Greer or anyone else can attack all they want... but you simply can't change the dynamics of fucking.
One does the poking and the other takes it.
it is, for example, much harder to forcibly rape a person if you are trying to get them to penetrate you.
This basic biological reality can not help but be conflated with the simple evolutionary physics of the fact that women are, by and large, smaller and weaker than men- and that male behavior is evolved to provide physical and material protection to women and the children they bear, and so are significantly more aggressive and physically forceful... in ways that often get out of hand.
In my experience, gay men who prefer being penetrated tend to display greater feminine affect- and Gay men who prefer to dominate often show little to none. ( general trend- not to suggest that their are no outliers )
Gay fantasies of being penetrated by a 'straight' man essentially define 'straight' as being the male penetrator who will not be penetrated, and frequently involve fantasies of forcefulness and aggression.
And I can say that, in my one relationship with a woman who was sexually dominant, despite starting out with whips and collars... rather quickly evolved into her wanting to strap on a massive dildo and fuck me in the ass while she called me her bitch.
We more frequently had normative guy inside girl sex, too... but even then her fantasies and 'dirty talk' centered around the last time, or the next time she had or would fuck me in the ass.
So... despite the fact that I am sure some folks out there flip the script and manage to have the bottom dominate the penetrator...
For most folks, because of social conditioning and the actual experience of sex, the Top as Dom and the Bottom as Sub I think is the ingrained reaction.
