My Boyfriend left me because of LPSG

[sgtrock]

First I would address the ‘Cheating’ with him. Are you really cheating? I mean have you met any member for sex?

I think this is no more cheating than reading a cheap romance novel or porn rag and getting a hard-on then pulling yourself off. Or even getting excited by those cheap porn flicks that CineMax runs or a Victoria Secrets Catalog!

I mean really are you cheating or getting an Erotic cheap thrill?

I do have to agree that it seems like it is he who may have issues. Low self-esteem can create a bevy of problems in any relationship so I would say keep moving…

As for those members who expose themselves here I mean really you think? I do it and love it and get off every time and don’t care who is watching. This is cheaper than a whore and safer and cleaner too and for those rare occasions where someone is serious about meeting I have had three good experiences; two couples and one woman – were all ADULTS here aren’t we? I know we had fun.

Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others,[1] Cheating implies the breaking of rules. The term "cheating" is less applicable to the breaking of laws, as illegal activities are referred to by specific legal terminology such as fraud or corruption. Cheating is a primordial economic act: getting more for less, often used when referring to marital infidelity. A person who is guilty of cheating is generally referred to as a cheat (British English), or a cheater (American English).

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

"he is sayin that he doesnt want that the intimate details of my body are viewable in public"...

If that isn't a manifestation of insecurity and jealousy, then I don't know what is.

My reaction would have been: "Woah, really, you do that? Damm... let's take pics and show off togheter so we make OTHER people jealous."

Or...

"Ok baby, show off as much as you want, but make sure people know that big cock is taken... by me".

i would love to have pics with him together in here… but i mean hes watching porn and stuff and im not consider that cheatin' so whats the deal...

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

First I would address the ‘Cheating’ with him. Are you really cheating? I mean have you met any member for sex?

I think this is no more cheating than reading a cheap romance novel or porn rag and getting a hard-on then pulling yourself off. Or even getting excited by those cheap porn flicks that CineMax runs or a Victoria Secrets Catalog!

I mean really are you cheating or getting an Erotic cheap thrill?

I do have to agree that it seems like it is he who may have issues. Low self-esteem can create a bevy of problems in any relationship so I would say keep moving…

As for those members who expose themselves here I mean really you think? I do it and love it and get off every time and don’t care who is watching. This is cheaper than a whore and safer and cleaner too and for those rare occasions where someone is serious about meeting I have had three good experiences; two couples and one woman – were all ADULTS here aren’t we? I know we had fun.

Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others,[1] Cheating implies the breaking of rules. The term "cheating" is less applicable to the breaking of laws, as illegal activities are referred to by specific legal terminology such as fraud or corruption. Cheating is a primordial economic act: getting more for less, often used when referring to marital infidelity. A person who is guilty of cheating is generally referred to as a cheat (British English), or a cheater (American English).

no i wasnt cheating in real life , i was just having pictures in here posted…and sure change thoughts and stuf with other members…and maybe cam fun but thats its…

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

a fellow Mac user, huh? Do you not use the Private Browsing option in Safari?

I also have LPSG signing in to my profile every time i type in the URL (after logging off). Haven't yet figured out how to stop this happening; it never used to...

yeah mac rocks …well i dont know…im not into hiding and secret surfing i mean its my laptop …its my privacy ...

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

Blimey... I just looked at your pictures. He'll probably be back!

haha thanks

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

I'm sorry for your break-up. Are you showing off on cam as well? I notice your 1st pic is labeled "c2c show-off position ". Perhaps your boyfriend thinks this particular activity is going too far.

yeah i kinda am into cam2cam but i dont know im not touching anybody in real life…its just cybersex !

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

Personally, I think your other half needs to get a grip. If he was willing to leave you and end your relationship because of a website then that's more his loss then yours. Everyone has different definitions of what is considered cheating and some people do not react well to secrets being kept from them however I think breaking up with you over something like this was a huge overreaction.

Remember - his loss, not yours. Sorry to hear of your woes.

Not cheating....you are young...either he will get over it, or it is his loss

well for now its my loss cos im single kinda…even maybe if hes wasnt worth it…:/

 

[B_subgirrl]

no i wasnt cheating in real life , i was just having pictures in here posted…and sure change thoughts and stuf with other members…and maybe cam fun but thats its…

Although I wouldn't consider posting pics to be cheating, I WOULD consider camming to be cheating.

 

[HungThickProf]

thanks so much for all ur advice guys

in fact he is sayin that he doesnt want that the intimate details of my body are viewable in public .... i dont know…it really hurts beeing pushed away for that reasons....i dont know we will see…but he said he doesnt want to see me again , ever…i really really have no clue whats wrong...

Sweetheart, I just want to say that I'm so sorry, I really am. I will go ahead and let you know that your boyfriend has a bit of growing to do. And if he's willing to end a relationship because of an online penis site, instead of asking questions to potentially find interest in something you enjoy that doesn't hurt anyone, then that lets me know that there's: A. a lack of trust on his part (maybe he's been burned in relationships in the past and he wants the upper-hand this time- just guessing), B. he's insecure about his own size and feels that you come on this site because you have a craving that's not being satisfied by him. Just some possibilities.

