My Female Perspective, Swinging, And Marriage

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My husband had me look at this site and offer my thoughts/experience. I consider myself an average American wife. I am not a wild swinger type nor was I someone promiscuous in college or after that. I of course did have some sexual experience and was certainly no prude. I never really thought about the size of a man’s’ penis until a group of my female friends one day in College all went together to a drive-in that was showing an x rated movie. We went there as a lark and of course thought much of the movie was either gross or funny. However, there was one scene where I did notice we all were silent for a minute or two when this extremely well-endowed black guy unveiled his penis and then proceeded to have sex with this thin skinny girl. We all finally started laughing and joking about it but secretly I imagined that something like that would hurt and not feel good at all. Yet, I wondered as the woman in the movie seemed to be enjoying herself. So yes there was curiosity but nothing compelling about it overall. In other words, I didn’t give it much thought after we all left and it was more about our doing something taboo together than what was observed.

I met my husband through a blind date and ironically I don’t think either of us really liked each other at first. But, circumstances changed as we were seeking some companionship together and became more comfortable with each other. I can’t say there was that one moment where we realized we were truly in love it just sort of mutually developed. In terms of our sex life which I know is the point here, it was fun and good. Again, I never really thought about the size of his penis, it was just his and perfectly fine. I use to call it his cobra because of the way it curved up when erect. Actually, I think for me and most women the hardness was what I thought was important and him knowing how to do oral. I liked also using a vibrator when he is inside me and that really can do the trick. I also liked the look of his penis, as he is circumcised and it has a nice shape.

We eventually had a son and as a mother I can tell you websites like this or all the pornography on the internet is of great concern. It is one thing to seek out an adult site for interest as an adult but you can hardly go online or even on your phone and not eventually get bombarded with some type of porn pictures. I guess that is the culture we now live in but I wish I could really protect my young son from being exposed too much early on to the things that are out there. However, having said that my husband would often encourage me to share in his fantasies or watching videos, etc sometimes as foreplay. Did I get off on watching porn? Not really. I think back and as several situations that have occurred I think it was more about pleasing him. But, I can say that some videos were stimulating and others pretty gross. No offenses to some, but there really are some ugly penises out there that I am glad I never had to encounter. However, there are many men with much bigger penises than I realized and it seems what people say is an average size maybe is kind of small. My husband is just average and after seeing so many pictures, or some of these videos, the spam that I can’t avoid, it did make me sometimes think what a bigger penis might feel like. However, don’t misinterpret, I don’t think men and women focus on body parts in the same way. Well at that time I didn't.

Over time, my husband started encouraging me to stimulate him in foreplay, by hand, or oral with me talking about having sex with another man. He would want me to fantasize and share about bigger penises than his, how they impressed me, how they would feel better, and so on. Was that really a turn-on for me? Probably not, but again if it made him excited then I was happy on occasion. At first, though, I was uncomfortable saying these kinds of things because I was afraid it would make him upset or feel less loved or inadequate. However, the way he responded or encouraged me to share was hard to avoid. Plus, it really turned him on what I would say these things. For instance, he would sometimes in bed have me looked at a video or pictures and compare his penis to the guys in those (which were always bigger). I also learned that if I wanted him to cum during intercourse to start talking about how a bigger penis would go much deeper, how it would feel bigger than his, etc. What eventually started occurring though was me really wondering about it for real.

Right now I am busy but will share more when I have the chance.
 
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My husband had me look at this site and offer my thoughts/experience. I consider myself an average American wife. I am not a wild swinger type nor was I someone promiscuous in college or after that. I of course did have some sexual experience and was certainly no prude. I never really thought about the size of a man’s’ penis until a group of my female friends one day in College all went together to a drive-in that was showing an x rated movie. We went there as a lark and of course thought much of the movie was either gross or funny. However, there was one scene where I did notice we all were silent for a minute or two when this extremely well-endowed black guy unveiled his penis and then proceeded to have sex with this thin skinny girl. We all finally started laughing and joking about it but secretly I imagined that something like that would hurt and not feel good at all. Yet, I wondered as the woman in the movie seemed to be enjoying herself. So yes there was curiosity but nothing compelling about it overall. In other words, I didn’t give it much thought after we all left and it was more about our doing something taboo together than what was observed.

