My Boy friend doesn't know I‘m here….

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Hi guys, first of all I (30) have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. The relationship is going great and i love him so much, but the sex has become less lately. Once a month, otherwise only blowjobs. He is constantly being overworked and that's why nothing works. That's not enough for me! I would never cheat, but I'm here now and then, read along or participate in the Circle Jerk. I always feel bad afterwards because I think I'm betraying him. Do you think it's wrong?
 

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I'm sure it's fine, all guys jerk off and watch porn, so i don't think it is much different than that. I chat to people on here and skype. My girl knows I watch porn, she's sucked me off a few times while I've been watching it, she also knows I use cam girls.
I guess it depends how open they are, one of my exes I told her nothing and at the other end of the scale I told one that I was into trans women and she actually used to send me links to videos of trans women to cum over!
I wouldn't feel guilty about it
 
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Hi guys, first of all I (30) have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. The relationship is going great and i love him so much, but the sex has become less lately. Once a month, otherwise only blowjobs. He is constantly being overworked and that's why nothing works. That's not enough for me! I would never cheat, but I'm here now and then, read along or participate in the Circle Jerk. I always feel bad afterwards because I think I'm betraying him. Do you think it's wrong?
Been in a similar situation for a few years and I get both sides of how people may view it. For me, chatting/jerking with guys here is simply a sexual outlet as I too wouldn’t cheat in person.
 

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im in same position been with my partner 9 years not had sex in ages we do blow jobs etc but really want sex but he says he just cba it effort doing the clean up etc our diets are not great and our weights are awful etc i don't care but it bothers him. your doing nothing wrong being on here my partner knows i am on here that i jerk to porn feel free to inbox me ! x
 

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Hi guys, first of all I (30) have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. The relationship is going great and i love him so much, but the sex has become less lately. Once a month, otherwise only blowjobs. He is constantly being overworked and that's why nothing works. That's not enough for me! I would never cheat, but I'm here now and then, read along or participate in the Circle Jerk. I always feel bad afterwards because I think I'm betraying him. Do you think it's wrong?

Doing something - anything - behind your significant other's back is, by definition. "wrong."

Having said that, I'll admit that I am guilty of the same. My wife would never understand my participation here.
 
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I always feel bad afterwards because I think I'm betraying him. Do you think it's wrong?

the fact that you feel bad and as though you're betraying him probably answers your own question??

it sounds like you appreciate the position he's in being overworked, but you need to have the upfront discussion with him as to how its affecting you, that you want more sex and that maybe this would be a help to you as a 'safe' outlet while he gets other life aspects sorted and you can return to your former sexual voracity??

all relationships go through ebb and flow you just need to talk and be honest with each other about your needs.