Resolution: Well, I think so.
So i saw my female friend tonight and we hung out and talked for awhile. Then she said, "you know, what happened between us. I kind of felt like there was a connection." I was so happy she said it because I definitely felt one too. I don't think she was prepared for it. She said she didn't want to go out on a date or anything she just wanted to see what was there. We went upstairs, and had slow and intensly passionate sex. It was one of the rare moments in my life where we could really inticipate each other. It was so unlike the experimental nature of our threesome. We could not stop kissing each other. It was one of those real sexual connections. We don't know what's going to happen, but it was amazing. And I'm pretty happy.
That's so great, I'm really happy for you; I've known a bunch of girls that I think fit your description - beautiful, vivacious, a ton of fun, but always dancing to their own beat, never fully connecting with you emotionally - and I have to say, getting one of those girls is just fucking fantastic (I dated one for a year, still sort of with her to this day).
Also, I completely understand what you mean by saying this doesn't make you gay or bi. In my past, I've had a few experiences with men that never went beyond kissing (and one quick BJ in a bathroom, but the guy was totally taking advantage of me by offering my drunken-ass a bump, and I left quickly once I realized what was happening), but I now know I have no interest in men sexually; I can certainly find a man attractive, but before I ever kissed a man, I didn't know if I would like it or not, and now I know.