My buddy constantly talks about my size to everyone

[wnjcwjkk]

While I really appreciate everyones comments of support on this thread, this post by moonlightnbg really vibes with me the best. I still dont know exactly how to handle the situation, but taking in information and opinions has been super helpful, I'm still digesting it all and will see what comes out.

Agree, I think he hit the nail on the head

 

[AusWang85]

You've got some great advice here. Maybe I'll throw in too that maybe he's into sph?

I will need to read this thread properly when I have more time but @rtg could be on the money here. I was never really aware of sph until coming on this site, but maybe he has those sorts of feelings and its new to him? he seems to be handling the knowledge in a pretty odd way imo.

 

[rtg]

I will need to read this thread properly when I have more time but @rtg could be on the money here. I was never really aware of sph until coming on this site, but maybe he has those sorts of feelings and its new to him? he seems to be handling the knowledge in a pretty odd way imo.

Yeah... I never knew about it either until coming here. A lot of guys into sph seem to get off and enjoy the fact that they are smaller than other men... and love to talk about that. It seems like this could be it.

 

[Rick50]

I think this original story belongs in the fiction section. The writer is penis obsessed.

 

[Rick50]

I don't mean to one up you but...

I have a problem that is similar but worse.

My sister.

Yeah. Awkward. She found out about my size from a previous hookupe of mine who turned out to be a friend of hers. If I had known I never would have hooked up with him.

Well one night I was out with my sister and a friend of hers when I was about 30 or so when my sis just says point blank "I hear you have a really big cock. Do you?"

I was floozed and couldn't answer. But she began to giggle and said something like "your silence speaks volumes."

Every once in a while when she gets tipsy she'll tell people about it. Very awjward.
One time we were out at a bar when a really cute guy came up to us to chat up my sis. Dhe was tipsy, and I am not kidding here...she just days to him out oftheblue. .."Are you gay? This is my brother. He's gay. He's got a huge cock too. Like really big. You should fuck."

God I wish I was making this up. I've talked to her about how incredibly inappropriate this is. When she's sober. .. no problem.

Needless to say I rarely go out to the ba with her now.

Fyi...we are both adopted and not related by blood. That's the only reason I forgive her this behavior.

Sister needs to do something about her drinking, man

 

[mtguy1972]

Derek wants to suck your cock. Or at the very least, see it.

 

[AusWang85]

I also fully support the vicarious pride theory... your friend is "boasting on your behalf" because he feels a sense of pride in having a well hung bro. He admires you for that - and his verbal "outbreaks" are his attempt to chip in on having a big dick. He identifies himself with your dick - it symbolises the masculine ideals which he sees in himself.
However, I wouldn't be as harsh to him as others here have suggested. He is paying you a great sign of respect in his own way. Take it as a compliment - in his own mind he imagines a large penis to be a source of constant joy and pride and he wants you to enjoy it the way he imagines he would if it were his penis.
Instead of "laying down the law", maybe try a more subtle approach. Talk to him about your size - it is what he wants to hear. And then maybe tell him how uncomfortable you feel when he starts talking about it in public. Appeal to his honor bound duty as a bro to help you deal with the "problems" of being reduced to your penis size. And make the size issue to something which is just for the both of you. He can rave on about your size as much as he likes when you two are alone; but other than that it is a no-go.

This seems most likely imo. Plus i maintain there could be a bit of sph going on too, although perhaps your buddy doesn't even realise it? I don't have any similar example (for one, i'm not all that big!) but there was a rumour when i was at university amongst a few of my sister's close friends that I was hung (i think they were being very generous based on one girl i was with once who thought i was a bit big). It was so awkward when my sister hinted she had heard that! She never asked me if it was true or details, thank god. Nothing as bad as what you are experiencing!

I think for your bud its like the 'one thing' he wants but doesn't have. He can't get a dick your size but he can brag about it for you, and perhaps because he is so successful in life maybe he likes being sub/lesser on one area? Hence the sph angle??

Just a random thought.

 

[AusWang85]

Derek wants to suck your cock. Or at the very least, see it.

Don't see how you can say he wants to suck it. See it at a long shot imo.

 

[LargeInLife]

I completely agree. He does have a lot going for him and this is kind of that "one thing" he can't really get or earn despite his privledged upbringing and opportunities and stuff.

The SPH thing is an interesting idea. I don't have a lot of experience with this, but back when I used to run my blog (the one about sex advice for the well endowed) which I currently took down. I used to get hit up all the time by men who wanted me to be with their wives, and they all really enjoyed the "superiority/inferiority" element to it all, wanting to compare and such.

This totally seems like my friend. I can absolutely see him desiring that deep down (probably would never admit it).

This seems most likely imo. Plus i maintain there could be a bit of sph going on too, although perhaps your buddy doesn't even realise it? I don't have any similar example (for one, i'm not all that big!) but there was a rumour when i was at university amongst a few of my sister's close friends that I was hung (i think they were being very generous based on one girl i was with once who thought i was a bit big). It was so awkward when my sister hinted she had heard that! She never asked me if it was true or details, thank god. Nothing as bad as what you are experiencing!

I think for your bud its like the 'one thing' he wants but doesn't have. He can't get a dick your size but he can brag about it for you, and perhaps because he is so successful in life maybe he likes being sub/lesser on one area? Hence the sph angle??

Just a random thought.

 

[LargeInLife]

But there is one other element I forgot to mention that adds more information to the story for y'all to consider.

