My Boyfriend left me because of LPSG

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by mxaxuxrxixzxixox, Jul 8, 2010.

  1. mxaxuxrxixzxixox

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    so heres the deal , my boyfriend checked my mac and saw the site and well its connected automatically to my profile bla bla....

    so he said he doesnt wanna be with somebody who shows his cock off online etcera to others , he says its like CHEATING to him :(

    now im really fucked off and dont know what to think...is he right? i never cheated in real life…im really sad....i dont know…:frown1:
     
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    Everyone is entitled to his own definition of cheating, but jealousy of online pictures is one of the most outrageous manifestations of insecurity. I know that plenty of women freak out over men looking at pussy and dick online, and unfortunately in the US some media coverage encourages this pathological self-destructive jealousy. But I thought that even in the US, gays would be largely exempt from crazy jealousy of online photographs. That such a phenomenon exists in Europe is astonishing to me. This guy is being absolutely ridiculous and if he's willing to throw away his chance at happiness with you over this, you're well rid of him. But let him think it over and perhaps get some sensible friend to tell him what an ass he is being. He might regret this for the rest of his life after he learns more about the real world.
     
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    I think that is absolutely ridiculous. Showing your cock off to other people online is not the same as cheating because the ulterior motive is to get off, not to pursue any romantic interest or emotional connection which should be the basis for any relationship. Give him some time to think about it and hopefully he will regain his senses
     
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    He could just be upset that you kept this from him? Personally I do not see the harm in it. If you are hooking up with people on LPSG, that would be different.
     
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    Personally, I think your other half needs to get a grip. If he was willing to leave you and end your relationship because of a website then that's more his loss then yours. Everyone has different definitions of what is considered cheating and some people do not react well to secrets being kept from them however I think breaking up with you over something like this was a huge overreaction.

    Remember - his loss, not yours. Sorry to hear of your woes.
     
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    Not cheating....you are young...either he will get over it, or it is his loss
     
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    I'm in agreement, but for a slightly different reason. I have heard that some couples check each other's cell phones, email accounts, and computers. I'm all for sharing, but participants in couples are just as intended to privacy. It would be one thing if you were caught dating and mating other guys in Internet personals, but this is a bit of a joke forum in comparison.

    Penis pictures are a bit tricky. On the one hand, just showing pictures is a sort of exhibitionism that does not mean cheating. On the other hand, people are getting to see intimate details. Is it the "hopes and dreams" stuff best left shared with partners? Not exactly the same.

    I don't know if the relationship is done and over with at this point. If it isn't, and you want some closure on this, just be clear. Affirm that you weren't doing anything inappropriate on here that would resemble cheating. If it's not believed, then let it go.
     
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    I bet he will join at some point just to see you when he realizes his mistake..
     
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    thanks so much for all ur advice guys :)

    in fact he is sayin that he doesnt want that the intimate details of my body are viewable in public .... i dont know…it really hurts beeing pushed away for that reasons....i dont know we will see…but he said he doesnt want to see me again , ever…i really really have no clue whats wrong...
     
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    You're hardly going to get an unbiased opinion from our membership, given that most of us here are displaying various parts of our anatomy! haha
     
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    Not true, I dont. I agree with the insecurity part. But I also agree how someone would be upset if they found out this secret. Its a compatability issue. No one is wrong in this case.
     
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    I did say "most".
     
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    "he is sayin that he doesnt want that the intimate details of my body are viewable in public"...

    If that isn't a manifestation of insecurity and jealousy, then I don't know what is.

    My reaction would have been: "Woah, really, you do that? Damm... let's take pics and show off togheter so we make OTHER people jealous."

    Or...

    "Ok baby, show off as much as you want, but make sure people know that big cock is taken... by me". :)
     
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    But... but... I admit at first, I would have been pissed-off cause he didn't tell me earlier.
     
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    I'd call it immaturity or insecurity. Even perhaps he's a control freak, and wants you to come running back to him. I'd say count your blessings and move on. I'd even wager he's going to crawl back, if not, no great loss !
     
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    I'm sorry for your break-up. Are you showing off on cam as well? I notice your 1st pic is labeled "c2c show-off position ;)". Perhaps your boyfriend thinks this particular activity is going too far.
     
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    Any possibility exist that he was looking for a reason to break up because the b/f has met some one else?
     
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    Blimey... I just looked at your pictures. He'll probably be back!
     
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    a fellow Mac user, huh? Do you not use the Private Browsing option in Safari?

    I also have LPSG signing in to my profile every time i type in the URL (after logging off). Haven't yet figured out how to stop this happening; it never used to...
     
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    hahaha.. no matter what other people say on this .... I will not date any exhibitionist and for that reason i never posted my private part pictures here and second reason i am a bit conservative in showing myself too....the people who are saying its ok or calling your guy amateur/insecure, they are saying this because they themselves doing it. But really it depends on you and your society you want to create. For example i have seen lots of pictures posted here on many websites and i am sure sooner or later they are found by work people friends etc.etc... Internet is not safe...lol ... but honestly why do you have to show your dick pics, when you are in a committed relationship. After all, all nudes are considered porn in today's internet world and not art....I hope he comes back to you. Best of luck.... Be sure about what kinda person you want to be with and how much care you want to show for him. and correct the title of the thread ... your bf left you because you posted your nude pictures. I had done the same if my gf had done that.
     
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