The one thing that I really want is a dildo that looks and feels almost like the real thing. But I can't get that because I don't want people to come over my place and find something that is obviously a sex toy. So I want something that's more 'portable', something I can travel with and the customs people won't exactly know what it is. Some questions for the ladies with experience in this field: > should I get something that has a vibrate function? I'm guessing that vibrations will probably numb that area but am I right? Or do vibrators get the job done quicker? > should I get something with a rough or smooth surface? > Any suggestions on what I should get?