I met my husband through a blind date and ironically I don’t think either of us really liked each other at first. But, circumstances changed as we were seeking some companionship together and became more comfortable with each other. I can’t say there was that one moment where we realized we were truly in love it just sort of mutually developed. In terms of our sex life which I know is the point here, it was fun and good. Again, I never really thought about the size of his penis, it was just his and perfectly fine. I use to call it his cobra because of the way it curved up when erect. Actually, I think for me and most women the hardness was what I thought was important and him knowing how to do oral. I liked also using a vibrator when he is inside me and that really can do the trick. I also liked the look of his penis, as he is circumcised and it has a nice shape.

We eventually had a son and as a mother I can tell you websites like this or all the pornography on the internet is of great concern. It is one thing to seek out an adult site for interest as an adult but you can hardly go online or even on your phone and not eventually get bombarded with some type of porn pictures. I guess that is the culture we now live in but I wish I could really protect my young son from being exposed too much early on to the things that are out there. However, having said that my husband would often encourage me to share in his fantasies or watching videos, etc sometimes as foreplay. Did I get off on watching porn? Not really. I think back and as several situations that have occurred I think it was more about pleasing him. But, I can say that some videos were stimulating and others pretty gross. No offenses to some, but there really are some ugly penises out there that I am glad I never had to encounter. However, there are many men with much bigger penises than I realized and it seems what people say is an average size maybe is kind of small. My husband is just average and after seeing so many pictures, or some of these videos, the spam that I can’t avoid, it did make me sometimes think what a bigger penis might feel like. However, don’t misinterpret, I don’t think men and women focus on body parts in the same way. Well at that time I didn't.

Over time, my husband started encouraging me to stimulate him in foreplay, by hand, or oral with me talking about having sex with another man. He would want me to fantasize and share about bigger penises than his, how they impressed me, how they would feel better, and so on. Was that really a turn-on for me? Probably not, but again if it made him excited then I was happy on occasion. At first, though, I was uncomfortable saying these kinds of things because I was afraid it would make him upset or feel less loved or inadequate. However, the way he responded or encouraged me to share was hard to avoid. Plus, it really turned him on what I would say these things. For instance, he would sometimes in bed have me looked at a video or pictures and compare his penis to the guys in those (which were always bigger). I also learned that if I wanted him to cum during intercourse to start talking about how a bigger penis would go much deeper, how it would feel bigger than his, etc. What eventually started occurring though was me really wondering about it for real.

Right now I am busy but will share more when I have the chance.

Thanks for your honesty and your thoughts!
 

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Our sex life petty much continued in this fashion although of course not every time we had sex did we talk or engage in this type of conversation. But, it did happen quite a bit. Then, one day my husband came home with a large dildo and wanted to watch me masturbate with it. What guys don’t understand (and he didn’t) is that inserting a dildo and pretending it is a penis really is just OK versus a vibrator or clitoral stimulation. So, I did sit in a recliner chair and rub myself and then insert the dildo and let him watch and masturbate to me doing this. Again, this was OK, but the next time, I told him I would prefer he do oral on me and use the dildo at the same time rather than me doing it myself. This then became a routine foreplay for us when we would have sex. In fact, I frequently had an orgasm this way. Of course he would try to push the dildo in deep or ask me to compare the feeling of the dildo to his penis. Did it feel better? Not really. But, again it would turn him on more if I said it did. So, every time we have had sex this has almost always been the process before intercourse and I like it that way.

Sometimes my husband would encourage me again, during this foreplay part to talk about me fucking a big penis while he used the dildo pretending it was one on me. I would close my eyes and actually by my having repeated some of these stories he desired it did create a fantasy about it. But, I never really was that explicit with sharing at the time of what I secretly imagined. I can say now, I would picture an older man with a very thick penis dominating me. I guess it was influenced by all these big penis videos, pictures, my husband’s fantasies, whatever that facilitated this. Or maybe I had some thoughts along these lines and he just brought it out. However, I never told him this particular detail and instead just comments he liked.

