My Best Friend's Wife

[wallyj84]

This is a horrible idea. How can you do that to someone, especially someone you consider a friend.

 

[Countryguy63]

Please reconsider. Even if you won't pass because of your supposed "friendship" with her husband, there's a 99.9% chance that your secret will find it's way out, and you will potentially severely affect their marriage and all of your lives.

I'm not sure what kind of "advice" you were hoping for, but you have received the best advice that there is, over and over again....Don't do it!

 

[kit_kat]

I posted hoping for sincere and constructive feedback. Instead I received hate and judgment.

Ironically this response made my decision for me. She just texted me. I'm going to pound her senseless this afternoon.

Did you really? Good job! That divorce was long overdue anyway.

 

[kit_kat]

I've thought about that, but I just keep dwelling on worse case if i go that route. Ruin the friendship and destroy my chance at fling with really hot girl. Sometimes secrets are best.

If she wants to sleep with you, do it. Just make sure she does want to sleep with you and it's not your imagination.

Yes you will lose a friend, but you would lose the friend just based on her wanting to sleep with you without you even doing anything so...

 

[kit_kat]

Ok I am second guessing myself now. Wait. Don't do anything for now. Try to date other people who are not married for now.

 

[D_Etienne Neerdowell]

The level of stupidity here leaves me to anyoyed to advise

Agreed.

 

[averagepeck]

Hopefully your friend finds out about the two of you, divorces her, and dumps your friendship. Without knowing anything about him and at least on the surface, he deserves better than both of you.

 

[mexdude]

Yea, u really dnt care much for ur friend, if u really where a good friend, you would not only deny, but tell ur friend that his wife is not very loyal

 

[ConstantComment]

You should see the flim "the kids are alright" with Annette Benning and Julianne Moore. Even though it's about a lesbian couple, the betrayal emotions are papable. In fact, take her to see it as well.

 

[yhtang]

I posted hoping for sincere and constructive feedback. Instead I received hate and judgment.

Ironically this response made my decision for me. She just texted me. I'm going to pound her senseless this afternoon.

Since you have decided to have sex with your best friend's wife, please keep us updated. I would like to know if the outcome is as some of us predicted.

 

[ManchesterTom]

What if she dumps both of them, and then they get together. It's not impossible! It's happened before.

 

[B_quietguy]

I've thought about that, but I just keep dwelling on worse case if i go that route. Ruin the friendship and destroy my chance at fling with really hot girl. Sometimes secrets are best.

Here is where we disagree, Erik. When secrets come out - as they invariably do - they ruin people's lives. She might blab to her friends or say too much when she gets drunk or stoned. Somebody might find her cell phone and look through the old text messages. Next thing you know, her husband is mad as all hell at both of you. After that comes divorce, ruined lives, and ruined reputations.

Is that worth a fling?

I have an open, poly triad, so I don't live with secrets. If I want to have sex with somebody who is married - even married to a friend - I mention my desires to all concerned. I let my two long term partners know first. If they are okay with it, I mention it to the person I want along with his/her partner(s). If somebody is not okay with that, we discuss the topic with him or her directly. We discuss their needs and feelings about the matter.

 

[marriedasian]

of all the hot women out there to bang... you go after your friend's?

 

[joe bltsflk]

of all the hot women out there to bang... you go after your friend's?

The convenience factor?:biggrin1:

 

[Gecko4lif]

Fuck the wife.
Record it.
Give video to the husband.
Enjoy your "reward".

 

[whoknowes]

Ya know... im gonna bet hes the "double wide" type of resident... id even go WHITE TRASH... simply SAD....

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

Setting aside the moral implications here for a moment, it's really about risk vs. reward. It only pays off for him if:

1) The friend never finds out and the friendship stays intact.

2) The friend's wife really is interested and would go through with it, which may not be true even if she says she wants to.

3) Sex with the friend's wife really is that good, which he has no way of knowing until it happens.

That's a lot of ifs. It's a fantasy that he's hoping will come true, but has no way of knowing if it will even be any good. If he could somehow guarantee that the sex would be great, then he might be able to rationalize that it's worth it to him to be a asshole and risk ruining his friendship and their marriage. He might also rationalize that it seems like she might have cheated on him already. But everything would have to go "right" for him AND he's still be an asshole.

 

[helgaleena]

Fuck the wife.
Record it.
Give video to the husband.
Enjoy your "reward".

I like this one. You should write for MAD magazine. :tongue:

 

[Hockeytiger]

I have a fetish for sleeping with other men's wives. However, I have never done it with the wife of a friend. Very recently my best friend's wife made it very clear she would sleep with me if I wanted it.. She is hot as hell and physically I want nothing more than to fuck her senseless. He is going out of town for 2 weeks starting next week. I want her bad, but am scared of the implications. Anybody else been in this situation?

I posted hoping for sincere and constructive feedback. Instead I received hate and judgment.

Ironically this response made my decision for me. She just texted me. I'm going to pound her senseless this afternoon.

What implications were you afraid of? The implication that you would have to actually and literally face what you have done (guilt) or that you are betraying your friendship for an orgasm or that you might get caught and end your friendship?

Just how have the responses made your decision for you? What responses were you expecting? You described a morally outrageous behavior you were about to engage in, and people called you on it. Rather than reflect on them, you get offended and pissed off and used it as an excuse to engage in the outrageous behavior. Again, what were you expecting? Were you honestly expecting people to say, go ahead fuck your best friend's wife, its no big deal?

In the end, who you have sex with is really none of my business, but you are the one who posted about your utter disregard for societal norms. If you don't want to hear what people think, why'd you post in the first place?

Lastly, I sincerely hope this is all a bunch of bullshit. If it is true, if you are going to be a sociopath, at least, become a contract killer. The money and hours are pretty good and there's less risk of being killed.

 

[rob_just_rob]

I have a fetish for sleeping with other men's wives. However, I have never done it with the wife of a friend. Very recently my best friend's wife made it very clear she would sleep with me if I wanted it.. She is hot as hell and physically I want nothing more than to fuck her senseless. He is going out of town for 2 weeks starting next week. I want her bad, but am scared of the implications. Anybody else been in this situation?

I have been. Didn't do it.

To avoid a recurrence, I'd suggest cutting loose a few friends. Particularly the ones with hot girlfriends/wives.