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Wishing you all the best.We are going camping next week, with him and few friends, so i will try to confess my feelings again.. Wish me luck..
Wishing you all the best.We are going camping next week, with him and few friends, so i will try to confess my feelings again.. Wish me luck..
We are going camping next week, with him and few friends, so i will try to confess my feelings again.. Wish me luck..
Don’t be drunk when you talk to him. I know it’s tempting but if you’re both drunk neither of you are getting the real person and reactions are exaggerated.
Try speaking when sober and prefacing it by admitting you are being vulnerable with him right now and would appreciate him listening and giving you his honest reaction... and no matter what, the friendship you have is the most important thing and you don’t want to lose that.
When I was younger I had a lot of deep feelings for my friends, both male and female. While intense, over time they would sublimate into genuine loving friendship, not a crush or unrequited love.
As I’ve gotten older, I have gotten better at speaking openly and directly with straight male friends and admitting love and attraction for them. All are flattered, all say they love me too, none has indicated interest in any sexual interaction, even when I have put the option explicitly on the table.
To preserve your friendship, be prepared for your buddy to listen to you, accept you, but not entirely reciprocate your intense feelings. If you can’t handle that, then you shouldn’t say anything.
I think this is the most beautiful thing ever. I say that because I have been in an "almost exact: same situation when i was a couple years younger than you.... I am 36 now. My advice to you is to let things evolve and present themselves naturally. I can say this as someone from the future. Enjoy every minute of this period of your life. Continue to Cherish your relationship with this person and just let things happen..... if it is meant to be. Perhaps he IS just trying to process what he has just learnt and perhaps he does feel the same as you do as a previous poster wrote. And Maybe not. But either way, you have thrown it out in the universe and now you have to see if it comes back to you. The fact of the matter is that you do not know where he stands with his sexuality and that is not something you want to press. Love is love... but sometimes it cannot be a sexual love.... From the bottom of my heart I really...REALLY hopes this works out for you in the way that you are hoping because it seams as if you two share a magical connection.
Please let us know what happens after your camping trip.
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Wow, thanks for your geniue response.. its killing me the line between friendship and relationship if you know what i mean.. sometimes he acts like my friend, but sometimes he doesn’t want to let go.. i tried to distant him from myself, but he always comes back.. he never let go. I bought him a present few mouths ago, a bracelet, and since then he is wearing it all the time. Once he said: i never wear things i don’t appreciate. He only wears my braclet, and a ring from his mom.. i only want to know what does he feel.. im not trying to get in bed with him.. i just love his existence around me.
Btw, we talked since that party, and he said that he was trying to take a rest from everybody. He was feeling kinda pressured for some reason and he needed a time for himself.. I thought he was trying to distant himself from me.. but i guess everything its okay.
I hope i have the gut to finally confess my feelings for him.. any ideas on how to confess my feelings without destroying a friendship?
And his birthday its coming soon. Any ideas for a present?
Oh please, take the hint. When he says he's taking a rest from everybody - that means you and yes, he is trying to put distance between you without being hurtful. Stop 'confessing' your feelings, you've already done that twice, it's weirding him out. Just carry on as before and don’t verbalise everything but probably too late for that.Btw, we talked since that party, and he said that he was trying to take a rest from everybody. He was feeling kinda pressured for some reason and he needed a time for himself.. I thought he was trying to distant himself from me.. but i guess everything its okay.
I hope i have the gut to finally confess my feelings for him.. any ideas on how to confess my feelings without destroying a friendship?
And his birthday its coming soon. Any ideas for a present?
Don’t do it. In my, and the majority opinions here you shouldn’t share your feelings as it will change your relationship forever. I know it’s hard, really hard! But it’ll ruin what you have right now and you’ve had a taste of that already. I’ve been in the exact position as you And it messed everything up. I was outed and shunned by not just him but everyone. We never really spoke ever again and even now, 15 years later, if I saw him it would be extremely awkward and difficult. Just think about what you’re doing.We are going camping next week, with him and few friends, so i will try to confess my feelings again.. Wish me luck..
Honestly mate, listen to us. Enjoy the time you’re spending together, live in the moment and don’t over think things. It will evolve into what it’s meant to be whether it’s a strong friendship or a relationship but you have to leave it get there. If you force it, it won’t work. how do you know that he isn’t massively confused about why he feels so strongly about you and he’s trying to work things out in his own time? If you then add the ‘three little words’ to the mix then he’s just going to focus on you being the problem and not only detach himself from you but possibly make him regress so he over presents as straight so the same thing doesn’t happen again!Wow, thanks for your geniue response.. its killing me the line between friendship and relationship if you know what i mean.. sometimes he acts like my friend, but sometimes he doesn’t want to let go.. i tried to distant him from myself, but he always comes back.. he never let go. I bought him a present few mouths ago, a bracelet, and since then he is wearing it all the time. Once he said: i never wear things i don’t appreciate. He only wears my braclet, and a ring from his mom.. i only want to know what does he feel.. im not trying to get in bed with him.. i just love his existence around me.
Btw, we talked since that party, and he said that he was trying to take a rest from everybody. He was feeling kinda pressured for some reason and he needed a time for himself.. I thought he was trying to distant himself from me.. but i guess everything its okay.
I hope i have the gut to finally confess my feelings for him.. any ideas on how to confess my feelings without destroying a friendship?
And his birthday its coming soon. Any ideas for a present?
Well, we were on party, both drunk, i told him to take a walk outside the party. I didn’t know what to say. I felt like the shyest person alive. So i strarted with: “you know what, I don’t feel same with you like I used to”.. and that’s what I’ve told him. I didn’t confess that night my feelings to him. He started do put pressure on me. He was saying: “tell me”, “why are you like that” etc etc... he was angry with me...
The next day, there was another party, so I made sure i was enough drunk to tell him my feelings. So, I asked him to take a walk with me outside the party. I told him: “i love you and I don’t wanna lose you”. And I hugged him. He didn’t say anything, and he was like “okay”. I expected a little much but nothing happened. Since then we don’t talk like we used to.. I think he is trying to distance me from him. And it hurts.
The true definition of Bromance, though fictional the characters, loved each other ( platonically ) . Often It is hard to distinguish emotional love , from sexual love