My Boyfriend left me because of LPSG

[iluvbigheads]

well first of all, everyone who has a profile here and wrote something here about this topic will suggest its not cheating or something similar to justify themselves...the truth of the matter is they have a profile here and will always lean toward a liberal point of view - that is the common factor of all users, everyone here will say its not cheating and its ok.

However, many people out there would view this as somewhat immoral to have profiles on sites like this, posting of nude images of yourself or others, etc and to many its not a desirable quality in a partner.

I would view the hiding of the use of the website or anything similar as deceptive and probably would exit the relationship, but certainly give it much thought as to the reasoning. Furthermore, personally I do not have interest in dating or loving someone who uses these sites because I tend to regard it as rather immoral act, while the site itself is likely harmless, the character of the partner would come into question (in my mind, I would be asking, well why does he come here, why didn't he say anything and why is there pics of his cock all over the internet, does this guy have no shame?).

So if you really care about this boyfriend and want it to last, I would suggest you delete the profile and go be happy with him. And this has got nothing to do with having a big cock by the way - any one can find one, I can list off over 10 that I know personally. The issue is associating with a site that is sexual in nature and the hiding of it to avoid being detected, using the site for a sexual purpose, etc.

 

[big_tits4big_dicks]

I can understand him being a little hurt, maybe that this was something kept from him. But breaking up and never wanting to see you again? Did some one hurt him before? Maybe with cheating and deception? It just sounds like this is not his first time with something like this, so he overreacted a bit. A lot of people would not consider it cheating, but would find it upsetting behavior all the same. Some people think that their partners bodies in a way "belong" to them, not literally, but if they find out someone else is looking at their toy, they get mad.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Some people think that their partners bodies in a way "belong" to them

Some people -- a lotta people think that shit.

 

[citr]

I don't know, I think camming/cybersex does cross some kind of line. Seems like there's a least a whiff of intimacy there.

I don't have pics here because I know it would hurt my partner. Sometimes I want to show off my penis because it's the only exceptionally attractive physical trait I was blessed with, and generally growing up I always felt fat and ugly and insecure, but I resist that impulse out of my feelings for her. We're in a serious long-term relationship, and while we don't profess to "own" each other (unless we're being naughty), we do view our genitals as something intimate and special that is shared only between us. Maybe that's really conservative, but I think it's an understandable position.

 

[Tense0000]

not cheating

 

[HungThickProf]

well first of all, everyone who has a profile here and wrote something here about this topic will suggest its not cheating or something similar to justify themselves...the truth of the matter is they have a profile here and will always lean toward a liberal point of view - that is the common factor of all users, everyone here will say its not cheating and its ok.

However, many people out there would view this as somewhat immoral to have profiles on sites like this, posting of nude images of yourself or others, etc and to many its not a desirable quality in a partner.

I would view the hiding of the use of the website or anything similar as deceptive and probably would exit the relationship, but certainly give it much thought as to the reasoning. Furthermore, personally I do not have interest in dating or loving someone who uses these sites because I tend to regard it as rather immoral act, while the site itself is likely harmless, the character of the partner would come into question (in my mind, I would be asking, well why does he come here, why didn't he say anything and why is there pics of his cock all over the internet, does this guy have no shame?).

So if you really care about this boyfriend and want it to last, I would suggest you delete the profile and go be happy with him. And this has got nothing to do with having a big cock by the way - any one can find one, I can list off over 10 that I know personally. The issue is associating with a site that is sexual in nature and the hiding of it to avoid being detected, using the site for a sexual purpose, etc.

Well damn.

 

[concupisys]

i'm not in a relationship, but i have several friends who question my online activities and some of the websites i surf.... granted: nobody's about to break up with me over it, but across my spectrum of friends there are many who look at me very differently once they realized some of the darker places i visit on the internet.... what stops those people from thinking i'm a pervert in a BAD way are a couple of things:

1. it's not something i keep secret from anyone
2. i use the utmost discretion when visiting those dark places

to the OP: i would advise you in future to be more candidly open about visiting this or similar sites with people you meet who you may find yourself hooking up with.... get it out there early on, and discuss it intelligently without treating it like a joke.... next i would advise you to increase the privacy settings on your computer.... if there's ANYTHING on it that you think would put a relationship in question, lock it up and put a password on it.... privacy is not something one expects; it's something someone has to create for themselves.... lastly: if you're not a prude, don't date a prude.... it will only bite you in the ass (or not... tee hee....) in the end....

