Here's some background information about my friend and me: Me: Bi, basically not out to anyone at all, and leaning toward the masculine side. I'm not homophobic to the public eye, and many of my college friends know me as being a gay magnet with a good gaydar. When asked about my sexuality (it happens occasionally), I just casually say that I'm straight without being or seeming offended. People believe me. I have friends who identify as gay/lesbian/bi/whatever ("queer"? I don't know all the terminology), and my extended groups of college friends are generally pretty open about people of various sexual orientations. I've had girlfriends, but never a boyfriend, per se (though I've had a couple FWB situations that were not too bad). I place a high value on friendships. My friend: We've just been friends since the beginning of this school year. He's Japanese and can speak English (I'm proficient enough in Japanese that we can switch between the two regularly). He claims to be straight, but appears to many people to be gay (etc.) based on his mannerisms and ways of speaking, among other things. I also believe that he is not straight, and I think he knows for the most part that I don't "mind" my friends' sexualities. (Of course I "care" about the issue because it's interesting to me, but I don't seek out friends of one sexual orientation over another.) Anyway, he is not the best-looking guy, but there is a cuteness to him that I really enjoy. We have become close friends. He's stayed at my apartment multiple times (even in my bed) when it was too late for him to get the bus back to his host family's house (far from our school), though nothing sexually has actually happened. (The fact that he's stayed over is known by many of our friends, and it is assumed by them that nothing "happened".) As you can tell, I'm interested in my friend. Like I mentioned, he's not necessarily the best-looking guy, but something about him is cute. His personality is what does a lot of it for me... Our chemistry is great: he has a more submissive personality, mine being more dominant or masculine. There is a good amount of banter that goes on between us, both in front of our friends and in private. We trust each other and often ask each other for advice. I haven't made any moves, per se, but I've wanted to for a while. I occasionally sense something from him toward me, but I never know what to do with it. I think he is very shy about some of his true feelings. A few days ago, he suggested that we go to see a movie and go ice skating together at the mall (presumably just the two of us -- that is, without our other friends tagging along). I don't know if he has feelings for me exactly like I do for him, though I wouldn't be surprised at all if it were so, and I often entertain the idea. I really want something more between us. We are already close, and I feel like our relationship has a lot of unlocked potential. Assuming that each of us has feelings for the other, I don't want to do something or bring it up in a way that will harm our relationship. I actually want to go further with it, but I wouldn't want to somehow fail and make our friendship awkward. Does anyone here have a similar experience or any words of wisdom for me? If you'd like more clarification on my situation, just ask, and can provide it.