A couple years back, my girlfriend (now fiancé) and I were having a relaxed Sunday after a big party. It was summer, and we were spending the day floating and drinking by the pool in the sun. My friend Derek came by to hang out with us and we were just chilling and having a good time.

Now Derek is a super handsome guy, more handsome than me, but my girlfriend is a 10 (in my opinion) and way out of my league. He at one point in a drunken night even admitted to me that he finds her incredibly attractive and has definitely fantasized about fucking her, which I just took as a big compliment because he is very respectful of our relationship and would never touch her or violate our trust. He just drunkenly admitted that he wants to fuck her, and I respect him for being honest. She's hot. She looks quite similar to Emily Ratajakowski.

Well flash back to that day at the pool, my girlfriend and I got super horny and wanted to go upstairs and screw around but I didn't want to be rude to my friend and tell him to go home. So she just blurted out "hey Derek, we're gonna go upstairs and fuck!" And I was shocked, and he was shocked, and my girlfriend just pulled her sexy bikini clad body out of the pool, and headed up stairs taking me by the hand.

Well our bedroom was on the other side of the house facing the street, not facing the backyard, so we figured we could be as loud as we wanted. So we're doing our thing and it was a good sesh, you could say the force was strong in me that day, and I was pleasing her about as well as I ever could have. And she was vocal about it. Very vocal about it. Moaning and screaming and shouting out some of the nastiest dirtiest things you have ever heard come out of a woman's mouth while we fucked, she was squirting, having multiples, and just really in the zone that day and part way through I could hear the front door open and realized that Derek had gone outside to grab something from his car and there was a chance he could hear a preview of our business.

After we finished, my girlfriend ended up leaving to go home and I spent the rest of the day chillin with Derek by the pool.

We'll later on either that day or another day he admitted that he had heard us fucking, and he straight up asked me what I was doing to her because he said "in my days I've never heard a woman moan like that." And I didn't ask him, but I'm quite positive that he has thought about that memory more than once.

I forgot that even happened until I was thinking about Derek and this odd scenario of him bringing up my dick all the time...

 

[LargeInLife]

I think this original story belongs in the fiction section. The writer is penis obsessed.

You're correct. I am, no shame. At least I'm honest about it.

 

[FRE]

The reason your friend keeps talking in front of others about your penis is irrelevant. The fact is that it makes you uncomfortable. Why it makes you uncomfortable is also irrelevant. What is relevant is that it makes you uncomfortable and that your friend persists in doing something that makes you uncomfortable. Here is what I suggest.

Every time he mentions your penis in front of other people, firmly and immediately admonish him for doing so. Tell him firmly and immediately that such talk makes you uncomfortable, that you have asked him several times not to do it, that not considering your comfort shows disrespect for you, and that he must stop. It might help to practice exactly what you will say. Unless others respect what you have said, leave IMMEDIATELY to get the message across. If that doesn't permanently solve the problem, you must evaluate which of the people you associate with are really your friends.

Not everyone would feel as you do. Some blokes would enjoy the attention. Obviously you don't, and that's fine and should be respected. People who are really your friends will respect your feelings, wishes, and sense of values.

 

[Prowl]

A real man handles his problems. Stop treating a big dick like your mothers skirt and hiding behind it.

If he went around talking about you having a small penis or being ugly, you'd shut it down ASAP.

If he went around boasting about how successful you were, how big your house was or how good you were at fighting you'd learn to take a compliment. If he over did it, you'd tell him to back off. (If you can't do it for even those kind of compliments, then you clearly have self worth issues and are wayyy too much of a people pleaser.)

Fact is, you haven't shut it down because you don't want to shut it down. Figure out why, then become a man about it

 

[San Clemente]

Bla bla bla with all the babble bullshit, bottom line he wants to suck ur dick.... And given the chance u wud let him

 

[GreekXL]

I have the opposite "problem". My best bud knows what I'm packing (from gym showers back in the day to sharing hotel rooms today) and likes to joke with our mutual friends that I have a tiny cock. I usually smile and don't bother correcting the record.

I think a lot of straight guys try to be complementary using reverse psychology ... Blurting out "my bff has a huge dick" can come across strange.

 

[rtg]

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Fyi...we are both adopted and not related by blood. That's the only reason I forgive her this behavior.

What does being adopted have to do with it? My brother and I are both adopted but he's still my brother...

 

[EquusAZ]

What does being adopted have to do with it? My brother and I are both adopted but he's still my brother...

In all fairness nothing really. It's just something I say to calm myself down a little from it.

 

[Lucius2s1]

I also fully support the vicarious pride theory... your friend is "boasting on your behalf" because he feels a sense of pride in having a well hung bro. He admires you for that - and his verbal "outbreaks" are his attempt to chip in on having a big dick. He identifies himself with your dick - it symbolises the masculine ideals which he sees in himself.
However, I wouldn't be as harsh to him as others here have suggested. He is paying you a great sign of respect in his own way. Take it as a compliment - in his own mind he imagines a large penis to be a source of constant joy and pride and he wants you to enjoy it the way he imagines he would if it were his penis.
Instead of "laying down the law", maybe try a more subtle approach. Talk to him about your size - it is what he wants to hear. And then maybe tell him how uncomfortable you feel when he starts talking about it in public. Appeal to his honor bound duty as a bro to help you deal with the "problems" of being reduced to your penis size. And make the size issue to something which is just for the both of you. He can rave on about your size as much as he likes when you two are alone; but other than that it is a no-go.

Agree with this.

 

[902369]

bromos are annoying

 

[Galloper]

If it really bothers you, tell him, If it doesn`t, enjoy it.