall, muscular, blonde, blue, funny, artistic, athletic and just about everything else naturally to be jealous of or lucky to have.

-B
 

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Well maybe nothing will happen. The friendship isnt doing good at all now. He lies to me, bails on me, breaks promises, chances plans if we make them to do something together and only seems to come around if help or money is needed. So I dont know.....

-B
 

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There's your answer maybe.

Two possibilities from my distant vantage point--he's already feeling threatened or he's using you.

These things happen. Love between men in any shape or form is difficult, escecially in our culture. We don't really have an accepted mode of two guys caring for each other without immediately raising the rainbow flag in people's minds.