One day my husband came home and showed me on the computer this nude man with several pictures of his erect penis either having sex with a woman or receiving oral or one or two just showing him erect. My husband asked me what I thought and I said he definitely was big. My husband told me he would like us to meet him? I was beyond shocked at my husband and told him no. Then I asked if he was serious and who was this person anyway. My husband told me that he had visited a swinging contact site on the computer including well-endowed men (sound familiar) and had started a correspondence with this guy, Tim, who lived in our city. They had exchanged pictures and I got very upset asking my husband if he shared my picture. My husband denied doing that but I wasn’t so sure. My husband said that Tim wanted to meet us. Again at first I totally refused. My husband was disappointed but knew not to push me. Over the next few weeks though, he had me look at some of Tim’s pictures and compare his cock along with me telling what I thought it would feel like. I really didn’t describe anything different than how I usually did with my husband but I will now admit it sometimes did stir my curiosity.

On a Saturday morning, my husband informed me that Tim had invited us to meet for lunch and would I please just do a social meeting nothing more. I didn’t want to but my husband pleaded with me and promised we would just meet and leave. I warned him that I would not do anything else but meet and inwardly I was annoyed and perhaps embarrassed. So, we drove later and met Tim. I hardly talked and didn’t know what to say. However, Tim was a gentleman and didn’t sit and talk about sex as much as about things he did in general, where he grew up, the dating scene as a single man, etc. On occasion he might of asked me a question or two but my responses were very brief. He eventually commented that I am shy and I simply shrugged my shoulders. However, I did find him to be a reasonable attractive, clean, older man. He did not act inappropriate and one of my pet peeves is clean finger nails and his were manicured. We finished lunch and Tim asked if we would be interested in meeting again and that was it. When we driving back my husband asked me what I thought about our meeting. I did share that I thought Tim was nice but I doing something sexual did not feel like a need.

Noting else was mentioned by my husband about Tim for several weeks except that they still were in touch. Tim did want to know what I thought about him and I told my husband it was fine to share that I thought he was very nice. My husband said that Tim was very interested in me because I was shy and reserved not like typical women in his swinging world. That did make me feel good.

Once or twice when we had sex, my husband would bring up Tim but it was more like wouldn’t it be fun or exciting rather than seeking me to go into any descriptive details. It was on a Sunday late morning that my husband came from him office room and said Tim just invited us over to his home later if we wanted to have a drink and chat. He added that there was no pressure but just to stay in touch as friends. I guess I was in a good mood that day or maybe I was horny, but I said OK.

(To be continued)
 

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When I look back at how things progressed I can’t really recall my thoughts when we first drove to Tim’s house except that I was not nervous. My husband said if things were to lead to any type of sexual activity we could strictly leave it at hands or the most oral. I know I must have had mixed feelings but also a certain excitement. In any event, I felt that I did have control on whether I was going to do a hand job or not and thought I likely would not get undressed myself. I was again indulging my husband’s fantasies but I can’t say I wasn’t stimulated by the naughtiness or adventure of what we were doing together. Perhaps, the sharing is what was important or maybe I must admit to being a bit submissive.

Tim invited us in and I was glad to see that he was showered, and he lived in an upper class very fancy house. His home was impressive and the only thing that didn’t match was Tim being dressed casually in shorts and a tee-shirt. He had a bottle of wine that he opened and we all sat and chatted for a little while. At first the conversation was innocent enough about how long we had lived in the area, our earlier lives, how my husband and I met, etc. My husband handled most of the conversation as I am not a big social talker. However, it was my husband that eventually steered the conversation to sex. My husband asked Tim, how long had he been a swinger, how that started, and about his experiences. Tim shared how he liked to be with happily married couples where he could spice up their relationship but finding many normal couples was hard. He also shared that he was somewhat of an exhibitionist since he was well-hung and enjoyed showing it off. He asked me if I had ever had sex with a well-endowed man and I just smiled shaking my head no. Tim explained that he was not seeking to ruin any marriages and that again it gave him joy to be able to provide pleasure. I do remember he shared that many woman make this pleasurable awww face when he first enters them and although I kept a straight face inwardly it excited me.