 

[clipper1]

I'm sorry his feelings were hurt, but I'm glad you posted shots of that hot cock.

 

[LUVBIGBLK1]

Maybe he was looking for an excuse,to get out of the relationship and was cheating himself

 

[Tense0000]

Maybe he was looking for an excuse,to get out of the relationship and was cheating himself

Maybe not an excuse, but a guilty conscious that takes it out on this situation.

Good job LUV

 

[vlls]

so heres the deal , my boyfriend checked my mac and saw the site and well its connected automatically to my profile bla bla....

so he said he doesnt wanna be with somebody who shows his cock off online etcera to others , he says its like CHEATING to him

now im really fucked off and dont know what to think...is he right? i never cheated in real life…im really sad....i dont know…:frown1:

u prob need to find a new bf that has the same views with you on this... i cant see how it can last with this guy if hes of that mindset

 

[MagicJohnsonFan]

He could just be upset that you kept this from him? Personally I do not see the harm in it. If you are hooking up with people on LPSG, that would be different.

What she said.

 

[mxaxuxrxixzxixox]

thanks 2 everyone who posted on this thread! u are soooo lovely

so heres the update!

we talked today about everythting and this site and stuff ! BUT He just confessed being on a gay dating site searching for sex actually ! WTF1
but explaining it with a psychological issue he has…WTF2?

Well now he wants me back and he is so so sorry for everything and he loves me bla bla…so but im not gonna TAKE HIM BACK? AM I?…:/

 

[B_subgirrl]

thanks 2 everyone who posted on this thread! u are soooo lovely

so heres the update!

we talked today about everythting and this site and stuff ! BUT He just confessed being on a gay dating site searching for sex actually ! WTF1
but explaining it with a psychological issue he has…WTF2?

Well now he wants me back and he is so so sorry for everything and he loves me bla bla…so but im not gonna TAKE HIM BACK? AM I?…:/

What a great ending for you! Definitely don't take him back. Not only was he actively trying to cheat on you, he has double standards! He was probably trying to cover up his own guilt by having a go at you. Honestly, I would have considered camming to be cheating personally, but not a major offense. He was attempting to really, really cheat. You're definitely better off without him. Time for you to get out and have some fun I think :smile:.

 

[novice_btm]

It totally sounds like he has more issues than feeling that you "cheated" by belonging to a website. OK, so he doesn't want you showing your cock. What next? You must always wear a shirt, so that no one sees your sexy body? No tight shirts, because they show how fit you are?

I don't see any problem with cam2cam. To me, it's just interactive porn. 99% of people that you end up chatting with are nowhere near you anyway.

If he was on a dating site, then most likely HE was thinking about cheating, and is throwing his feelings of guilt onto you, to make himself feel better.

 

[B_bi_mmf]

I would not recommend walking away necessarily. Now that you have achieved a new level of honesty with each other, keep talking and see where it leads you. With what were secret desires now out in the open, just maybe your relationship will end up stronger than it was before.

 

[crescendo69]

You are both still growing; give it some time to settle.

 

[Capitolhillguy]

Some guys associate sex only with love like women and most guys associate sex with sex. Unfortunately as with straight couples, opposites often attract.

 

[concupisys]

to the OP:

blimey.... hearing about how this situation unfolded makes me think that you and your friend have a lot to discuss, but out of the context of a relationship.... it sounds as though your friend also needs a friend (NOT a boyfriend), and someone who can tell him like it is about the activities he's been involving himself in.... seeing as you're both still pretty young, you may want to try hanging out together out of the whole boyfriend context and do for each other like good friends do.... if you're not attached, then you can be more free to express your opinions and have differences of opinion without it affecting any serious relationship you might be having together.... it can either bring you closer together, or change the nature of your bond together.... goodness knows: i've become very good friends with many people i've had sexual relations with, and it's surprising to experience how the whole notion of being boyfriends goes out the window without a second thought or any regret.... whatever you do, don't create any bad atmospheres and don't do anything out of vengeance or spite.... that only makes you look like a pussy and will affect the potentiality of future relationships....

 

[B_New End]

I remember when I was younger, met a girl, and she told me she had to do a nude shoot that week.

I was jealous and upset, but I tried to make it into a positive in my mind.

Best 5.5 years of sex in my life. :smile:

If he don't understand, find someone that will.