My Bf Is A "narcissist" & Has Multiple Online Affairs. Why Won't He Agree To An "open Relationship"

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We've been together for over 5 years now (x69x). He is on every single dating site, VR's, webchat, skypes, sexting other women & men. He plays that he is racist and straight but, I wasn't born yesterday!! He loves ALL colors and is definitely BI. The sex anymore is monogamous & his penis isn't all that large. He's not even really my type. So with his several online whatever I need my playtime. If he doesn't agree our relationship is over.
 
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Straight up - dump his crazy ass - everyone deserves better - he is full of Red Flags and probably a couple of diseases. NO ONE is worth this. I was a high school counselor and though the teenage girls I general dealt with did not have boyfriends quite like this, my mantra was always the same for them as it was for boys with crazy girlfriends ' Run For The Hills - and don't look back!! Good luck
 

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5 years?!... what are you waiting for?... at some point the problem is yourself because you keep allowing it to happen. I don't know why you are still sticking around but any person with sound mind would have left a long time ago.
 

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We've been together for over 5 years now (x69x). He is on every single dating site, VR's, webchat, skypes, sexting other women & men. He plays that he is racist and straight but, I wasn't born yesterday!! He loves ALL colors and is definitely BI. The sex anymore is monogamous & his penis isn't all that large. He's not even really my type. So with his several online whatever I need my playtime. If he doesn't agree our relationship is over.

Because you allow it and because he wants to play around but doesn't want you to. Also playing racist is still racist and if he's not your type then leave. None of this makes sense.
 

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We've been together for over 5 years now (x69x). He is on every single dating site, VR's, webchat, skypes, sexting other women & men. He plays that he is racist and straight but, I wasn't born yesterday!! He loves ALL colors and is definitely BI. The sex anymore is monogamous & his penis isn't all that large. He's not even really my type. So with his several online whatever I need my playtime. If he doesn't agree our relationship is over.


What are you waiting for? Once a cheater always a cheater. You should've kicked him out already. A leopard doesn't change his spots.

Good luck. You gotta stop enabling him to cheat on you. And if I were you I'd be getting checked for STDs.

He won't agree to an open relationship because he knows you'll find someone better than him. Someone who'll treat you better than he does. And probably someone who is a better lay than he is. Bottom line his insecurities are the reason he doesn't want you to screw around like he is.
 
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We've been together for over 5 years now (x69x). He is on every single dating site, VR's, webchat, skypes, sexting other women & men. He plays that he is racist and straight but, I wasn't born yesterday!! He loves ALL colors and is definitely BI. The sex anymore is monogamous & his penis isn't all that large. He's not even really my type. So with his several online whatever I need my playtime. If he doesn't agree our relationship is over.
You need to talk to him not us.
 

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You gave the answer in your question - he's a narcissist. He reserves the privilege of fucking around to himself while expecting you to submit to his control by refraining from doing so.

Ultimately, if you want to resist a form of control and negotiating hasn't worked then you have to rebel against the control. Time to look wider afield whether this is as well as, or instead of, this b/f.
 

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I have to agree with other responders, but I can’t say I believe your final threat that if he doesn’t agree, the relationship is over. Pick a date somewhere in the future when you will care enough about yourself that you will extricate yourself from a toxic relationship. Don’t make it too many years ahead though, because by then your self esteem may be destroyed and you may be unable to act. Just how long do you want to be unhappy????
 
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Narcissism is about control and domination to cover for a fragile ego. He’s doing what he wants because he’s after immediate satisfaction of his needs. You’re an afterthought that he’s able to control by not letting you satisfy your needs elsewhere.
Take your power back and get rid of him.
 

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wait, wait, wait...he claims to be racist!?!!?!?

He cheats on you, you're not attracted to him, you don't like his penis, he's apparently racist.....what's the question here? Dump him. Get that pile of shit out of your life.
 
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