My Boyfriend left me because of LPSG

[BINGME]

ughhh this site is how come to terms with me being bi and my girlfriend found the site on my tablet... it was hard to deal with still dealing with it actually now she doesnt trust me around guys or girls...

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

Personally, I think your other half needs to get a grip. If he was willing to leave you and end your relationship because of a website then that's more his loss then yours. Everyone has different definitions of what is considered cheating and some people do not react well to secrets being kept from them however I think breaking up with you over something like this was a huge overreaction.

Remember - his loss, not yours. Sorry to hear of your woes.

+1

I would also be pissed the fuck off about the snooping and permanently turned off by the insecurity. Absent some proof or valid suspicion, I figure we're together as equals, and must trust in each others judgement and respect for the terms of the relationship. Monitoring activities or claiming some ownership of the other goes against that basic foundation... if someone tried that with me, I'd resent them for it. Either you trust in me and trust in my commitment to our relarionship, or we're over.

 

[185248]

So your boyfriend split because of LPSG? I'm thinking it is because you could not be honest with him or yourself. Besides, I'm pretty sure you are over it by now...three or so years later. Now don't I feel like a dick for answering. I'm sure there is someone that is hired by LPSG to go round bumping old threads

 

[Phil Ayesho]

kind of a biased group to ask, innit?

in fact, anything you do in secret from your mate that involves your sexuality and another person or other people is a form of cheating.

As your committed mate, they have a reasonable expectation of exclusivity in that arena. If you have not openly discussed such things and come to some understanding about it... it is perfectly normal for both of you to expect that exclusivity as the defacto norm.

Being on a cam with some other guy is no different than being naked in a room together and watching each other wank. How would you feel if you walked in on your mate doing that with someone else?

Moreover... if you didn't know that your mate felt this way about such things, that suggests you are pretty disconnected from him... which may be a contributing factor to his feeling of being cheated on.

But... if you are to be brutally honest with yourself... You absolutely KNEW that he would not find this acceptable.

That is absolutely why you HID IT FROM HIM. You obviously never told him, never cruised the site with him present... you kept him in the dark about pictures you were taking and posting of your cock...

c'mon... admit it... you actively intended to hide this conduct from your mate... and THAT means that you, yourself, knew it to be something of which he would not approve... and/or that you yourself were ashamed of your doing it.


Your mate was right to feel betrayed and cut out of your inner life.
You got dumped because you deserved it.


ETA- he didn't leave you because of LPSG. He left you because you were concealing a sexual secret from him.

 

[erratic]

Yeah, asking a group of people who like showing off their junk whether someone who disapproves of you doing that is justified is kind of like asking an auto exec if there's such a thing as global warming.

Of course there's nothing wrong with showing off your junk per se; but if you're doing it and concealing it from your partner, I don't think you should be surprised if your partner is upset when they find out. In fact, that's one of the main reasons why I don't have pictures on here and why I talk about the site with my husband.

I wouldn't personally equate the OP's behaviour to cheating, but it's not the kind of secret I'd be happy to hear my partner was keeping, either. If I were a few months into a relationship, it might be break-up worthy - depending on how it came to light and how my partner dealt with it.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

Instead of leaving you he should have joined the site so he could supervise lol its 2013. Porn and cybersex aren't going anywhere. If he's liberal enough to be homo then he should be liberal enough for lpsg.

What makes you think homos are inherently liberal?

The GOP is lousy with hidden conservative homes who are perfectly willing to support a party that obstructs their rights.

If the GOP were attacking Rich guys... you wouldn't find ONE rich republican.

 

[Teb8807]

I think along the same terms as your boyfriend, I guess. To me, my boyfriend posting naked pictures of himself online would an invitation to having cybersex with other guys, and I don’t want my boyfriend beating off to other guys. While other people have their opinions, cybersex and sexting is considered cheating to me, and there is no reason for you do so if I’m fulfilling your needs. If I’m not, talk to me about it and if it’s something you can’t come to terms with, leave me.



My personality is hard-wired to be attracted mentally and sexually to 1 person at a time, and I would rather breakup with somebody than to cheat on them.