My husband paid attention to Tim’s comment about enjoying showing his big penis off and asked would he show us? I felt a bit uncomfortable with my husband saying this. Tim, however without any delay stood up and then said to me to take his shorts off. Honestly, when he made this request I felt no nervousness at all and just got up walked over to him took a hold of his shorts and pulled them down. I didn’t anticipate that Tim was not wearing underwear amd was startled when his penis flopped out. I stood back a bit away from him and looked at his big soft penis. I probably hadn’t looked closely that much at the pictures my husband had shared because the first thing that was obvious was Tim was not circumcised. His penis was very thick and hung down and quite frankly looked very impressive. I don’t know that I had ever seen a man with a big penis like this still soft. I think it might have even been longer and was certainly thicker than my husband’s erect penis even though it was soft. I heard my husband with a very excited voice ask me what I thought of it. I just replied saying it was big. My husband then said to Tim how envious he was of it and that life isn’t fair. Tim laughed and looked at me and said you can touch it. Without any hesitation I reached out and grasped it in my hand. It was heavy and filled my hand. What surprised me was how easily the foreskin slipped back away from his head and then over it dependent upon how I moved my hand. It felt very squishy and I could see it was growing slightly larger. It felt and looked very different than my husband’s penis (or those few before) and the bigger size did look good on his body. I found it attractive and masculine in the way it hung off his body. I let go and Tim sat down on a wide couch and lay sideways. He said let me see if can get it hard and started to masturbate. He only did this for maybe 15 seconds and then looked over at me and said I could use some help. I was excited to touch it again and the couch was large enough for me to sit right next to him and I began to masturbate him. He still was not getting real hard after a minute and seemed frustrated. He suddenly got up and said let’s go where it will be more comfortable and we headed into is bedroom.

The first thing I noticed and actually joked about was how high the bed was off the ground. It was a King sized bed but almost to a level where you would have to climb up rather than slip down to get on it. There was plenty of room for me to get to the side of him and continue playing with his penis. In the meantime my husband sat over in a chair a bit away from the bed. Now in this environment and position, Tim grew hard in my hand expanding out. Finally, he removed my hand, and held his erect penis straight up away from his body while lying on his back and said what did we think. Wow it was so long and thick. I could only comment that it looked much bigger than what I had seen in the pictures. It’s a lot bigger than mine I heard my husband excitedly comment. When I looked over at my husband he also was masturbating. Now I will be honest that all of this was getting me very stimulated and so I sat right back next to Tim and with a lot of curiosity I leaned over and took his penis into my mouth. It was thick and I was afraid my teeth would scrape it and so I had to suck on him gently and slow. My husband said nothing but I could hear his hand moving up and down on himself. Tim gave a soft moan and said that feels good. It felt a bit funny to me to sometimes feel the foreskin slide forward into my mouth and back again. But, I liked how elastic his penis felt and so fleshy and I remember thinking it felt like a big heavy wet sponge I also will admit I could feel myself getting wet below.

Tim reached over to massage my breasts through my clothes. Since both Tim and my husband were naked it actually felt odd now to be the only one dressed. So I sat up and removed my top and my skirt although keeping my panties on. I looked at Tim’s penis several times and I can’t explain the sexuality of it, but I felt a desire to have him inside. It was like I had all this masculinity in my hand, so manly and bigger than my husband that there was a warm feeling below or a lust that I felt. Whatever I was experienced I felt now practically no inhibition when Tim moved his hand down to rub my vagina. In fact, it propelled me to remove my panties so what he was doing would feel better. There was now total silence and Tim slipped a finger inside. That did it. I didn’t want that finger I now had an overwhelming lust to feel his penis inside me. I asked if he had a condom and I don’t recall even looking around to see if this was OK with my husband. He had put us into this situation and now I wanted to have the experience. Again any inhibitions were completely gone.

Tim got up off the bed and walked to a dresser drawer while I just marveled at how big his penis looked sticking straight out. In fact, I remember making the mental note on how his penis was perfectly straight while my husband and the few men before him all had some type of curve. I wondered did the long and thick size cause that and smaller penises lighter weight allowed them to curve up. In any event, Tim got back and went between my legs and started doing oral while again inserting his finger inside me. We were like this for only a minute and I had enough, I needed him in me. So, I just looked up at him and said fuck me. Tim gave me a big smile and I watched him slip on the condom. My husband got up and moved to the side of the bed to watch. I had almost forgotten he was there until then. I now looked at him but I wasn’t going to stop.