I know that everyone keeps telling you "his loss, his loss" and you're wondering "Well if that's the case, why am I the one so upset?" Sweetheart- honestly- if it bothered him that much, he could have spoken to you about it- asked questions, hell- I would have even expected him to ask you if you're willing to delete your account because it bothered him that much. Instead, he dumped you. It's 2010, sex is in- and he needs to suck it up. And if he's willing to leave you over something like this, he would have left you high and dry had something really bad happened.

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

Sweetheart, I just want to say that I'm so sorry, I really am. I will go ahead and let you know that your boyfriend has a bit of growing to do. And if he's willing to end a relationship because of an online penis site, instead of asking questions to potentially find interest in something you enjoy that doesn't hurt anyone, then that lets me know that there's: A. a lack of trust on his part (maybe he's been burned in relationships in the past and he wants the upper-hand this time- just guessing), B. he's insecure about his own size and feels that you come on this site because you have a craving that's not being satisfied by him. Just some possibilities.

I know that everyone keeps telling you "his loss, his loss" and you're wondering "Well if that's the case, why am I the one so upset?" Sweetheart- honestly- if it bothered him that much, he could have spoken to you about it- asked questions, hell- I would have even expected him to ask you if you're willing to delete your account because it bothered him that much. Instead, he dumped you. It's 2010, sex is in- and he needs to suck it up. And if he's willing to leave you over something like this, he would have left you high and dry had something really bad happened.

Thank you thats really sweet of you i kinda feel virtually hugged or somethin'

 

[docilej]

too bad you're not in CT,usa

 

[B_RedDude]

Your (former) boyfriend sounds prissy and insecure. With a boyfriend like that, you might as well date women.

 

[HungThickProf]

Thank you thats really sweet of you i kinda feel virtually hugged or somethin'

I do that to people Don't worry, kiddo. Everything will be fine- just keep your head up. And if you need someone to talk to, you know where to find me

 

[closetbi]

EH, I wouldn't let my significant other find out that I use this site.

 

[rheno]

I'd call it immaturity or insecurity. Even perhaps he's a control freak, and wants you to come running back to him. I'd say count your blessings and move on. I'd even wager he's going to crawl back, if not, no great loss !

Oh god, ULTIMA ONLINE!?

To the OP, your BF is overreacting. Although I can see that most people would be startled by their partner being on LPSG. Hopefully he needs some time to process it.

 

[Countryguy63]

Well, my bf and I are both on here with galleries, and we both cam on chat. Pics in a gallery is NOT cheating!!

Because he is being so unreasonable, it sounds like he is using this as an excuse. I'd be willing to bet that he has other reasons.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

You're 21 dude. I know it can be painful, but you've got time on your side. :smile2:

 

[lowellstud]

You should have him go through the site with you, and show him that not all the posts are about sex, and that other topics are discussed on here as well. Yes, there are pictures of cocks on here, but so what? That's all it is...like you said, you are not meeting up with anyone in person. If you were JO with guys on cam, I could see him being a bit upset, but it is still not that big of a deal.
If you guys get back together, suggest setting him up with his own profile on here, and you take the pictures for it. Could end of strengthening your relationship in the end.

 

[HungThickProf]

Well, my bf and I are both on here with galleries, and we both cam on chat. Pics in a gallery is NOT cheating!!

Because he is being so unreasonable, it sounds like he is using this as an excuse. I'd be willing to bet that he has other reasons.

I agree with you, boo boo

 

[B_VinylBoy]

You're hardly going to get an unbiased opinion from our membership, given that most of us here are displaying various parts of our anatomy! haha

I'm not. Just two g-rated photos on my profile and for personal reasons I won't post nudes. Hell, I haven't even taken a shirtless photo and posted it on the internet yet and I've been going to sites like this for more than 15 years now. :redface:

mxaxuxrxixzxixox: I can see why a partner would be a little miffed about their BF or lover being on the site. In some ways it's like going to a cyber bathhouse with all this access to nude photos and live chat, plus the ability to hook up with people around here if you really wanted to is pretty high. That would intimidate anyone who is a bit worried about their relationship and whether or not they would lose you to another. At the same time, breaking up over a dick shot on a website seems like too much. IMO, looking and staring is one thing. You can't tell someone not to use their eyes for what they are intended for. If you and your BF are in a committed & monogamous relationship and you don't physically act out on it then you're fine. At the same time, to make your BF feel better about things you may want to come to some kind of compromise as to what would be acceptable to show and what wouldn't be. Grant it, I love looking at the dick shots like anyone else around here. But to be brutally honest, my absolute favorite shots are ones that are more provocative and leave to the imagination.

And I'm an old schooler who used to do IRC on 300 baud modems when it took nearly an hour to get a photo sent to you. Sexy face pics always do it for me. :wink:

Hope you and the BF can work things out!