Tim took control and spread my legs apart. But instead of getting on top of me he moved to where he was sideways like we were an upside down T. I was the line and Tim was the upside down T. I could feel the head of his penis moving around the entrance to my vagina and then he simply and surprisingly easily slid right in. Wow, it felt really good. I surprised myself actually when I blurted out and told Tim to fuck me deep. Tim immediately moved his body to gain further access and I could feel his penis way inside and a sensation I had never experienced before. Now, other women may be different although I doubt it, but you can’t exactly tell the depth of penetration as much as it just is a very deep feeling. What also felt wonderful was I could feel every part of his penis slide back and forth even as wet as I was. I could definitely tell the difference in thickness and his size made the sex very exciting. The other thing that I was feeling was how well Tim could fuck. He was thrusting really hard so you could feel the power and he would slide deep and then withdraw and thrust deep quickly again. However, a couple times when he did that it slid out I found that a bit annoying. So, I said keep it all inside. Tim then moved to a missionary position and really fucked me hard and was making a lot of grunting noise. He then started kissing or blowing his warm breath into my ear and with the position, his powerful thrusts, my being totally filled and dominated sexually was such a rush that I could feel an orgasm swelling inside. Tim grabbed my butt cheeks and slammed harder and harder as I shook and without any touching of my clitoris I had a deep amazing orgasm. This had never happened before and it was to me a more intense feeling and a feeling of closeness with a man. The pleasure sensations were almost maintaining that orgasms intensity as Tim continued to fuck me deep and hard. I said to him, you are an amazing fuck, just amazing. He leaned over and whispered to me that I was clearly built to handle a big penis because of how easy I was taking it all. I patted him on his back like a thank you. With that I felt his penis sort of come alive like it was quivering and I knew he was having his orgasm. He thrust several times so hard that the noise of our bodies colliding was really loud. But, over that I heard my husband moan and I knew he was cumming too. Finally, Tim slowly withdrew and moved to lie next to me. He quickly took the condom off and I looked at his penis which was still like it was erect. I remember thinking how I took all that had been inside me without any discomfort. I told Tim that it sure felt good and he simply said that he was there to please me. We stayed quiet like this for a minute of two resting and then I got up and went into his bathroom. When I came out after cleaning myself, both my husband and Tim were standing naked and having a conversation. I remember laughing to myself how there was like so much difference in the sizes of their penises which were face to face. Tim went into the bathroom and my husband asked me how I was doing. I knew he might feel insecure so I gave him a kiss and said that I was fine but we should leave. My husband and I quickly got dressed. When Tim came out he acted a bit surprised that we were dressed and asked me didn’t I want to fuck again. I looked at him and realized he was meaning right now. I smiled and told him that I couldn’t handle any more and jokingly grabbed his penis looking at it and saying thank you.

On the drive back my husband asked me if I would want to do this again with Tim. As my husband knows now, I was worried that he might feel insecure. In fact, the next time my husband and I had sex he asked me if his penis could even begin to satisfy me anymore now that I had experienced a much bigger one. I reassured him that his was fine which indeed it is and was. Over the course of several months my husband when we would have sex would ask me during the act to describe the feelings of Tim’s big penis fucking me which I did honestly as this would always turns him on. After these several months my husband said he would like us to get with Tim again and at the moment I am unsure.

So I can say as a female that size can definitely matter but I think attached to the right guy who knows how to use it. If Tim had been a man that doesn’t take care of his hygiene, or mean in personality than his having a big penis wouldn’t matter one bit. Yes, I think physically in appearance a big penis looks nice. But, I also think the unique situation helped. It was simply different. Now, my husband isn't upset as Tim actually fucks better because of his control and ability to go deep and hard. That doesn't diminished the pleasure one bit our own sex life at all. My husband feels great, I have orgasms with him from oral sex first, and I don't even care for long lasting intercourse. if we don't meet Tim again I would be fine. However, the ice is broken and so I am not opposed to it either especially because my husbands wants to do so. The experience has turned him on so much and if it makes him happy I do have to consider it anyway.